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Thursday, December 10, 2009

SIGNS OF A CHEATING SPOUSE

I wish I had an answer for this that didn't sound so cliche, but I just don't. The best way to know if your husband is cheating on you is to know your relationship. If your relationship is based on truth, love and commitment, chances are he is not cheating on you. I have seen so many couples go through this and often times it was because one or both have put other areas of their life first. Your mate needs to be the most important person in your life next to children.

I suppose if there has to be a "list" then I would say start watching how often he includes you in outings. If he starts accusing you of being unfaithful and there are no real grounds for his suspicions, he is most likely guilty and trying to turn it around to you, usually as a diversion. Men go through a rough period starting around 43 and continuing until 50, sometimes longer depending on their social life. So do not mistake this "difficult" time as cheating, rather take that opportunity to be attentive and nurturing. Any man loves to be treated like they are the best in the world, the best lovers, the best in sportsmanship and even the best talkers, yep! So make them feel just so. There isn't a woman out there than can grab the attention of a man who is happily married and excited to go home.

Our lives are hectic, especially if we are mother's, wives, homemaker's and even out holding down a job or hobby. Take a minute to notice your significant other, tell him how nice his hair looks or how impressed you are with how young he looks for his age. If your sex life disappears, so will your faithful husband, so make sure you "offer" yourself even if it is the farthest thing from your mind at the moment. There are clever ways of making him think you are a sex goddess without even an ounce of sex! Back rubs and massages are a great start! If you wear him out at home, he is generally too tired to start up a new relationship elsewhere. Tired and nagging a lot? STOP! the quickest way to chase a man out of the house is to nag him out. Be the woman that he is proud to call his wife, guys like to make other guys jealous of the fact that their women do so much for them.

Now before you go and attack me for being on their side, remember this, next to a happy man is always a happier woman.

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  • Lakshmi_koyal's Avatar
    Posted by Lakshmi_koyal Tue Jan 13, 2009 11:34pm PST

    excuse me, there is a mistake in my previous comment & sorry for that.

    Plz read the second line as " Also he'll put blame on u however sincere u are.."

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    Posted by wildrose Thu Jan 15, 2009 5:04am PST

    Come on, women and men are sexual beings. Men just have more free time, me time, and when selfish, take advantage of it. We live in a world that showcases women's bodies for profit -- that is part of the problem. If more half-naked pictures of men were everywhere selling everything from soap to cars, things would be different. I don't buy the double standard, and other women shouldn't either. Men and women shouldn't cheat on their partners. But, if he or she does cheat, you have to leave and find someone who has enough respect and self-control to be true.

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    Posted by Abuo Sat Jan 17, 2009 4:38am PST

    I work in Domestic Violence and Child Protection Unit that handles issues of families.My exp is,women tend to be very furious when a guy asks of areality of a man she has an affair with.you'll be shurt down as soon as a man mentions the right names of the cheatingman.The two are just equal and need to be one and trust one another.Its simple to avoid cheating on each other if you can both keep renewing your lovu each day.also avoid gossips and to youselves and bussy.

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    Posted by Abuo Sat Jan 17, 2009 5:25am PST

    I work in Domestic Violence and Child Protection Unit that handles issues of families.My exp is,women tend to be very furious when a guy asks of areality of a man she has an affair with.you'll be shurt down as soon as a man mentions the right names of the cheatingman.The two are just equal and need to be one and trust one another.Its simple to avoid cheating on each other if you can both keep renewing your lovu each day.also avoid gossips and to youselves and bussy.

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