Here's a side effect of the recession that you may not have been aware of: more and more couples who have been planning to separate or get divorced are putting off their plans and continuing to live under one roof. They’re doing so, naturally, for multiple, personal reasons, but studies have found it's typically either because divorce proceedings are too expensive right now, or because they can’t figure out how to split up what was once assets, and may now instead be liabilities. I call this problem “sleeping with the enemy,” and - contrary to what we may believe about that phrase - it can have a positive outcome.
I talk about a theory I developed called the bio-chemical craving for connection, in my book Financial Infidelity. Basically, it states that we’re all – to a certain extent – driven by the need for that dopamine high we get when we engage in pleasurable – and sometimes risky – behavior. This is what can lead someone into spending money behind someone’s back or conducting an illicit affair – and it’s the feeling that can be created when you’re having sex for the first time “all over again.”
On the surface, you’re in a situation that may allow you to
re-create the initial feelings you had for your partner. But
underneath, you’re putting your relationship back together. Sex
with your partner is another, much less risky way to fulfill your
need for connection and get the high you’re
looking for. Because your actions leading up to sex release
endorphins, and the act of sex itself facilitates calming hormones,
you’ll end up feeling much better. I would argue that in
stressful, unstable times, sex IS a necessity, as it does much more
than simply work to our advantage scientifically.
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