Does it have to be in the bedroom, or can it basically be anywhere on the planet? For me, it starts anywhere...anytime I feel as though my man is in tune with my needs.
I have tried to explain to men a trillion times that foreplay does not necessarily involve flowers, cards or jewelry, and often can occur without even being touched. Foreplay for me is when I come home tired and stressed out from a long day at work, and rather than park himself in front of the sports channel, my man walks into the kitchen and starts unloading the dishwasher. Foreplay is not calling me and pestering me about what's for dinner, it's requesting that I come straight home because dinner is already on the table. Foreplay is not asking how he can help with the kids, it's running their bath water, bathing them, and reading them a bedtime story. Foreplay is not asking me if I know where his brown sock is, but rather identifying the overflowing laundry basket shoved in the corner, and taking on the task of folding its contents.
These are things that are important to me. Why? Because doing these things tells me that my man understands I've had a long day, recognizes my job does not end once I walk through the front door, and realizes my need and desire to get into bed at a decent, reasonable hour. The amount of sleep necessary to be a productive, stable, PLEASANT individual is truly undervalued. That's why any job, task or assignment that he undertakes which allows me to cut down on my evening "busy time" is definitely considered foreplay in my book. It is amazing the amount of energy I can muster up for other things once I feel appreciated, valued and supported...and in the end, both of us benefit from early bedtime.
So how about you, what's your definition of foreplay?
So what's your definition of foreplay?
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Posted by Wed May 28, 2008 3:21pm PDT
Report AbuseI would have written something else before reading your post. I do agree that foreplay doesn't have to begin with touching. To me, it can be anything from dirty talk, changing your clothes into something sexy, or simply using body language to communicate that you are in the mood.
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Posted by Wed May 28, 2008 4:47pm PDT
Report AbuseJeff she was saying that it doesn't have to be sex related at all! Just being nice to us women is a form of foreplay. I know that if my man and I are not on the best of terms or he does something that just really frustrates me, there is no way I am going to even be in the mood come bed time.
Hint: Be nice to us ladies all day when you want to get some and maybe you just will!
and remember it doesn't have to be anything to do with sex!
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Posted by Wed May 28, 2008 7:44pm PDT
Report AbuseI had one boyfriend who laid down next to me on the grass right around sunset when the sky was still blue. And we talked about the patterns we would see...floaters, flashes of bubbles or lights that come while gazing long enough. Then he talked about auras he saw while looking at the trees, especially right after it rained outside....when all nature seemed refreshed and more alive than ever.
And I began to notice them too. Right at that moment, the world became a little more magical. And in realizing that from him, my heart turned to mush.
That worked.
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Posted by Wed May 28, 2008 9:11pm PDT
Report AbuseDanine, I totally agree with you. I think the best foreplay is COMMUNICATION, knowing your spouse and what she is all about. Men, also me sometimes forget thats what it akes to keep your woman happy. I feel that if your communicating, she is telling you romantically, spiritually, and sexually that she love you and she is in tuned with your heart and soul.
I hope as a man we too found out what our woman want and communicate with them all the way around. A woman is more then just what we think, they are so in tuned with nature and life that they can be with you forever if you vibe with them.
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Posted by Thu May 29, 2008 12:16pm PDT
Report AbuseWOW Nephthysya! That sounds WONDERFUL!! Gets me all worked up just imagining that scene!! :)
For me, it starts when my guy says something which speaks to my soul. For example, if he just looks over at me and says, "God, you're beautiful" or "I'm so happy you're in my life". A couple of those per week surely does it for me.
Another great post Danine, I LOVE your spirit!
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Posted by Mon Jun 2, 2008 9:25pm PDT
Report AbuseI really wish we had a say on which posts are featured on this site. I think this one is GREAT! I'd love to hear [read] other peoples opinions on this topic and what they consider foreplay. this post should not be buried on the back of the site because it is very interesting...in my opinion.
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Posted by Thu Jun 5, 2008 3:45pm PDT
Report AbuseForeplay for me is definitely saying just the "right" thing to me to make me feel like my man is aware of my value in our relationship and it definitely doesn't have to be "sexy". It can be as simple as a compliment or acknowledgment about the "little" things. A sneaky make out session works great too though!
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Posted by Sat Jun 7, 2008 7:13pm PDT
Report AbuseIT IS TO SHOW LOVE TO SOME ONE ALL DAY LONG,THE LITTLE THINGS YOU DO,DO FOR EACH OTHER.SHOW YOUR LOVE.
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