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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Please tell me if he cheated....

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I didnt find out he was into porn until about 7 months into the relationship....Sometimes age doesnt matter,  but in this case I think it does,  he's now 28 and Im 40.  Then we were younger a bit.  I stressed it upon him that I hate porn, of course it was one of so many times I caught him doing it.  He has done nothing but lie to me from the beginning, and til this day he sticks to his past lies.  Even though I know they were lies he still is adamant about them.  Like the time he never came over and after me trying to reach him the entire night he states he was with his sick grandfather in the hospital and how there was no cell phone service.  I ended up  in the same hospital with our son and my cell - phone worked just fine for three days.  We've been through so much, or I've put up with so much that I really cant take any more lies.  To begin with he's a slob and I use to fight with him to take a bath.  One night after we were sent to Fort Drum, he states him and his buddies were going to have breakfast, well, he left at around 5am and came back at around 9am and the first thing he did was take a shower.  What?  He took a shower the night before and the next morning after his breakfast before work he's taking another.  I can't prove it but I know what he was doing that morning.  So many things happened.  I fou nd out I was pregnant and after his rejection about it for about two months I left him and he didn't even care, that night I was gone he was looking at porn.  He didnt want to have anything to do with me. I dont  know anymore, I really wish I never met him.  I need someones advice, I have no friends.

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  • Amanda's Avatar
    Posted by Amanda Wed Nov 25, 2009 5:55pm PST

    FYL

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  • who cares?'s Avatar
    Posted by who cares? Wed Nov 25, 2009 6:05pm PST

    you need to learn how to love yourself honey, get some standards

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  • jen's Avatar
    Posted by jen Wed Nov 25, 2009 6:12pm PST

    He may be cheating or just is not interested in you anymore. How long have you known him and has he always been an adamant liar? Did you plan to get pregnant or was this a slip up? You states that you are lonely and most likely seeking a relationship. That usually means you picked the first thing that came to you. First decide if you want to have the baby by yourself at this time. Second, it seems obvious that he is uncaring of you. I don't recommend pursuing him any longer.

    I don't know when you will consider dating again but it will be hard being pregnant singe and 40

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  • urassismine2's Avatar
    Posted by urassismine2 Thu Nov 26, 2009 8:43am PST

    Men want peace. If you don't like something, then you don't like something. You can't impose your wants, and dislikes on anyone. Your not his momma! You tried to control his behavior, like he was a toddler, to suit you wants, needs, and desire. That never works!Atleast not with any man that I know of. We are going to do what the heck pleases us, just like your going to do what pleases you. If the guy liked porn, you should of left him alone,if he was that much of a keeper. If he was a slob, then you didn't do enough in your "interview process", to begin with, before hooking up with him. At any rate, you've got to look in the mirror at your own behavior, an realize that there was no way that he could have entered your life, without youallowing him into it. This is on you, and your choices in a guy, because of what was going on with you, when you met him...Just a thought..read my blog..seriously..:)

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