Some provocative views on Cheating and Adultery and why cheaters are some of the most disgusting and horrible human beings that you will ever meet!

I have very harsh feelings about cheaters and cheating. I’ve felt that sting and it created the worst pain and upset that I’ve experienced thus far in life. The paradox is that it’s also one of the greatest gifts in life that I’ve ever received as it set me free from a horrible human being to be free and available to grow and evolve and to be available for when the time comes that my life crosses paths with a good woman with whom I can share a quality relationship with.

Yanno how many cheaters often say they’re sooooooooooo sorry after they’ve been caught? Have you ever wondered just how sorry they were while they were in the process of cheating BEFORE they got caught? From that perspective, I think it makes their apology seem rather superficial at best. Granted, some people might actually be genuinely sorry as they’re expressing their apologies, but my point still stands, how sorry were they while getting sticky with another person?

But there are various reasons why people cheat. Some cheat as a means to leave a current relationship, others cheat as a means to fill emotional or sexual gaps in their lives. Others cheat simply to get their partner’s attention that something is wrong within their relationship. Regardless, in all the studies I’ve done on cheating and adultery, I’ve never once come across anything that has successfully convinced me that cheating is at all a good thing.

Some argue that cheating or adultery can be helpful to a failing relationship. I vehemently disagree. The idea here is that cheating forces problems between couples to be addressed so that they can be worked though and resolved. However, IF the relationship survives and later actually demonstrates the qualities of an improved relationship, this particular fact can only be acknowledged LONG AFTER the cheating ever occurred. That said, it’s an insanely risky gamble to think before hand that cheating might help a couple’s relationship.

One thing that cheaters seem incredibly selfish about is their sense of apathy regarding how their actions might hurt other people. I’ve seen with my own eyes the devastating effects that cheating can have on children. I’ve known other adults to commit suicide after they’ve learned of their partner’s infidelity. Other people sink so deeply into depression that they live the rest of their lives being emotionally crippled. Some people allow rage and anger to consume them to the point of becoming monsters that demonstrate some of the most hateful, vengeful, spiteful and evil behavior I’ve ever seen. But does the cheater ever think about these things before the cheat? Very rarely!!!!

Unfortunately, the biggest reason I’ve seen people cheat is simply because their sexual thirst is greater than what their relationship provides them with. Granted, I think a healthy libido in itself is perfectly normal, but so many people around us have suffered the effects of childhood traumatic sexualization which often results in insatiable sexual desires into their adulthood. The degree of sociopathy that so many adults demonstrate coupled with an insatiable sexual thirst drives a great many people into extramarital/extrarelational affairs.

The sense of sociopathy that I mentioned in my prior paragraph is one of the many things that inspired my interests in studying personality disorders. Narcissism, Sociopathy/Psychopathy (or “Antisocial P.D.”), Histrionic P.D., Passive-Aggressive Behavior, and Bipolar Disorder are the primary emotional/psychological dysfunctions that cheaters often suffer from or demonstrate. The benefit in studying these disorders coupled with studies of sociology has helped me to discern a person’s ability to, likelihood to, or tendency to cheat. And thus, I save myself a great deal of hassle by outright avoiding them completely.

And ahhhhhhhh yes, the ole cliché argument that people change. Granted, some people do change, and for personal reasons, I’m intentionally withholding how to discern this particular facet of a person, but there’s one thing that’s absolutely certain; they’ve only changed up until this very point in time right now. You must ask yourself, granted, they’re changed up until this very point in time right now, BUT, will they remain changed tomorrow, or the next day, or next year? How can you possibly trust that they’ll remain changed from here on out?

Why does a person cheat? Ok, there’s loads of reasons why people cheat, however, with regards to a person “changing”, if they were to ever again be faced with the exact same, or closely similar, conditions that drove them to cheat before, would they have the metal, the character, and the moral integrity to resist the urge to cheat again? Think about how hard it is for some people to quit smoking. They might be doing great for two weeks, they’ve “changed”, right? But when a smoker who’s recently quit smoking is offered a cigarette when the circumstances suggest that nobody will ever find out, what do you suppose the chances are that they’ll accept the cigarette that’s being secretly offered to them?

I’ve seen many cheaters try to manipulate people’s minds with crossing arguments such as; if you steal a number two pencil, does that make you a thief for the rest of your life? This is a completely unbalanced correlation. Every time I hear such a manipulative argument being offered, my mind immediately starts thinking something like “Oh my God, you b------ , you stole a .15cent pencil, you horrible human being, I condemn you to HELL for all eternity!!! (Shakes fists towards the heavens)” The act of committing adultery or cheating, something that’s so sever that can lead a person to commit suicide, simply can NOT be compared to stealing a pencil, yet, in desperation, cheaters will continue to offer such manipulative arguments.

Every now and then, I’ve happened upon a silly topic question that asks; if I were in a relationship with someone who withheld the fact that they’ve cheated in the past, right up to the point just before we’re about to be married, would I stop the wedding and terminate the relationship? My response? YOU’RE DAMN RIGHT I WOULD!!!

There’s a double perspective to consider in the decision that I’d make in the example I described in my prior paragraph. One, they’ve admitted that they’ve cheated in the past and I have no interest in being in a relationship with a cheater. Granted, this is a hypothetical question, but in reality, I’d have come to this awareness about them long before marriage. But just hypothetically speaking, if they’re the kind of person to hide something like this from me right on up to the point just before we’re about to be married, WHAT ELSE might they have been hiding from me as well? And, why would I want to be married to someone who’d hide such important things from me to begin with? Simply put, any relationship with them would be high-risk to say the least!

Over the years, I’ve come to realize that cheaters tend to despise me for my ideals and opinions on this particular subject matter. This may sound rather negative in nature; however, I use it to my advantage. It’s really very easy to provoke the animal from within and when they finally show it, they quickly start demonstrating all kinds of reasons that warrant my terminating any and all association with them. Granted, my disassociation with cheaters narrows all margins of opportunities to experience relationships with women, but I’d much rather be single instead of being in a relationship with a horrible human being.

Wishing everyone a beautiful day!

Peace, Love and Harmony,,, Shawn