My boyfriend and I have been together about six months, and sexually active the entire time. We know we're in love, and I think we both know that if things keep growing, we'll eventually get married. We're both Christian, so we're thinking we need to consider abstaining.
The question is: Have any of you decided to quit having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend in order to wait until marriage? How did it go? Could you restrain yourself, and how did it affect your relationship?
Let me add: I only very recently became Christian. My boyfriend was pretty much non-practicing until recently. We DON'T think that what we've been doing was okay and that suddenly it's not okay. We're growing spiritually and growing together.
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Posted by Fri Jun 27, 2008 12:56pm PDT
Report AbuseInitially I would like to applaude you and your boyfriend in making the most important choice concerning your life and soul. Congratulations and welcome to the body of Christ! I certainly believe that you both have made a sound decision in honoring the Lord and his convenant. The only time that God consents to sexual activity between a man and woman is through marriage. Please keep presenting your bodies as a living sacrafice and holy and acceptable unto God, because it is your reasonable serivice to him. God has great plans for you as it is evidenced as he is tugging on your heart very early because he only wants lead and guide you and ultimately bless you! Stay encouraged and if you don't have a church home please be prayful about what church God wants you to grow at. If you already are connected to a body of true believers, stick close, get grounded, study God's word(Psalms and Proverbs is always a good place to start), and develop that prayer life. You have made the best choice stay encouraged!
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Posted by Fri Jun 27, 2008 1:00pm PDT
Report Abuseits extremely hard cause of the erges...its not impossible....it takes time to learn how to control yourself...i tried but i failed cause i was always alone with my bf..now i moved in with him...i just barely turned 18 yesterday...so if you want to stay abstinent...dont put yourselves in any pressuring situations!! good luck with that!!!
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Posted by Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:42pm PDT
Report AbuseTHIS IS THE ADVICE I GAVE MY SON WHO IS NOW 22 YEARS. NOT TO HAVE SEX WITH JUST ANY PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. MAKE IT SPECIAL AND HAVE A SERIOUS COMMITMENT TO EACH OTHER. THEN EVERY THING FALL INTO PLACE AND ITS A GOOD THING. HE SAW A DOCTOR ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL AND THEN THEY SAW ONE TOGETHER SO IT WAS A GOOD THING FOR THE DOCTOR, THEMSELVES AND FOR THE FUTURE. THEY ARE WELL COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER AND THEY PLAN FUTURE ADVENTURES. CHRISTIAN BELIEVES ARE A WONDERFUL THING TO HAVE, THEY GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH TO COPE WITH DIFFICULT DECISONS, GIVING THANKS FOR ALL THAT HAS BEEN GIVEN TO YOU, AND MOST OF ALL JUST TO SAY" I LOVE YOU, I BELIEVE IN YOU, AND HONOR YOU" ITS NOT EASY AT TIMES PEOPLE DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CHRISTIAN FAITH. ITS NOT ABOUT THE HEAVEN OR HELL ITS ABOUT RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER. RESPECT IS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO DO. ONCE UNDERSTAND ITS PURPOSE OTHER THINGS JUST FALL INTO PLACE. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND TO YOUR PARTNER,
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Posted by Sat Jun 28, 2008 3:33am PDT
Report Abusei think sex is for married couple only because it is sacred..yes you love each other but the conscience behind as a christian is really hurting.pray for Gods help...goodluck to you and to your boyfriend.may you realize what is more important.
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Posted by Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:38am PDT
Report Abusewell if u thnk u ppl understnd ech other so well thn i thnk nothng can effct ur relationship.go with wat ur heart sys hving sex is also connection of 2 souls
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Posted by Sun Jun 29, 2008 1:57pm PDT
Report AbuseSo you are Christians, having been dating for six months and having sex all that time, where did you get the idea that you are Christians. You are not Christians yet, you are presently kidding yourselves. Stop the sex, stop the foreplay, ask God for forgiveness, turn your life over to Christ, live responsibly in Christ, then if you still find out that your are still in love, get married if that is what you want and raise a Christian family.
Tom
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Posted by Sun Jun 29, 2008 1:57pm PDT
Report AbuseSo you are Christians, having been dating for six months and having sex all that time, where did you get the idea that you are Christians. You are not Christians yet, you are presently kidding yourselves. Stop the sex, stop the foreplay, ask God for forgiveness, turn your life over to Christ, live responsibly in Christ, then if you still find out that your are still in love, get married if that is what you want and raise a Christian family.
Tom
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Posted by Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:23pm PDT
Report AbuseI am in total agreement with the choice you and your boyfriend made.
In Gods eyes the only true way for a man and woman to be psyically committed to oneanother in a sexual way is through the marriage in Christ our lord and if you too are truly making that sacrifice and are committed in doing so Christ will praise you and reward you in your committment to one another in many ways. My soon to be wife and I are getting married in Oct. this year and we have been abstinant with one another the entire time we have been together. We both strongly believe in God and his ways and will always serve him and cater to his wishes without question or hesitation. Good luck to yall in your shared venture.
Sincerely Chef
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Posted by Mon Jun 30, 2008 1:50am PDT
Report AbuseYOUVE GOT TO BE s---TING ME!! YOU CALL YOURSELVES CHRISTIANS AND YOU BAVG EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME!!! YOU SET A BAD EXAMPLE YOU BOTH SHOULD BE THROWN INTO THE LAKE OF FIRE TO BURN AS ST. PUAL WOULD PUT IT!!! DARN HYPOCRITES LIKE HTE RWO OF YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOUR SELVES!!
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