New husband help

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  Posted by Shawn S Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:32am PDT

  Maybe You Need Something New

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  Posted by Katie B Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:42am PDT

  Is he stressed out about something? Money, jobs, anything? He may be so frustrated that he lost his sex drive... My husband gets this way... Just keep communicating with him what he needs and what you need... hopefully you both can give each other what you need.

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  Posted by del (hot chick) Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:51am PDT

  have you guys been in any financial stress did you or his job change are you uncomfortable in your home i have one suggestion change the outlook of your room make sure your bed is headed west of your house and change some colors around and add some candle of jasmine or linen scent this will brighten both of your sense a change sometime help even the smallest ones.

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  Posted by Leah Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:52am PDT

  When was his last physical? Has he had his testosterone checked? Is there anything else going on that maybe the two of you aren't communicating about? There could be soooo many different reasons for his decreased sex drive.

  I wish you the best of luck!

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  Posted by Mom2One Wed Jun 17, 2009 9:59am PDT

  Was it a sudden change? Did he go one day from wanting it to the next day not? It could be a lot of things:

  * job or family related stress

  * a medical issue (fatigue, etc.)

  * worries about financial situation

  Or, and I hate to bring this up, you don't suspect that he's cheating do you? Rarely does a guy go from wanting it all the time to not -- unless he's getting what he wants from someone else.

  I wonder what he means when he says "soon." Does that mean that soon, his worries/stress will be over and he'll feel more like getting involved with you again?

  Do you all still talk about everything else? Try opening the lines of communication about what's happening (or rather, not happening) in the bedroom when you all are doing something completely different. Go enjoy a picnic or a romantic night out, for instance, and bring it up slowly with him over lunch or dinner. Tell him that you miss how close you once were and you've planned a special surprise to light his fire. I can't think of one guy who that wouldn't intrigue :)

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  Posted by amy Wed Jun 17, 2009 10:01am PDT

  Possible stress - there's baby talk. He's not working a lot but that's typical for his job during this time of year. He had a physical a few months ago because he was having panic attacks, but it turned out to be sugar too late at night.

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  Posted by m@r!@ Wed Jun 17, 2009 10:27am PDT

  It's probably a combination of stress + "the honeymoon's over" syndrome. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore. Sometimes people get settled in their new married lives and some of the passion seems to dissapate. Try something new & unexpected...

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