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Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Naked: In praise of the quickie

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I said, "Are you serious?" and I was laughing and he kept kissing my neck as he propelled me back against the sink, and kicked the bathroom door closed behind us. I don't know that either of us had the presence of mind to actually lock it, but I wasn't worried about that at all--I wasn't worried about anything, because the sudden, spontaneous, wonderfully risqué quickie in the bathroom of a wine bar was one of the hottest moments of my life. I felt a little crazy, a little dirty, and unbelievably desired and desirable and sexy. The urgency, the need it now, need you now is heady, and wonderful.

It is magical, because it is purely the moment, or few moments, of absolute physicality. That is your body, there, providing that kind of pleasure and passion, inspiring that kind of lust and need. Your body is perfect in that moment, and perfectly beautiful, being used exactly the way it ought to be used--a merging between your mind and your hormones and your skin.

You become you, without that awful divide that so often happens--you versus your flawed and imperfect body, where your body becomes an Other, something to fight against, something to fret about, something to improve or fix. There's no time for that--and it doesn't even exist, any more.

It's the kind of state that, ideally, we should all exist in--a wholeness and a completeness. Though it would be difficult to spend your entire life having sex. Not that I'm not willing to give it a try. But there should be a way to recapture that, in our every day lives. Surrendering to, throwing ourselves into a quickie is a way to remember that.

So I am a fan of the quickie. Are you? Have you ever? Tell me, what's the best you've ever had, and where? How can we capture that feeling all the time? Now, go ambush your sweetheart and remember that feeling.


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  • myre's Avatar
    Posted by myre Thu Aug 14, 2008 3:01am PDT

    uhhh..!!!wow!! ilove too...quickie me nd my lover loves quickie hehehe..sometimes we go to our favorite place then we make love even we feel nirvouse,,we didnt go to bed where just standing,where too HOT!!!then we go home fast..weloved it!!!

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  • christine's Avatar
    Posted by christine Thu Aug 14, 2008 12:39pm PDT

    very very hot i recommend everyone should try one.i have had a few,but the i can not forget.was in a library in Windsor Canada in the elevator . i meet this hot hot man at a strip bar he was a dancer{they dance totally nude}we meet the next day at the library.wow that was fun.the next encounter was on the stage after hours!!!!!!!

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  • 51/50's Avatar
    Posted by 51/50 Fri Aug 15, 2008 4:17am PDT

    i love quickies!!! the last 1 was with a married man, so there was definately some guilt after. it happened like a story n a dirty book. he was coming by 2 pick up a dish i had cooked 4 a dinner i was unable 2 attend. i opened the door, and he grabbed me put his hand on the back of my neck, fingers n my hair. i had been saying no 4 weeks, because he was married. i was powerless 2 stop it. the sex was great!!! i havent had it that good with someone i was in a relationship with, since my early 20's, women in their 30's like spontaneous public sex 2!!

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  • Tigerlily's Avatar
    Posted by Tigerlily Fri Aug 15, 2008 11:04am PDT

    I like putting on a skirt with no panties underneath, sitting down on my mans lap, allowing him to cop feel and one thing leads to another....thats my favorite, quickie time!!

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  • unknown's Avatar
    Posted by unknown Fri Aug 15, 2008 1:14pm PDT

    quickies are good. and when your in a relationship their needed to keep that spark. if i had it my way i would have sex with my wife every time i look at her.

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  • Marvelous Menu's Avatar
    Posted by Marvelous Menu Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:55pm PDT

    Quick and easy is good enough.

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  • Angel's Avatar
    Posted by Angel Sat Aug 23, 2008 9:16pm PDT

    oohh.. i hve that moment too, when me was sleeping beside my sister . so sudden my bf come and kiss me and we hook-up beside my sleeping beauty sister... i so affraid if my sister wake -up bu ti also so excited for a quick romance

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  • suky's Avatar
    Posted by suky Fri Oct 17, 2008 4:59am PDT

    Quickies are lovely. Isn't that what Erica Jong meant by the "zipless f--- "? I've had a lot of quickies, because I love casual sex; the earth may not move, but there's another kind of delight. Some discos . . .

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  • Kydex's Avatar
    Posted by Kydex Mon Dec 7, 2009 7:46pm PST

    The best quickie I've ever had? Every one of them. My wife never turns me down when I need her, no matter what. I have to be careful what I ask for, because she'll give it to me whether or not it's what she would prefer. It's love that makes the quickie go 'round… and keeps it from becoming so frequent or self-centered that it grows stale.

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