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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Tech-Savvy Guide To Catching A Cheater

As the professor of my news-reporting course always said: "If your mother tells you she loves you, check it out." The same goes for your partner.

One in four women use technology to spy on their partner, according to a Virgin Media survey. Spy is a pretty strong word, since the results of this survey surely include time spent surfing Facebook (guilty, as charged!) texting and Twittering. If you do want to spy on your partner (and we can talk about trust issues later) YourTechStuff.com has prepared a list of gadgets that will help–and make you feel like Mission Impossible's Ethan Hunt. Du du du… du du du. DU DU! Check 'em out:

Deleted Text Message Reader, ($149.95)
One-up your sneaky partner when he leaves his phone unattended by popping out his SIM card and inserting it into a subtle Cell Phone Spy. (The device looks like a USB flash drive.) Simply plug it into your computer to skim through his deleted text messages. If you don't like what you see, you can delete his entire address book for revenge–although we'd recommend you begin with a confrontation. Unfortunately this device only works with phones that have removable SIM cards, which excludes most smartphones.

Tell-All Teddy, ($69.00)
While this bear may appear harmless, it's got microphones for ears and a camera for brains. Leave it in your bedroom and your partner will have no idea what hit him when you present him with detailed accusations–although we hope it doesn't come to that! The downside: a furry bedroom buddy can be overtly conspicuous if you are over the age of twelve and have no children. And it’s a little freaky. 

Keystroke Loggers (from $29.95)
He watches football play-by-play; why should you pay any less attention to his computer usage? Step aside Big Brother: keystroke logging software is the she-stalker's version of the slow-mo replay. It records passwords, in and outgoing e-mails, websites visited, and so forth. If he's cyber cheating, addicted to porn, or planning a super-secret romantic getaway for the two of you (in which case you should feel really, really awful about invading his privacy) you'll be sure to know about it. 

Television
This one isn't part of YourTechStuff.com's list, but the old box proved effective this week for at least one channel-surfing wife in Independence, Missouri. She discovered her husband had secretly wed another woman when she stumbled upon his broadcast wedding, which had taken place nearly a year earlier. Ouch.

Written by Elizabeth Narins for YourTango.com

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  • Michelle's Avatar
    Posted by Michelle Mon Feb 2, 2009 10:28pm PST

    I love technology. I used some of the spy stuff to catch my cheating husband. He told me I was crazy for years but I wasn't crazy. He was just a really good liar.

    Technology helped me prove the truth.

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  • Richard's Avatar
    Posted by Richard Tue Feb 3, 2009 1:10am PST

    So-called technology should be telling you what you already know. Otherwise your intuition is broken. I guess it helps with proof, that is provides you painful knife of details. If he's a liar you already knew that.

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  • Jay's Avatar
    Posted by Jay Tue Feb 3, 2009 7:20am PST

    that reatarted cause some people just dont trust their partners and if there is no trust in the relationship there is no need to be in that relationship

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  • Amy's Avatar
    Posted by Amy Tue Feb 3, 2009 8:33am PST

    I agree with Richard.

    I can see uses for this sort of thing in some extreme cases, but you might be playing with fire if it causes you to become overzealous. Being obsessively distrusing can be as damaging as being one who cheats, especially if he is doing little or nothing wrong. An old friend once told me - don't ask the questions if you don't really want to know the answer. Think about it.

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  • Kiara's Avatar
    Posted by Kiara Tue Feb 3, 2009 10:32am PST

    men are going to cheat its apart of their nature ladies we have to treat them like they do us.

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  • Monica's Avatar
    Posted by Monica Tue Feb 3, 2009 11:46am PST

    boo to everything

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  • Monica's Avatar
    Posted by Monica Tue Feb 3, 2009 11:46am PST

    boo to everything

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  • beautykween's Avatar
    Posted by beautykween Tue Feb 3, 2009 12:32pm PST

    i agree with Richard, too. go with your gut. sure, the technology is probably great for gathering hard evidence, but why put yourself through all of that extra trauma if you already have a weird funny feeling?

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  • Katalin's Avatar
    Posted by Katalin Tue Feb 3, 2009 2:49pm PST

    Ehh, screw that...When your man says all the time how much he loves you, and he wants nobody else but you, you calm down, and you think he is the second best thing since chocolate. And then there are things that bothers you. Little secrets he has...like he gets upset if I check his phone. Why I dont get mad when he checks mine? coz I know he will not find nothing! Why I do not care if he is sniffing around? coz I know he won't find anything. But when I do the same he gets nervous. But I have no proof. So technology is great! Because some of us are being played so good that we need proof, for sure!

    And really. Is there any relationship when you can trust the other for sure?? I mean come on, ladies, be on your toes, coz my dad cheated on my mom after 20 some years of marriage. So don't talk to me about trust, because I know I will keep my eyes open, and if my man wants to cheat he better makes sure I will not find out. But I will, hehehe!:)

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  • Katalin's Avatar
    Posted by Katalin Tue Feb 3, 2009 2:54pm PST

    And beautykween, I'd rather put myself trough all the trauma and heartaches than being played by a stupid ass man who can't respect himself, and can't keep his snake in his pants. I rather go through all of that then look like an idiot, because cheating is wrong, and I dont wanna waste my time on a man like that. But believe me, some of them are real players, and you would never know unless you really investigate.

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