Real Man/Real Woman- What Mama Never Told You.

By Dr. Kenny. (www.kensautoregister.com)

How to Be a Man
A man can speak to dogs.
A man listens, and that's how he argues. He crafts opinions. He can pound the table, take the floor. It's not that he must. It's that he can.

A man can look you up and down and figure some things out. Before you say a word, he makes you. From your suitcase, from your watch, from your posture. A man infers.

A man owns up. A man grasps his mistakes. He lays claim to who he is, and what he was, whether he likes them or not.
Some mistakes, though, he lets pass if no one notices. Like dropping the steak in the dirt.

A man can tell you he was wrong. That he did wrong. That he planned to. He can tell you when he is lost. He can apologize, even if sometimes it's just to put an end to the bickering. A man does not wither at the thought of dancing. But it is generally to be avoided.

Style -- a man has that. No matter how eccentric that style is, it is uncontrived. It's a set of rules.

A man loves the human body, the revelation of nakedness. He loves the sight of the pale bosom, the physics of the human skeleton, the alternating current of the flesh. He is thrilled by the wrist and the sight of a bare shoulder. He likes the crease of a bent knee.

Maybe he never has, and maybe he never will, but a man figures he can knock someone, somewhere, on his bottom.

A man doesn't point out that he did the dishes.
A man knows how to ridicule.
A man gets the door without thinking.
He stops traffic when he must.
A man knows how to lose an afternoon -Playing Grand Theft Auto, driving aimlessly, shooting pool.
He knows how to lose a month, also.

A man welcomes the coming of age. It frees him. It allows him to assume the upper hand and teaches him when to step aside.

He understands the basic mechanics of the planet. Or he can close one eye, look up at the sun, and tell you what time of day it is. Or where north is. He can tell you where you might find something to eat or where the fish run. He understands electricity or the internal-combustion engine, the mechanics of flight or how to figure a pitcher's ERA.

A man does not know everything. He doesn't try. He likes what other men know. But a man teaches with wisdom. Most ladies may mistake a man for being too controlling but a man knows what he is doing....and in the end, ladies come back after their blitz with the life they thought was better... (souds familiar to me).

A man knows his tools and how to use them -- just the ones he needs. Knows which saw is for what, how to find the stud, when to use galvanized nails.

He does not rely on rationalizations or explanations. He doesn't winnow, winnow, winnow until truths can be humbly categorized, or intellectualized, until behavior can be written off with an explanation. He doesn't see himself lost in some great maw of humanity, some grand sweep. That's the liberal thread; it's why men won't line up as liberals.

A man resists formulations, questions belief, embraces ambiguity without making a fetish out of it. A man revisits his beliefs. Continually. That's why men won't forever line up with conservatives, either.

A man is comfortable being alone. Loves being alone, actually. He sleeps.

Or he stands watch. He interrupts trouble. This is the state policeman. This is the poet. Men, both of them.
A man loves driving alone most of all.

A man watches. Sometimes he goes and sits at an auction knowing he won't spend a dime, witnessing the temptation and the maneuvering of others. Sometimes he stands on the street corner watching stuff. This is not about quietude so much as collection. It is not about meditation so much as considering.

A man refracts his vision and gains acuity. This serves him in every way. No one taught him this -- to be quiet, to cipher, to watch. In this way, in these moments, the man is like a zoo animal: both captive and free. You cannot take your eyes off a man when he is like that. You shouldn't. Who knows what he is thinking, who he is, or what he will do next.

That is a man....he prays daily and studies with zeal to know more about life and things. He loves to serve and lead. A man cooks and a man organizes things. A man is free because his spirit is powerful. A real man stays in touch with family and extended family. A man endures and tries without quiting. He may not have money but he never quits from trying.

A man may be noisy, annoying, wild or crazy but he stays on top of his business. He may not get there on time but he will show up at Gods right time. He does not always agree with you but he will revisit your talking points later. A smooth going relationship is not a sign that you have a real man. Danger may be looming. He loves to win and knows how to accept defeats.

A real man is not rare to find...just look deep and do not impose your emotions. Ther are also fakes out there. So be careful, ladies!.

The reason why things do not work for most women in our generation is because they do not know how to identify a real man. A lot of them are stuck with mental blindness and with whatever their disappointed and bitter mama told them about their run away father.

So many other women are deceived by TV and their pitty and petty girlfriends that experienced a daunting amount of self inflicted hurt due to ignorance, arrogance, blindness and uncontrolled sex attitude. Most people in this category are those that wasted their youthful years flirting with men, and thought then that they were too young to commit. You are right!. They were too young to commit but not too young for weekend sex and night outs- self deceivers. This type will nag you to death but will never help you achieve antyhing in life. They have no hope for partnership. Its all about them. And they always fail in the end to achieve happiness. Their days of fun are always short.

Then, there is a group that are hurting because they feel that they are too cute to listen and observe things. Lastly, many women are hurting because they are just too damn smart to settle down with someone that does not make as much money...but in the end, outsmart themselves. To all of them I say: GET OUT OF THE BOX AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR HURT AND ANGER.

I thank goodness for the many ladies that are committed to doing things right....for theirs always has been the kingdom of love and happiness. They are not selfish. They are not demanding. They look out for their men. They hardly put themselves before anyone else. They are humble and focused on goals. They are happy to serve and co-mingle.

They know how to say "sorry' and mean it. The know how to save their relationships. They are smart but do not try to prove it daily. They do not look for excuses to prove their innocence. They are not ashamed of being wrong. They admit it. They know that love is not a competeion but a completion of one another. They cook, clean, and pamper their man. They offer to buy you lunch when you are not even hungry. They bring food on their way to your house. They position themselves for authority and do so nice and gentle over a man. They wrap you up in their world and have you serve and cherish them daily. You miss such ladies when they are not around you. She hardly nags. Yes, a real man desire such woman.

They care about your welfare and ask if you have eaten for the day. They care about your career and ask if things are okay everyday at owkr or in your business. She asked you :"can I help you?". They pray for you. The may argue with you but will never nag you to to death. They find less fault in you. They understand their positions..and do not have to fight for it with any man or women.
It is not easy but may the blessings of and joy of the day and my love go to those.

And to those that thnk money and physical look defines a man. They are dead wrong and will surely hurt. They pay and serve the ultimate consequences that await every small thinker. This is my the natursal law.

A man's height, money and body or material things may attract a foolish and mentally superficial lady but will not sustain love for long time. It will hurt.

REAL MEN ARE EVERYWHERE...YOU CAN ONLY FIND THEM WITH YOUR SENSES AND NOT WITH YOUR CORRUPT EYES AND MOUTH.