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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Sex and the Ex....

We all know that breaking up is hard to do. But the end of a relationship can be hard on your libido too. Going from having sex all the time when in a relationship to hardly at all can be difficult. It may be tempting to slip into a dangerous habit: casual sex with your ex.

It's easy to rationalize: You've already done it, so it's something (and someone) comfortable and familiar. You can even convince yourself that it's "just sex." However, these seemingly logical thought patterns often fall apart once you've done the deed. Sex with your ex can lead to a lot of regrets and lost ground if you've been trying to make a clean break.

The next time you're tempted, ask yourself these questions:

  • Are there emotions you're trying to satisfy (anger, resentment, etc.) by having sex with him?
  • Are you looking for a way to stay close to him?
  • Are you feeling lonely or simply fed up with dating?
  • Are you just looking for closure?
  • Will having sex with your ex kill your motivation to find a new relationship?
After all, no matter how good the sex is, there will always be an emotional price to pay. An enjoyable sex life rests in your own two hands (with perhaps the help of a vibrator) and in the promise of a new relationship. Relationships aren't that much different from anything else — it's always best to keep moving forward rather than spend your life looking back.

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  • farra's Avatar
    Posted by farra Wed Aug 12, 2009 8:38pm PDT

    Wow.. Don't do it I still have this guy who texts me and I just ignore because he is completely crazy.. Girl go out and have fun and meet a new guy..

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  • BrokenHeartedGirl.com's Avatar
    Posted by BrokenHeartedGirl.com Thu Aug 13, 2009 12:22pm PDT

    Good article!

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  • RyneishaB_05's Avatar
    Posted by RyneishaB_05 Thu Aug 13, 2009 2:00pm PDT

    This is great advice...i know some woman and men who still have sex with their ex and i dont agree with their decisions but all i can do is give my opinion if they ask and keep it moving...lol...but this is a great post and i hope people can find this helpful and move on from their ex's!!!!

    Great Post:)

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  • Cara's Avatar
    Posted by Cara Fri Aug 14, 2009 7:22am PDT

    One other reason to not have sex with your ex is just because they are having sex with you doesn't mean they are not having sex with someone else too. You are no longer in an exclusive relationship and lets face it, do you really want to be sleeping with some one if they possibly could be sleeping with someone else?

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  • Diona's Avatar
    Posted by Diona Tue Aug 25, 2009 12:31pm PDT

    This is a very good article.

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