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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Plan a perfect date night!

By Laura Hahn for Good Housekeeping


Tell the truth: Did your date nights vanish years ago, along with sleeping in, Sunday brunches, and reading the newspaper over coffee? Or have they become as stale as, well, 15 years of the missionary position? In either case, you're due for a refresher. Turn up the heat with your hubby using these date-night ideas tailor-made to every couple — and budget.

You're a planner. He lives for surprises. Perfect date? Find a view.
Every town has a lookout point (or 15). Find one, then whisk him away without telling him exactly where you’re going. "You can even blindfold your partner and make him guess what part of town you're in," advises Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle and relationship expert from Perfectmatch.com.

You like routine. He prefers trying new things. Perfect date? Split the day.
Enjoy the familiar and mix things up — it doesn't have to be either/or. Go to one spot you know (like your local farmers' market) and one you don't (like that new bowling alley across town). "You'll feel comfortable and he won't get bored," says Schwartz.

You're optimistic about the economy. He's cautious. Perfect date? Trade spaces.
Newsflash: You can spend a luxurious night away from home without breaking the bank. Talk some friends into trading houses for the night. If you live downtown, switch with a couple who lives in the country. "It feels adventurous and romantic," says Schwartz. "Best of all, it doesn't feel like you're worried about money, even if you are."

You love to relax. He likes to stay active. Perfect date? Separate ... together.
Who says you have to do the same thing? "Not everyone enjoys taking it easy. For some people, relaxing is not relaxing," Schwartz points out. So find a place where you can chill while he gets his heart rate up, like the gym. Take a yoga class while he sweats through spin class, then share an energy shake afterward.


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  • RyneishaB_05's Avatar
    Posted by RyneishaB_05 Mon Feb 9, 2009 9:46am PST

    wow...great post!!!! interesting ideas...i have a question, how would i go about finding the "the view point" in my city????

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  • urangel62902's Avatar
    Posted by urangel62902 Mon Feb 9, 2009 11:59am PST

    A few days on a tropical deserted island....along with my 1 TRUE LoVE!!!:)

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  • Larry's Avatar
    Posted by Larry Mon Feb 9, 2009 7:26pm PST

    hi im 68 i am wedo . i have not found a good loving women all i have found is very independt and tell me to get lost.all the good ones are maried or in heven. i live in az none of the churchs have a singel group nosuport the guys eather. not my falt that my wife died of als help.

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  • julia verra's Avatar
    Posted by julia verra Mon Feb 9, 2009 9:29pm PST

    honesty and trusty my key.

    always be myself but obviously when i talk abt relationship cummunication its hard for me to be convinced...my question..how do we know people honest in their conversation?

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  • chris's Avatar
    Posted by chris Mon Aug 31, 2009 9:35am PDT

    I believe that if each couple would look for a moment in each day that makes that day special, relationships would last much longer. We tend to search for not so perfect issues with our mates, instead of looking at the reason we are with them in the first place. Listen you didn't find love it found you! You see I look at tit like this. One day you were just walking along minding your own business and it wrapped around you like a spider webb floating in the wind. No looking or searching needed. So if you have to, look back on that one day and discover what got you t where you are. Men and women need to feel loved and respected, it is our nature. I bet if you tell yourpartner tonight that you love them for no apparent reason you will see a glow come over them. Might even be a nice night at home..

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