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Monday, December 7, 2009

The Power Of Nicknames

According to 'science' and 'scientists,' private nicknames foster closeness. To which I say "no doy, Einstein." Over at The Today Show, they say that a study published in the Journal of Social And Personal Relationships says that relationship satisfaction increases in proportion to the amount of "insider language" a couple uses.

A PhD relationships therapist named James Turndoff says, "Using nicknames and made-up language is an easy way to inject positive communication into everyday life." Good call, Doc. In addition to pet names, private language is great way to establish the all-important Bonnie-and-Clyde-ness of a relationship. It's US versus the WORLD and if you can't understand what I'm saying then you are not with US.

While this may seems a little high school-ish ("Oh my God, BooBoo, it's just me and you, no one has ever felt this way before about each other. They don't understand us and they'd try pull us apart if they knew what we had. Let's drink each other's blood,"), it's the way of the world. Even good friends develop nicknames to convey affectionate closeness ("My friends call me Vicky, you may call me Dr. Mason").

And, frankly, hearing or saying pet names isn't that awful, is it? Yeah, some nicknames are a touch on the rot-your-teeth-out-with-saccharine side ("Who's my fuzzy wuzzy Tiger Tummy?"), but it sort of makes sense that people who eschew familiar nicknames may have intimacy issues or take themselves way too seriously. And people who bag on other people's nicknames may just be gween-eyed, widdle haters… ("yes you are, who's my widdle hater?).

In summary, rock your nickname with pride, because you're only Pickles to one special person, to everyone else your name is Chris and you work in accounting (or whatever your real name is).

Hit us with some of your favorite and weirdest pet names.

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  • Josie Mae's Avatar
    Posted by Josie Mae Tue Apr 14, 2009 10:40am PDT

    It sounds great to know that it helps in a relationship. It's maybe because of the privacy. It's sweet if only both of know it. That's maybe the secret of successful love stories of <a href="http://www.cebuanas.com/">philippine women</a>. Their relationships are getting stronger. This is very inspirational for us.

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  • Krystle's Avatar
    Posted by Krystle Tue Apr 14, 2009 11:09am PDT

    My boyfriend and I have used "Manness" for him and "Sweetness" for me often for over 2 years! He's programmed in my phone as Manness and I am in his as Sweetness. We love your names!

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  • Julie's Avatar
    Posted by Julie Tue Apr 14, 2009 11:20am PDT

    Hooray for nicknames! I have given my boyfriend tons... The one most used is "Booty" 'cause if I were a pirate, I found my gold, my booty! He also has an awesome booty, and he's my permanent booty call. So he gets called "Bootylicious", "Bootles Spagootles", and "Mr. Bootyjangles".

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  • Melissa's Avatar
    Posted by Melissa Tue Apr 14, 2009 11:25am PDT

    c*ntface. i'm totally serious and it makes me laugh every time...

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  • Aurora Jette's Avatar
    Posted by Aurora Jette Tue Apr 14, 2009 12:20pm PDT

    i am nikirollerblades! proud of it too <3 but i love when my guy friends call me nik like i'm just one of the guys.

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  • ColeK's Avatar
    Posted by ColeK Tue Apr 14, 2009 1:26pm PDT

    I have nicknames for many friends all special to that person. Here's a few: Hotlips, Grasshopper, Donkey, Godzilla, Lone wolf, Pocahontas...

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  • Ashley's Avatar
    Posted by Ashley Tue Apr 14, 2009 1:52pm PDT

    bird and bear

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  • springtime's Avatar
    Posted by springtime Tue Apr 14, 2009 2:27pm PDT

    I am surrounded by nicknames. As a kid, my brothers called me Sissy. We called our youngest brother Stinky. Still do sometimes just to irritate him. My grandfather was "Pappy-Happy". We call a cousin Dollar General. Another cousin is MeatLoaf. Another is Rerun ( she starts college classes and then drops out). My guy's name is Jacob but he answers to Jake, Jack, Cobie, and I call him "Grin". I answer to Saucy, Sassie, Dimples, and Bebe.

    The best of all? My mom..."Lovey"

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  • HEATHER's Avatar
    Posted by HEATHER Tue Apr 14, 2009 3:24pm PDT

    for my love, i call him cutebutt, cutie, cute-o, chimp and a few more.

    for me, he calls me chomp, cute-o, baby, lunchbox, and more.

    and we made up a new word for love.

    it's mgove :)

    don't steal that!

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  • another hockey fan's Avatar
    Posted by another hockey fan Tue Apr 14, 2009 4:13pm PDT

    He calls me: little girl & babydoll

    I call him: Bubbas :-)

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