Pregnancy and the single gal.... I need to know. PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND: Are men really that ignorant about the difficulties of pregnancy?

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  Posted by TJ S Thu Nov 19, 2009 7:01am PST

  Sounds like you need to mature and think about your future. All men aren't like this. It just sounds like you pick crappy ones. I would've been there every step of the way myself. You would've had to kick me and been begging me to go out I would've been there so much lol. But when you just jump into things and don't learn and mature from experience to experience, these things can happen. Good luck because it sounds like a horrible situation. If I ever have kids, I plan on being there from beginning to end. That's why I don't take having them lightly.

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  Posted by Climbing Thu Nov 19, 2009 7:45am PST

  Raise your standarts and improve screening process. Also BCP.

  Is hard to think straight when you're busy raising 5 kids.

  Make even 10min/day just for you and the sense comes.

  Past is gone you can't change it. U're inexperienced and things happen now that you already have some experience make a list of what you learned. Literally write'em down. We all are equiped with solving problem abbilities we just need to make the time for it.

  All the best show love to the kids they deserve it doesn't matter who their father is.

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  Posted by madyx Thu Nov 19, 2009 6:06pm PST

  Woman u have made your life miserable. It seems like u are afraid of loneliness, therefore u jump from one relationship to another without thinking. Now u have five kids with no real father in their life; I don't know how u will make it when these kids become teenagers but u sure will have a hell of the time.

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  Posted by Angelica Thu Nov 19, 2009 9:09pm PST

  Picking crappy men; yup, I'm with you on that one. The only 2 men I've picked in the past 13 years aren't worthy of breathing the same air as me. I'm in my 30's, beautiful, independent, kinky in bed, excellent mother, educated... I just can't seem to find myself a good down to earth man, that knows how to be loved and love in return :((

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  Posted by Crazy Horse Fri Nov 20, 2009 2:06pm PST

  It's not that men are ignorant about the difficulties of pregnancy.It's the fact that they don't care because they will never be pregnant. Men cannot handle pain at all. Have you ever seen a man with a headache or a cold? He acts as if he's dying. It is pathetic and annoying. That's why my beloved lives on the East Coast and I in the Midwest.

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  Posted by Angelica Fri Nov 20, 2009 5:36pm PST

  LMAO... that is sooooo true! Men ARE like big babies, when it comes to being sick...

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  Posted by DirtyDirty Fri Nov 20, 2009 9:54pm PST

  u have alot good advice here from all these people.but also remeber U R FU**** with lil boys(sounds like 2 me) u need a MAN like one that will always b there 4 u reguardles of what it is or who trys 2 interfer n love ya kids as his own...cut out alot of ya bad ways n judgements think b4 u leap im 35yrs n my heart has been broken by every woman ive got intimate with but YET I DONT JUDGE nest woman 4 this(keep that n mind also) n GET RID OF THE FUC*** LOSERS n "BADBOYS" TYPES they can have that persona how bout tryin a "NICE SWEET GUY" 4 a change?.....just something u can think bout..GOOD LUCK LADY(O BTW I WAS n the delivery room n full active part of pregancy of all 3of my boys birth)C THERE R STILL SOME GOOD MEN OUT THERE!

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  Posted by Redrider Sat Nov 21, 2009 2:06am PST

  I do believe homeboy just did what your asking. Don't feel like your alone there are others out here that has been through the same thing. So no judgement from me. All I can say is learn for your mistakes and keep it moving if he's a real man once he see his son/daughter being a active partner he will be. Don't judge him he's a father for the first time and he's scared give him time.

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  Posted by TheRealestLeo Sat Nov 21, 2009 7:08am PST

  After he left you hanging while in the hospital with the first child....WHY THE HECK DID YOU HAVE MORE KIDS WITH THIS LOSER?

  Damn, I can never understand why women INTENTIONALLY choose losers and then REWARD said losers for being f--- -ups.

  I would advise you to get yourself together (mentally, physically, and financially) and go find yourself a DECENT, UPSTANDING man, but I doubt any of us would want to take chance on a woman with THIS much baggage from a past relationship.....I hate to put it like that, but I'm just being honest here.

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  Posted by Chrysalis Sat Nov 21, 2009 12:49pm PST

  Don't you sit there and post crap like this and say "No judging please." How dare you! By having multiple children with a man who proved he could not handle it, and on top of that having an illegitimate child with a man you hardly know you are in effect imposing yourself on society. So yes, luv, I'm going to judge you. It's time for you to grow up and realize that neither I nor society has an obligation to make you feel good about yourself and your choices. You should feel bad because now I and the rest of society are most likely stuck paying for your poor choices.

  Repeat after me...PREGNANCIES DO NOT JUST HAPPEN. They happen because you allow them to happen damn it. I don't give a rat's ass how special things were between you two, it does not justify forcing a child into the equation. I can't blame the guy for being angry at you as you chose to get pregnant without consulting him first. Thought you were going to trick him into staying did you? I imagine you wanted to move things along prematurely, so you just decided to get pregnant thinking this would rope him in. People don't like to be forced and tricked into relationships. Sure, he could have been more careful, too. But he's not the one whining on this post now is he?

  Stop complaining about your first husband, because you get no sympathy here. You chose this loser luv, and on top of that you went and had several more children with him after that. I guess there really is no college for common sense. I'm sick of paying my hard earned money to raise your dumb-ass, illegitimate children, so knock it off!!!

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