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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Oral Sex

I've become frustrated lately with my fianc'ee. We have been together for 6 years (engaged since December), and I can't help but feel upset that she doesn't want to give me oral sex anymore. It's not that we don't have sex enough, it just seems like (according to my past relationships and my friends's relationships) all women, once they have become comfortable in a relationship, stop giving oral sex. I understand the "usual" complaints from women about the subject: It hurts their jaw, the semen makes them sick, it's not an act of intamacy for them, etc...but it is really so bad that they can't perform it once a month or so? It's not like guys love going down on women, we might ACT like we do because we want you to enjoy it, but it's uncomfortable for us too. Having said that, if my fianc'ee wanted me to go down on her (with the understanding that there would be no sex afterwards) once in a while, I totally would. To me it just seems selfish of her to have stopped completely, and it's really starting to bother me. Is this a sign of things to come?
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  • Joboo027's Avatar
    Posted by Joboo027 Fri Oct 2, 2009 5:37am PDT

    could be, what other things have changed for her since you became engaged? best to talk about it now, before you are married and it becomes a major issue for you and the relationship sours. David

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  • Amanda's Avatar
    Posted by Amanda Fri Oct 2, 2009 11:58am PDT

    She is being selfish. We have to submit ourselves to our mates desires. That goes both ways. If my man wants something I would do whatever I could to make it happen.

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  • MC's Avatar
    Posted by MC Fri Oct 2, 2009 10:03pm PDT

    As a man, I enjoy going down on the women that I am with. We each just need to keep it clean and take care of our bodies (clean/washing, trimming, etc.) Sex is to be SHARED with one another.

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    Posted by Robert Sun Oct 4, 2009 11:41am PDT

    I can assure you MC that I don't have any problems with grooming myself, I actually have OCD when it comes to my personal cleanliness. Also, I don't HATE going down on my fianc'ee, but you know being a guy that if we are down there for a while that you can get a sore jaw, that's all I was saying.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Wed Oct 7, 2009 5:41am PDT

    "if my fianc'ee wanted me to go down on her (with the understanding that there would be no sex afterwards) once in a while, I totally would"

    Um, do you give her oral!? If no, then don't expect any. She's a hypocrite, if you don't like oral, don't give it in the first place, but she has trapped you by pretending she likes it, and now that she's marrying you, she won't give it to you, so you better think hard if you want to marry this lady, but you should NEVER force someone to do something they don't like, its immoral, so you don't have to give oral or eat ass because someone gets off that "Amanda." Everyone has limits, if you can respect them, fine, if not, move on.

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  • qutie022000's Avatar
    Posted by qutie022000 Sun Dec 27, 2009 5:25am PST

    I've been married to my husband for 4 yrs and I would never stop giving him oral.. I think it excites me more than him..lol I love doing it to him, we do that more than we make love, but we look at it as no matter what we're doing , it's ALL out of love. He loves doing it to me and I love giving it to him. I love seeing how excited I make him.

    As far as your fiancee' , you really need to talk to her before you get married... men need this as much as they love it so talk to her before it's too late and things get real bad after you're married... believe it or not there are plenty of women I know who love doing that to their man...

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