Should You Celebrate Your Divorce?

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  Posted by Brian Mon Oct 19, 2009 2:16pm PDT

  Celebrating divorce!! WTH!!!!!!! Yes, relationships go wrong, but to celebrate the break up of a union made by God!!! Divorce SUCKS!!!!!!

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  Posted by Shoujo Robot Mon Oct 19, 2009 2:41pm PDT

  Pfft. People who actually BELIEVE in the ideological, religious farce that is marriage make me laugh. This article ought to be titled, 'Should you celebrate your marriage when you'll probably get divorced anyway?' A lot more realistic, methinks.

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  Posted by Cara Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:02pm PDT

  Absolutely celebrate divorce. This isn't what you want to think about if you are getting married, but life takes twists and turns. You'll mourn the end of your marriage but then you have a life to live - celebrate a new beginning even if it isn't your choice. Being miserable won't help and it closes the door to new relationships.

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  Posted by *CAT* Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:12pm PDT

  While being extremely excited that my divorce is finally over with, I was also very disturbed all at the same time. While he was talking about having a divorce party, I was crying all night wondering why I poured so much energy into someone so selfish.

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  Posted by sexylady Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:40pm PDT

  Wow ..this sound just like me . I just got divorce a month ago and i did celebrate like the article says . yes we do want to celebrate getting out of a bad relationship and I'm very happy to do so yes why not celebrate the divorce just like we celebrate our weddings .

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  Posted by Zom-B Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:49pm PDT

  I've been divorced for 4 years now. I thought for a while I'd feel all free and ready to start over...honestly I think it's pretty much killed my interest in being with anyone else ever again.

  Or maybe it was my marriage that did that. I dunno; whatever.

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  Posted by Constance Mon Oct 19, 2009 4:02pm PDT

  As someone who ended a 22 year marriage due to deception, lies, etc. only to find out the week after the divorce that he had been sleeping with & supporting a stripper for three years while I sat at home with six kids while my electricity kept being shut off, I totally support the divorce parties. Divorce can be an empowering thing and while it might not be right for some women, others need to honor that they had the courage to get out! A year down the road my kids are thriving, I am thriving and my divorce is indeed a thing to celebrate!

  As for the Brian's "G-d" statement above, I suppose he views domestic abuse, adulty, etc. as a reason to stay togeather! I don't know about his god but my "G-d" wants me to be happy, healthy and whole! Sometimes divorce is required to get there! Figures a guy would post that kind of a comment!

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  Posted by DavidV Mon Oct 19, 2009 4:24pm PDT

  "But, let's face it, for a lot of people getting a divorce is getting out of a bad situation. So, why not celebrate moving on to something new?"

  For a lot of people, the afterlife begins an unending time of peace and happiness. So, let's throw a party when we hear a loved on has been diagnosed with a terminal illness!

  Holy cow. I have no idea why a person would get married if they didn't care enough about it to mourn its failure. Even if your spouse was monstrous, wouldn't you be crushed that you married such a horrible person? Or that the wonderful person you married turned into such a person? A divorce may well be the best option, but a happy one? Sickening. Honestly, it sounds like a ghoulish and regrettable coping mechanism.

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  Posted by Zom-B Mon Oct 19, 2009 4:28pm PDT

  DavidV sounds like a smart m*therf*cker.

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  Posted by Melissa Mon Oct 19, 2009 4:53pm PDT

  I didn't celebrate my divorce, but I did celebrate my UNiversary. I was advised he wanted a divorce 3 weeks after our 9th anniversary that he had decided (despite almost 14 years together), he just couldn't turn 40 with me as his wife. I lost my huband, my home, my car, my income, and my sense of security all at once. My world as I knew it was GONE.

  When that year marker came back around, I was still alive and rebuilding my world. I had friends who took me out. I cleaned MY apartment that was full of MY things. I bought new clothes and had my hair and nails done. I did not celebrate the end of my marriage but I did celebrate SURVIVING it.

  If having a silly cake makes you feel better, DO IT. If surrounding yourself with friends who support and love you makes you feel better, then DO IT. If smashing a penis shaped pinata makes you feel better, then DO IT!!! Laughter with people who care about you is a heck of a lot better than tears alone.

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