SEX, LIES, AND THE BEST MAN!

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  Posted by julius Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:20am PDT

  SAve this friend of yours...now!!! Tell him the truth now, because she will do it again and by the time he finds out it will be, too, late. The fact that she never came clean tells me that she does not see the severity of her actions and those people are usually repeat offenders.

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  Posted by Ronnie Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:20am PDT

  In my opinion this is an easy one. Plain and simple tell him, like you said you would want to be told and so would I. Your talking about this guys future

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  Posted by Gorgeous1 Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:22am PDT

  I think that before you make a definite decision on whether or not to tell Tate, you should talk to your girlfriend first. She is the one who told you and without her you would have never known. AND if you go behind her back and tell him anyway, then u better be prepared to suffer the backlash in YOUR OWN relationship, because your girlfriend may get very upset. You would be putting your relationship in jeopardy and her friendship with Nina in jeopardy. And in the end you may end up looking like the bad guy. And you dont want that. It is nice to see that you are a very loyal guy though. So FIRST things FIRST......talk to your girlfriend. Let her know that she has put u in a difficult spot with ur friend and u feel like u owe it to him as his bestman to be honest with him.

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  Posted by DAVID G Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:26am PDT

  I would say go ahead and tell him. He oviously trust and respect you because he made you his best man. Tell him before he says i do to this girl who really doesn't care. He deserves someone better. It will hurt him but in time he will heal and relized that you did him a huge favor. He really needs to know.....sooner rather than later.

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  Posted by Amanda Wed Oct 15, 2008 8:53am PDT

  geez you are in a bind! you need to tell your girl that if it was her she would want to know! and you need to tell your friend. he has the right to know what he's "marrying into". she's a slut & he should know.

  besides, if he finds out later that you knew & didn't tell him, you'll lose him as a friend & his trust. not worth it. never let a girl come between ya'll.

  and now that i think about it...you might want to give some serious thought into WHO YOU'RE DATING!!! she told you what happened, yes, BUT she also told you NOT to tell your friend! so...how can you really trust her? does that mean if she slept with another guy & told one of your friends not to tell you, then it's ok???

  not saying that your girl is like that at all, but it's just a thought.

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  Posted by mommym Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:00am PDT

  I think you should talk to your girlfriend and let her know what your intentions are. I think that it is going to blow up no matter what but it is only fair to warn her first. Think about this, if you tell him, do u think he is going to believe you? If he is head over heels for this girl Nina like you say he is she may be able to spin her way out of this and you and your girl will really like like the fools. Think about it, good luck!!!

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  Posted by PhilipS Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:14am PDT

  If this guy is any friend of yours, you need to tell him immeadiately. His future will be completely screwed if you don't. Take a few cases into consideration. One, she does it again, he finds out, he is heartbroken and has to get a *divorce* which emotionally hurts him deeper than this would, and furthermore ruins him financially. What if they have kids? I assume they don't know, but if they are married and have a kid, this is a bomb waiting to explode and blow up the family.

  For the sake of his future and preventing deeper damage, have some beers and talk to him about it.

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  Posted by opiniononly Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:47am PDT

  Before you decide on telling your friend or not telling him, why don't you tell Nina you know? Let her try to explain what she did. Then, if she slimes around trying to either lie about it or gives some lame excuse, just tell her you are having a hard time deciding about being in their wedding and wait for her response. You can tell her you want to talk to your friend but wanted to talk to her first. Then, if you decide not to be the best man, just tell your friend you can't do it and when he asks why...tell him to ask Nina because she knows why.

  Let her be the one to admit to screwing around on him and suffer the consequences of her actions.

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  Posted by JUST BECAUSE OR JESS Wed Oct 15, 2008 9:54am PDT

  honestly, if i was you i would try to talk to the "boxerboy" and tell him that you know what happened with him and Nina, and that he needs to tell Tate so he doesnt spend the rest of his life with a cheater! none of us would want that. If he refuses, then i would make a HUGE announcement in front of everyone and make them both look like idiots for doing that to your friend. you need to save him!!!

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  Posted by mike d Wed Oct 15, 2008 10:23am PDT

  Be a bestman, and tell your boy what happened. I also have to agree w/ the comment above about your girl. If she is willing to support this, then there is no telling what she has lied to you about.

  Remember...bros before hos.

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