People, if we could all be a little more honest with each other, there'd be a lot more cheer in the world of casual sex. And this goes for you, too, ladies: how many times have you lied to yourself or a guy and said you're not expecting the sex to lead to anything? Another positive outcome: there would be fewer cases of women going to jail after seeking revenge via cattle branding on dudes who don't call after a one-night stand. Which is why we've always been fans of what we call the prenook: this is the casual sex equivalent of a prenup that verbally outlines both parties' expectations of the encounter.
As we explain it in our book Rec Sex:
"There is no one-size-fits-all pronouncement that secures a prenook--after all, 'Let's have a one-night stand' or 'Is it okay if I never call you again?' will kill the mood for most people (though either of these lines might work if spoken with the right dose of humor). A prenook is kind of like porn: You know it when you see it. In certain sexed-up circumstances (say, spring break in Cancun, or a swingers' convention in Tampa), the prenook goes without saying. At times like these, the implicit promise is that you will get laid, and you will get laid tonight. Therefore, a spring break prenook operates in reverse: a) You must fess up before getting to the bedroom if you suffer from erectile dysfunction, and b) you must provide a heads-up if all you're in for is a kiss and a cuddle (though it goes without saying that anyone can change their minds as to how far they are willing to go at any point--we're talking to you, date rapers). The reverse prenook allows the recipient to look for their jollies elsewhere, should they so desire."Oh, whatever. You're not even listening, are you? You're too busy sitting by your phone waiting for that playa to call you back. But in case you're still there, the same applies to booty calls: If you think your booty call partner is just hanging in there in the hope of converting you into a boyfriend or girlfriend, you've got to retire that booty call number immediately. You hear us, John Mayer? Despite what she might tell you in bed, Jennifer Aniston totally wants a boyfriend.
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