Plain and simple :)
Well....I have met someone and I truly think it just might work out
between us. He makes me laugh He is sweet and just an all around
good guy.
I had posted an ad on craigslist (yeah yeah, I know, but I love it
LOL) and he was one of the guys that answered. We talked through
email and then I asked him if he wanted to meet up some time -- he
picked Tuesday night 12/16 after school. I met him at Sebago
Brewing Company by the mall and we sat and talked about different
things. Well they closed at 1 a.m. and we stood outside for another
45 mins. I made two HUGE mistakes but that didn't seem to
bother him. Though at one point, he got speechless. I ACTUALLY made
someone speechless!! So we finally went on our different ways and
he said that he wanted to kiss me but he has never met anyone like
me before so he didn't know what to do!
Well, we had arranged Sunday (the day of a storm) to meet up again,
which obviously that didn't happen so we pushed it to Tuesday
12/23. Well, I saw him on Monday instead and omg. We went to
Applebees and chatted some more about different things, making me
laugh and smile. Well, we sat in his car and talked and then he
drove me back to my car but we sat in the parking lot some more and
talked and then FINALLY kissed. It was magical .... lol!! We both
have definitely fallen for each other but we are just taking it one
step at a time. Nothing to rush. He wakes me every morning with a
text and I talk to him every night. I told him that my heart will
probably take some time to fall for him so I hope he doesn't
mind waiting .... he freaking said he would wait for me! I have
NEVER heard that in my life!!
Then we were talking one other time and he said that he would like
to hold me and just show him how happy I make him. Which I was ALL
smiles about but replied that this part of me that is TERRIFIED is
hoping this isn't all crap and he said "how about you
realize that someone can like you and not be up to
something."
Fast forward to today; things are just weird now. I haven't
seen him in 2 weeks and, to him, I have become "needy"
because I want to see him. We have talked throughout these 2 weeks
but just haven't seen each other. I just need to know what to
do about this?? Should I drop him? Tell him how I feel?? I honestly
have no desire to search for anyone else at this time, but my
feelings for this guy (NO NOT LOVE!!) are slowly starting to go as
well.
Help!!
EDIT: Today is 1/14/08 and I haven't talked to him since Monday
after he told me that I needed to back off. Now I am staring at my
phone, hoping he'll call, but I want to call him and to find
out what the EFF is up!!
Ok, I need advice.
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Posted by Mon Jan 12, 2009 10:57am PST
Report AbuseAre you saying you have had no contact with him in two weeks? If so, yes.. something is not right. The relationship is not moving forward anymore if all contact has ended.
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Posted by Mon Jan 12, 2009 1:14pm PST
Report AbuseInked, there are a few odd things about your situation, but the thing that is VERY weird is that he texts you every morning and talks to you every night, but he considers you "needy" because you want to see him in person. Do I have that right??
If he's into you, he would want to see you, period. There is something very strange going on if he is using your alleged "neediness" as an excuse not to see you. As to what to do, ask him what the he11 he's talking about! Ask him why he doesn't want to see you. Tell him this seems very strange considering how happy you allegedly make him. If you're going to tell him how you feel, your primary feeling should be one of confusion... You thought that things were going well and that you were enjoying the time that you were spending together, but that the relationship is not going to progress if you do not continue to spend time together.
The only other explanation I can think of, though this is a longshot, is that he has some intimacy issues (or maybe a small pee-pee) and wants to try to continue building the relationship over the phone and avoid the physical intimacy that would come with seeing you in person. But again, that's a longshot... I suspect something else is going on. And one thing's for sure: this behavior is not consistent with a healthy new relationship, so prepare yourself for the possibility that this may soon be coming to an end. Good luck!
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Posted by Mon Jan 12, 2009 7:20pm PST
Report Abusearb63,
He doesn't text me in the mornings anymore because of work -- which I have never complained about because I know what it's like to be busy.
Idk, we'll just see how things pan out.
Thanks for your advice! :D
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Posted by Mon Jan 12, 2009 8:08pm PST
Report AbuseInked,
Well, even if he doesn't text you in the mornings anymore, my thoughts remain the same... His behavior is very, very strange. I mean, does he still call you at night and act like he's really into you? Or are his calls becoming less frequent and does he seem less interested? If the latter is true, forget about him and move on. Otherwise, next time you talk to him, call him out on his weird behavior. Best of luck, and I'd love to hear how things turn out...
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Posted by Tue Jan 13, 2009 1:21pm PST
Report AbuseIm not sure he has fallena smuch as you have, it does seem odd tha he is calling you needy, so he probably is backing off now cause heis scared of a needy girl (I'm not saying you are, but he thinks you are) Its a tough call on what is considered needy when you actually want to spend sometime with someone you care for. Its also od that he used to text you in the AM and now he doesnt, could it be he has another girl and maybe is with her now in the mornings? Remember you met him on the internet, so there was/is other girls he had/has contact with I am sure, he may be playing he field. What have your conversations been like? Good Luck with him.
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Posted by Wed Jan 14, 2009 11:22am PST
Report AbuseHe hasn't sent me any texts in the morning because he works all day so with a busy day, he doesn't have time to text me -- which I did say something once about but I have never brought it up again.
Idk, I am just hoping we'll talk soon and figure all of this crap out.
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Posted by Tue Jan 20, 2009 3:06pm PST
Report AbuseIt really sounds like you need to let him go, why would you want a guy that isnt contacting you and has already after such a short period of time told you to back off and your too needy? Thats a bad sign, sorry to say but your relationship isnt going to work I doubt. It doesnt soudn liek it was ever a real relationship or a potenital one. He is showing all signs that he isnt into you. Dont throw yourself at him and appear so desperate for his attention. You dont need him! Not good. Good Luck finding a good guy.
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