My Sexless Marriage

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  Posted by Mag Sat Jul 4, 2009 4:16pm PDT

  what really matters is if YOU can be happy in a sexless marriage since it is not my marriage.

  I am a big fan of sex.....marriage? Not so much.

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  Posted by Joboo027 Sat Jul 4, 2009 6:03pm PDT

  do you know if there is a medical reason for you husband to not want more sex? has he been this way the entire time you have known him? if not, i would ask him to check a complete check up, just to be sure there is no medical issues holding him back. the only way a sexless marriage works is if BOTH of you want it that way. and that doesn't sound like you want it that way. so lacking a medical reason the 2 of you need to have a VERY serious talk about what you both want and need and come to some compromise so you both will be happy. good luck. David

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  Posted by JeffB Sat Jul 4, 2009 11:58pm PDT

  life is to short.

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  Posted by fiction Sun Jul 5, 2009 4:37am PDT

  "Discover it ... channel :-)"

  .

  Legend of Earthsea

  609

  00:49:13,616 --> 00:49:14,870

  Well done, Ged.

  610

  00:49:15,152 --> 00:49:16,857

  Look at these, everybody.

  611

  00:49:18,910 --> 00:49:20,962

  Perfect... diamonds.

  612

  00:49:21,887 --> 00:49:24,087

  And these... are for you.

  613

  00:49:30,111 --> 00:49:32,164

  Well, that didn't last long.

  614

  00:49:32,419 --> 00:49:34,920

  You didn't expect it to stay that way,

  did you?

  615

  00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,239

  Why should it not, if the

  magic is strong enough?

  616

  00:49:37,300 --> 00:49:42,089

  Because to change, a rock in to a jewel

  you must change its True Name.

  617

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  It can be done.

  But it should NOT be done.

  618

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  Not even to a single grain of sand until

  you know the good or evil that'll

  follow.

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  I don't understand. Good or evil, isn't

  it just turning one thing into another?

  620

  00:49:53,297 --> 00:49:58,297

  If the island of Earthsea were turned

  into diamonds, how many people do you

  think would survive?

  621

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  Things are...

  622

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  as they are...

  623

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  for a reason.

  624

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  At least you must understand that reason

  before you decide to change them.

  625

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  - That's fine. But I still want to know

  how to do it.

  - I'm sure you do, Ged. I'm sure you do.

  626

  00:50:10,947 --> 00:50:12,487

  But you will not learn it here.

  627

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  Not... until you learn true wisdom.

  .

  Here there are two large sophisms. Hard to see for some people and easy to see for other people. Nope, it is not interpretable. There are two large sophisms... two common mistakes and also large causes of evil in our society... but, I will not tell you precisely where :-) You must "discover it" by yourself... lol

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  Posted by fiction Sun Jul 5, 2009 4:44am PDT

  Obviously, if you like puzzles :-)

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  Posted by another hockey fan Sun Jul 5, 2009 7:57am PDT

  Well, most of us know that hot and heavy doesn't last forever. At least not in the same way it did when you first met. BUT, I do believe that if two people love each other (and I know you said you love your husband) and hopefully he still feels the same way about you, you should be able to talk about this problem and come to some understanding and mutual agreement. If you cannot talk to him about it, then you may have to seek counseling with or without him to at least get your frustrations out. Good luck :-)

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  Posted by Eileen Sun Jul 5, 2009 10:36am PDT

  Hot and heavy rarely lasts. But your husband should be willing to meet you halfway so that you're both satisfied. If you don't feel like he's at least making an effort, then no, you won't be happy.

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  Posted by KittyKat Sun Jul 5, 2009 6:56pm PDT

  I've only been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and already our sex life has diminished to at least once a week. And it sucks.

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  Posted by princess Sun Jul 19, 2009 8:30pm PDT

  This is a tough one. I've been married for 21 years now and our sex life sucks! He's content and I am NOT. I quit giving it to him and when he starting bitchin, I said pick a different position or let me do what I want or your not gettin anymore. Some days he says OK and it's much better but usually its the same old BS. But for you, I would say: Try talking to him - I know that sometimes talking to them can be impossible so if that's the case leave some Viagra on his pillow and see what happens. If he questions you (but you haven't gotten anywhere talking to him) then flat out say "try it or come up with something! Your driving me nuts!" If still no change, I don't know. Maybe you can try what I did. Good luck - I know how you feel. Much peace and love :)

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