I escaped my captor and fled for the hills of Northern California. I left carnage behind to be sorted out by the attorneys. How did I get here?
I was married for 19 years. A good portion of those days were ones I remember with a smile on my face. But the days started to darken, unknowingly to me, because I fought to continue to see only the good. My vision steadily narrowed until a very innocent act changed my life for ever.
It was an early July morning. I awoke to the dogs looking for food. Walking into the kitchen I found my husbands cell phone charging on the kitchen table. He had gone off to his usual 6:30 am coffee meeting with his partner, and as the alarm had awakened me from my sleep, the alarm bell in my head went off as well. I wondered what I would find if I flipped through his cell phone. He works all the time, I never see him, he goes to movies without me and hides the community money in accounts I cannot access. All seemingly innocent, right? Perhaps not.
Flipping the cell phone open I check for recently sent text messages..You know you hear about the secrets cerll phones hold. A secret I didn't really want to discover. There it was " Don't worry, I love you more...Love E". I checked the recipient of that message, and it wasn't me. In fact I stopped receiving text messages from my husbands awhile ago.
The secret was out. The hurt was mighty and the reality was impossible to ignore any longer. 19 years of marriage flushed away by a simple text message.
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Posted by Sat Oct 3, 2009 7:43pm PDT
Report AbuseWell, At least you got to escape and let the attorneys hash it out,
Myself, sort of the same with the phone but pictures.
More to it than that of course but yes I blew my top.
Yet being {he} was gone all the time I found myself left to sort through what I was actually dealing with,
I should have been a divorce lawyer myself,
My attorney was shocked with the amount of paperwork I submitted.
Seems like I did all the research to defend my self by way of all the gathering of info to show his outrageous spending that was hidden.
Yes it all has turned out well enough,
But having been a faithful wife, I detested the fact of deceit in any shape or form. Mine was 1 month shy of 10 years.
Congratulations to your NEW FREEDOM,
A secret for ANY Woman, Regardless of your married bliss,
Your OWN personal savings account.
Sock any moneys away possible!!!!!
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Posted by Sat Oct 3, 2009 9:23pm PDT
Report AbuseIt's a nightmare but the journey will lead me to another , better life. I keep trying to remember that. Your advice is right on. It wasn't until I discovered the affair that I opened a seperate bank account, filed for divorce, got an emergency ex parte hearing. The judge ruled that we both could reside in the main residence, but he locked me out. Cops came and cut locks off the gates, family was terrified he might do more, so I was shipped off to parts unknown..I have learned everything I did not want to know. Guess that's life.
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