STICKS AND STONES

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  Posted by Aira Sat Sep 19, 2009 8:03am PDT

  poor ppl....so next time, watch your language.....

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  Posted by Peapod Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:22am PDT

  Good Morning my friend Rebel! Hope this day finds you well. Great seeing you!!! Excellent topic.

  The worst consequence of words to me is when someone judges you by words from someone else. It's hard to believe a mature person would do that, but they do and I have to wonder about their character and ability to judge others on their own accord. The person spouting off about someone may not be necessarily lying, but their judgment may be clouded by issues that have nothing to do with the person they are angry with. Look how a marital situation can work. You say angry things about your spouse with all it's inherited baggage and then when you make up or at least find middle ground, you family and friends remember all the things you shared with them in anger, forgetting that every relationship has it's ups and downs and everyone has their faults. I do try and judge people how they treat me directly because it's how I want to be treated. There are always two sides to a story...even with those you love and trust. Life is short and people have fights. Nothing feels better than to use words to bring someone up, not down. If I could take back every word I ever said in anger, I would because it only made me feel more like cr@p.

  And if I may add, the worst place to ever put your angry words is on the Internet. It only hurts both parties involved and it's hard to take back once you have calmed down and made up. Look at the political discussions here. I cringe when I see some of the personal attacks on here between people and it's why I limit myself from these debates that I would love to participate in. The attacks just get so personal and I don't know why. Words do hurt, so I agree with you Jax!. Have a great day. Hope to see more of you in Shiney Land!! Oo o OooO Oo ooO O

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  Posted by Kendra Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:32am PDT

  Good Morning Jax, excellent post! Silence is golden, duct tape is silver! LOL!

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  Posted by Tender Love Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:33am PDT

  Why would you even care? Let people say things and gossip. Let them think that that destroyed you or your repuation. All that is relative to the bigger picture. Only God can judge anyone. So when the one damaged for no reason remains silent God will be handling the others fate on his own. Everything happens for a reason. Be careful in what you do because you may be 'winning' now however think of that person next time something goes wrong.

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  Posted by m@r!@ Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:39am PDT

  Hi jax, true, very true. Words hurt most of all. Physical hurts heal but pain inside grows and morphs into an ugly sad monster.

  ♥ Peace to you ♥

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  Posted by Super Abuelita Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:43am PDT

  I agree with Kendra!

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  Posted by RIVER Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:56am PDT

  Hey there Jax..nice to read you again..

  Yes I agree words can be hurtful, can destroy a young childs self esteem, can damage relationships when spoken in anger, words should never be taken lightly as once out of your mouth you can never take them back. I have learned such lessons.

  I love the use of words for beauty... I like to form them into phrases that uplift, build the spirit, ease the pain, help the downhearted,describe a scene from my minds eye and support the lost and lonely. I though have to be careful in how they are even phrased on shine as they can be misunderstood even if they are intended as a teasing manner or lighthearted banter...but the use of words are a big part of my life in my writings and poetry and I can only pray by sharing them they come to some good end..

  Blessings and peace to you and yours dear Jax..

  river

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  Posted by K Sat Sep 19, 2009 9:59am PDT

  Words are the worst or the best thing of all. Depending on how you choose to use them. In a relationship you must always watch what you say, because people remember them, and remember the hurt. I was thinking back to some things I remember my parents said to me, and how much it hurt then, and still hurts now, all these years later... But you know what is kinda funny? My husband now, we have had some fights, but I really cannot remember him ever saying anything degrading or derogatory toward me. Yes, we had many arguments, but he is so much kinder than I in that way. Now, I have said some really mean things, I admit, I amnot perfect and have to work on my mouth! I do miss him so much, and wish I could take all those things back that flew from my mouth in anger. I'm so grateful I have been able to share these last 3 years with him, and although he is far from me right now, I hope we will have many more years to come once he is home. Love to u! K

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  Posted by jax.rebel Sat Sep 19, 2009 10:19am PDT

  One important thing Pea Pod points out, and I think this is what she means, it is best not to immediately take sides, because if a couple who are having a fight deside to make up, you may had badmouth their loved one, and after all the dust has settled, they may make up and tell their loved one all the bad things you said about them. It is best not to say anything or take sides. But I think we are all guilty of this.

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  Posted by Peapod Sat Sep 19, 2009 10:32am PDT

  Indeed Jax. It's only human to want to take sides when you see a loved one hurt. But what I always try to do is support any decision a family member or friend makes if they decide to make peace with their spouse, sister, brother, or friend. I trust my loved ones enough to know that only they know that they know what is best for themselves. Who am I to say that I know more than they do based on things I was told?

  The peacemakers in society are far and few between, and I so admire people with this quality. Words spoken by a third party are only gossip and gossip does indeed hurt people so unnecessarily.

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