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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Prop 8 is upheld: Why in the world is legalizing same-sex marriage such a problem?

The updates by my friends and colleagues on Twitter and Facebook seem to be exploding with the news that the California Supreme Court upheld Proposition 8, a state ban on same-sex marriage. The ban was passed in last November's elections with 52% of the vote. Today, after reviewing whether or not the proposition is constitutionally sound, judges ruled 6 to 1 than the ban would stand.

While the 18,000 same-sex marriages performed before the ban are still deemed to be valid, some protesters are saying this isn't enough in the fight to provide LGBT couples the equal right to be legally married.

At present, same-sex marriage is legal in Connecticut, Maine, Iowa, and Massachusetts. Vermont will become the fifth state in September, while legislation has been introduced in New York and New Hampshire.

This CNN telephone poll of more than 2,000 Americans asking whether same-sex marriages should be valid parallels the Proposition 8 election results with 54% of those surveyed saying they should not be recognized. Interestingly, in a breakdown by age, 58% of the respondants aged 18 to 34-years old said they thought gay marriage should be legalized. That percentage drops as the age rises, with 42% of 35-49-year olds polled supporting legal same-sex marriages, 41% in the 50-64 category, and only 24% of those aged 65 and older.

Bill Schneider, a CNN senior political analyst, said this "hot-button issue" could be risky for Republicans if it is included in the debate over today's Supreme Court nomination of Sonia Sotomayor.

"Young voters strongly favor marriage equality. They're the future of American politics," Schneider commented.

I hope Schneider is right. And I hope my Facebook and Twitter tribe members are an indication that our generation is far from complacent when it comes to making sure everyone has the right to get married, whether they choose to exercise it or not.

I wish that I could offer up a committed Californian couple my own right to get married. Seriously -- if there was a committed Californian couple out there who wanted it, I probably would hand it over. For now, that will remain a wish. The bigger dream for me is that the only thing happening in the court house for same-sex couples who want to be wed is applying for marriage licenses, not a Supreme Court debate about whether those folks can actually be legally married.

I'm relying on those people ranting and raving online -- particularly those of us in that "supportive" 50 and under age bracket -- to make sure that idealism becomes a reality in California, in my state, and hopefully, in each one of the United States.  Considering the current system, that might make me a dreamer. But if the dream I am holding is that love makes a marriage more than the biology of the partners, I'm fine with that fantasy.

What do you think? Is legalizing same-sex marriage a dream or necessity in California, your state, and our country?


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  • Ebony's Avatar
    Posted by Ebony Tue May 26, 2009 1:17pm PDT

    IN MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION, I FEEL AS THOUGH EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO ENJOY THEIR LIFE WITH WHOMEVER THEY CHOOSE. NO ONE HAS TO DEAL WITH WHAT GOES ON IN A RELATIONSHIP BESIDES THE ONES THAT ARE INVOLVED. ALL OTHER OPINIONS SHOULDNT MATTER TO NO ONE ELSE. IF THE STRAIGHT COMMUNITY CAN HAVE HAPPINESS WHY CANT THE GAYS AND THE LESBIANS. THERE ARE A LOT OF THINGS THAT THE GAYS AND LESBIANS DONT LIKE THAT THE SO CALLED STRAIGHT FOLKS DO YOU DONT SEE US GOING TO CONGRESS ASKING TO MAKE THEM CHANGE SO WHY SHOULD WE? FACE THE FACT AND THE REALITY THAT THIS WORLD IS CHANGING FOR EVERYONE LET THERE BE PEACE ON EARTH FOR EVERYONE SO THAT WE ALL CAN KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO LIVE IN PEACE AND HARMONY FOR A CHANGE.

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  • Aj's Avatar
    Posted by Aj Tue May 26, 2009 1:21pm PDT

    Yeah!!! I am happy for Cali!

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Tue May 26, 2009 1:21pm PDT

    We have more serious issues to deal with.

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  • Pega169's Avatar
    Posted by Pega169 Tue May 26, 2009 1:26pm PDT

    I think homosexual couples should have the same right to be just as miserable as heterosexual couples.

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  • Aj's Avatar
    Posted by Aj Tue May 26, 2009 1:44pm PDT

    Totally agree with None here!! Why is the focus SO SO much on homosexuality when we have people dying cause they cant get healthcare or folks living in torment cause they cant find a job! How about focusing news on what are we going to do if North Korea wont stop testing their nuclear bombs? Huh??

    And YEAH I do have friends and family that are gay.. They know my beliefs and they do what they want..

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  • coolgal18's Avatar
    Posted by coolgal18 Tue May 26, 2009 1:47pm PDT

    i'm really getting tired of hearing of this issue. nothing is going to change any time soon in california. just let it go.

    i believe that everyone should have the same rights, but apparently that doesn't matter because majority rules, and unfortunately, i'm not the majority.

    end of story.

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  • Kristy's Avatar
    Posted by Kristy Tue May 26, 2009 1:49pm PDT

    I grew up with a christian background, so in my opinion, it is wrong. But, at the same time, we are not the ones to judge other people. I believe it should be between them and God, therefore, if they want to get married, why should we stop them. I also stop to consider the fact that if it was one of my children, I would want them to have the same rights as a heterosexual person. I may believe that it is wrong, but who am I to push my beliefs on other people.

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  • Monica's Avatar
    Posted by Monica Tue May 26, 2009 1:49pm PDT

    if the u.s. is suppose to be the land of the "free",and people are people than why can't marrige be marrige?love doesnt have a gender.

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  • ashley's Avatar
    Posted by ashley Tue May 26, 2009 1:59pm PDT

    I think if we abide by the constitution (pursuit of happiness) and separation of religion and state, we can get to a reasonable conclusion. By denying any two people a legal marriage, it would be taking away their freedom to pursue happiness, and this is wrong. We cannot legally deny them on any religious basis because we must abide by separation of religion and state. This is in place for a reason, it is very important. Of course religious groups do not have any obligation to perform these ceremonies or recognize the marriages. But to deny them legally is imposing your personal beliefs on others, and this isn't acceptable.

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  • Jason's Avatar
    Posted by Jason Tue May 26, 2009 2:06pm PDT

    HOLY CRAP!!!

    NONE....ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?!

    I THINK YOU TAKE THE CAKE FOR NARROW MINDED.

    MY JAW HIT THE FLOOR AFTER I READ YOU IGNORANT POST!!!!!!!!

    WHAT YOU SAY ON HERE MAKES YOU LOOK, MORE AND MORE, IGNORANT!!!

    I HOPE FOR YOUR SAKE YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS WHEN POST ON SHINE. YOU ARE IN FOR AN EXTREMELY HARD LIFE!!!!!!!!

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