Sex: How Much Does It Matter If You Have An Orgasm

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  Posted by KittyKat Wed Aug 26, 2009 6:45pm PDT

  I dont think it matters to me if I have one or not. I never try to focus on that. I just like to feel good. But if it dont happen it dont happen but my man loves for me to have one.

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  Posted by fools_and_sages Wed Aug 26, 2009 7:07pm PDT

  Sex is overrated in general. Men like to think they are awesome and expect a woman to have a big O every time. I have news for the handful of men I've been with-- penetration has never given me one bit of pleasure. I can't even feel a penis when it's inside me-- and I've had both big and small. I would rather watch tv but I have to put on an act to make a man enjoy what he's doing.

  I don't get anything from sex, physically or emotionally. I never have. I feel no emotional rush or physical ecstasy. I've had one orgasm in my entire life that involved another person and it was from oral stimulation, not penetration. This is one reason I no longer date. Dating leads to sex and I find it tedious, immaterial, and completely irrelevant. I don't see the point if I get nothing out of it.

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  Posted by Heidi Wed Aug 26, 2009 8:17pm PDT

  More than her orgasms, I'm concerned about the fact that you're a married guy talking with your female friend about her orgasms. I'm not a prude by any means, but this seems a little... personal. I don't even share that kind of info with female friends, let alone male ones.

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  Posted by Theresa Wed Aug 26, 2009 8:56pm PDT

  How does your wife feel about you having this kind of conversation with a "friend" whos female?

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  Posted by Lacrymosa[xo] Wed Aug 26, 2009 9:30pm PDT

  I feel so bad for you fools and sages. I really do.

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  Posted by Rae Thu Aug 27, 2009 12:46am PDT

  I believe that the O should not determine who is the right partner versus wrong partner. It takes time to discover things about one another and you dont always hit the ball out of the park on the first inning. I think that you should give any relationship several months to develop. People can only hide things for so long and eventually you have to carry the relationship at times without intercourse and that is going to be the most important thing to keep a long term relationship together. Can you sustain moments when your partner might be unable to meet your needs for one reason or another, can you love them in spite of it all? I have been lucky as far as the O factor is concerned but that is not going to make me leave right away. Women are just more complicated when it comes to our satisfaction. We confuse the heck out of guys. What worked on Monday might be too much on Friday. So varied and moody. So give the guys a chance is all I am saying.

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  Posted by omerlm Thu Aug 27, 2009 3:22am PDT

  Sex is a very important thing to me, but unfortunately, I fall in the majority category of women and orgasm for me during sex is few and far between.

  I love my man to pieces, and am very attracted to him, but without my help (or the help of the BOB) sex is just a great thing, not an orgasmic thing.

  For guys, the goal of the whole act is the big O, but for me its the fun & quality time I spend with my man, where he's totally thinking about me, and me him.

  Sure, it's nice to O, but it's not that important, i can do it on my own, and include him too, and that's fine with me.

  Fools & sages, sorry you don't have a good bond with a man. it's not just about sex, you know?

  and for the record, there's nothing wrong with talking about sex with a friend of the opposite sex. I would imagine that his wife would benefit from the knowledge he gains about women in general from his openness in his friendships with other women. it's called trust, ladies.

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  Posted by painted sea Thu Aug 27, 2009 3:28am PDT

  First of all, fools and sages, I'm so sorry you feel that way.

  Secondly, what's with all the spamming A$$h01e$? Get a life, losers.

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  Posted by Chris Thu Aug 27, 2009 5:01am PDT

  To you women scorning the man for talking with his female friends about her Sex Life I say this: Why do you care if he talks with a female friend about sex? You make it sound like it is literally impossible to be completely plutonic with a female friend, yet still discuss sex. I'm a man and I've always gotten along with women better than men personally. Just because a man is friends with a woman in a plutonic way doesn’t mean that he’s trying to get into her pants. Yes I admit, there are plenty of men out there who would not be capable of such a relationship, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I’m not a Christian but for once I agree with the whole “take the plank from your own eye before you remove the speck in your neighbor’s eye” thing. Don’t automatically assume that there is something going on just because a man and a woman are friends. None have the right to judge another human being. Live and let Live.

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  Posted by pwsgirl Thu Aug 27, 2009 5:03am PDT

  I have the same question as Theresa--if I were your wife, this would make me very uncomfortable. Does she discuss sex and orgasms with her male "friends?"

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