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Sunday, September 7, 2008

Naked: In praise of the quickie

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I said, "Are you serious?" and I was laughing and he kept kissing my neck as he propelled me back against the sink, and kicked the bathroom door closed behind us. I don't know that either of us had the presence of mind to actually lock it, but I wasn't worried about that at all--I wasn't worried about anything, because the sudden, spontaneous, wonderfully risqué quickie in the bathroom of a wine bar was one of the hottest moments of my life. I felt a little crazy, a little dirty, and unbelievably desired and desirable and sexy. The urgency, the need it now, need you now is heady, and wonderful.

It is magical, because it is purely the moment, or few moments, of absolute physicality. That is your body, there, providing that kind of pleasure and passion, inspiring that kind of lust and need. Your body is perfect in that moment, and perfectly beautiful, being used exactly the way it ought to be used--a merging between your mind and your hormones and your skin.

You become you, without that awful divide that so often happens--you versus your flawed and imperfect body, where your body becomes an Other, something to fight against, something to fret about, something to improve or fix. There's no time for that--and it doesn't even exist, any more.

It's the kind of state that, ideally, we should all exist in--a wholeness and a completeness. Though it would be difficult to spend your entire life having sex. Not that I'm not willing to give it a try. But there should be a way to recapture that, in our every day lives. Surrendering to, throwing ourselves into a quickie is a way to remember that.

So I am a fan of the quickie. Are you? Have you ever? Tell me, what's the best you've ever had, and where? How can we capture that feeling all the time? Now, go ambush your sweetheart and remember that feeling.


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  • Suzanne's Avatar
    Posted by Suzanne Fri Aug 8, 2008 10:48am PDT

    Oh I know what you mean... I have yet to experience the spontaneous public quickie, but occasionally my boyfriend will catch a glance of me doing something random (housework, cooking, brushing my teeth), and typically that random thing involves me bending over, and he'll just come over and say something like "Nice ass." And he says it with that tone of absolute authority and desire. When he does that, I know I would pretty much have to fight him off of me at that point (which I never want to do). I'll be sweaty, no make-up, in my grungy clothes, and he might as well make a caveman voice and say "SEX NOW!" I love it. I eat it up. You're right, at that moment, I don't care about how AWFUL I must look in whatever position I'm twisted into, what's jiggling, what's not jiggling, whatever, it just doesn't matter. It's the simple fact that right then, at that moment, my boyfriend's head was going to explode if he couldn't have me. And I love that. :)

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  • megagirl4ever's Avatar
    Posted by megagirl4ever Fri Aug 8, 2008 10:55am PDT

    well on a recent camping trip with my boyfriend, his mom and sister and our other friends, my b/f eric, and our other friends were down in a lake around 12ish and we kinda swam off to behind a rock and started fooling around but didn't do it....

    so when we got out i went behind some rocks to change into warmer clothes and he followed, so we had a little quickie up on a rock, me sitting and him standing..it was awesome!! hahahaha it felt dangerous especially since we could've been caught!! hehe

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  • chipkck's Avatar
    Posted by chipkck Fri Aug 8, 2008 10:59am PDT

    I love quickies, especially where the risk of getting caught is involed. I was having an affair with a married co-worker several years ago. A group of us met for dier and drinks one night after work, her husband included. After several drinks I excused myself and went to the bathroom. When I came out she was standing in front of the ladies room waiting for me. I walked over thinking to sneak a quick kiss. Well she grabbed me and pulled me into the ladies room. I lifted her up onto the sink and pulled her pantyhose and panties down. We had a quickie ad I returned to the table. A short time later she returned and nobody ever suspected a thing, including her hubby.

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  • mrsrobinson's Avatar
    Posted by mrsrobinson Fri Aug 8, 2008 11:03am PDT

    In the walk-in refrigerator at work- took about 5 minutes for both of us. We were so HOT! The staff either did not care or were too busy to miss us. He was a line cook and I was a bartender.

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  • Mary H's Avatar
    Posted by Mary H Fri Aug 8, 2008 11:29am PDT

    Nooners. I actually just came back from one! I work down the street from my apartment and sometimes when my guy is working in the area he sends a text to let me know and we meet for "lunch". Then I head back to the office for the rest of the afternoon. My dirty little secret. I love it!!

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  • claudizzle6's Avatar
    Posted by claudizzle6 Fri Aug 8, 2008 11:35am PDT

    i just had a pushed into the bathroom experience myself! I LOVED IT!

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  • msmega2's Avatar
    Posted by msmega2 Fri Aug 8, 2008 12:40pm PDT

    WOW! They are so fun and exilerating! My favorite was with a someone whom I had shared a sexual tension with for a couple of years. All of a sudden one day when he was at my house to do some work for me we were walking down the hallway to the office and instead of going into the office he pulled me into my bedroom and pulled my skirt up, wrapped my legs around his waist held me up against my wall and kissed me (trying to keep me quiet! lol!) continuously so that my roommate and the kids wouldn't hear how well he was pleasing me!!! That was the first of many to come!

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  • mimi's Avatar
    Posted by mimi Fri Aug 8, 2008 1:14pm PDT

    I too love quickies. I can't say they are my favorite but they are up there on the list. It always makes it better if the is a chance you can get caught. I worked at a restaurant were I was a cook and I was messin' with another cook. We would go out on the back dock behind the cardboard dumpster. It was so fun. Then there was my buddy who has a motorcycle. We were jus supposed to go for a ride. I went for a ride alright. Next thing I knew I was bent over a tree in the middle of the woods on a trail. A man was walking his dog. I felt like I was in highschool again. It was so fun. Then the next night I found myself bent over a railing of a pavilion at another park. Needless to say I love going for a ride. I love quickies in the car. Parks are my favorite. It can be broad daylight. I figure what is the use in having it if nobody ever sees it. LITTERALLY!!!!

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  • mimi's Avatar
    Posted by mimi Fri Aug 8, 2008 1:15pm PDT

    I too love quickies. I can't say they are my favorite but they are up there on the list. It always makes it better if the is a chance you can get caught. I worked at a restaurant were I was a cook and I was messin' with another cook. We would go out on the back dock behind the cardboard dumpster. It was so fun. Then there was my buddy who has a motorcycle. We were jus supposed to go for a ride. I went for a ride alright. Next thing I knew I was bent over a tree in the middle of the woods on a trail. A man was walking his dog. I felt like I was in highschool again. It was so fun. Then the next night I found myself bent over a railing of a pavilion at another park. Needless to say I love going for a ride. I love quickies in the car. Parks are my favorite. It can be broad daylight. I figure what is the use in having it if nobody ever sees it. LITTERALLY!!!!

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  • sunshine94578's Avatar
    Posted by sunshine94578 Fri Aug 8, 2008 4:21pm PDT

    quickies on a freeway are the funniest, i used to brainstorm crazy places for quickies. try it its fun. just dont get busted by the cops... thats not so fun

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