Gosh, I love love love this book. Every time I talk about this book at a pleasure party I am reminded why I love this book so much. If you do not know Sadie Allison, Google her. She knows her stuff! She is a local author, from Santa Cruz but lives in San Franciscso and she writes the most user friendly books in this crazy industry.
For starters, I own a Pleasure Party business in the Bay Area called www.BlissPartiesInc.com and I also own an online Romance Store called www.BlissConnection.com and I end up talking about this book at length about 3 times a week and so do my employees.
This book is about giving oral sex to a man, but Sadie includes so much more in this book. Normally, I start off my suggesting to my party guests that one of the highest compliments you can pay to a person is to put their genitals into your mouth. I mean TRULY...it does not get much more intimate then that, does it? It takes alot of attraction and trust to want to give this type of pleasure to your partner. And, I am sure that the reason some married women do not give this type of pleasure after a certain time is that their needs are not being met and perhaps there is some resentment in the relationship....but alas, I am not a counselor. I am the "Toy Diva" and a Pleasure Coach. So, let's get to the stuff I do know.
For starters, EVERYONE loves enthusiasm when it comes to technique. No matter how bad the oral you are receiving is, if the person giving it to you is enthusiastic and wants to give it their all, it's hard to be critical of it, isn't it. Just like everyone loves confidence....everyone also loves enthusiasm.
Like any kind of sexual experience, the more communication you have between the giver and the receiver, the better it will be for both parties. Be sure to let the person know that you are enjoying your self. Don't fake any ridiculous noises...just a nice moan or two when something feels JUST right is a great way to keep the GIVER involved and trying very hard to give you good oral.
Sadie also suggests that before you attempt to give oral to your male partner, they should do some "manscaping"..and in fact, the entire chapter 5 talks about "manscaping" the "man area" so that everything is nice and clean and trimmed. NOBODY enjoys alot of pubic hair in their mouth. (Ok, save a few men who are really really into hair.) I like to tell the girls at our home parties that NO ONE EVER LOOKED SEXY SCRAPING A PUBIC HAIR off f their tongue! Right?
Many women are worried about the ejaculate and Sadie does give some tips on page 30 for how to make his ejaculate taste better....but no one ever said you have to swallow to give great oral. There are lots of ways around swallowing if you are really not up for that. He will be just as happy with a "non swallowing" b.j. and he will be with the kind where you do. So do not feel that this is a requirement of giving great oral. It's not! He will be just as happy to use your lovely breasts to finish or even just use his hand to finish himself for you while you watch.
Did you know there are 15 Ways to Give a ----- ? Who knew, right? I always joke that I knew about 6 or 7 of her techniques, but 15! WOW. Sadie really did her homework with this book. And, the cute diagrams really explain each technique and how to do it. Her books rock.
As you can tell, I am a big fan of Tickle His Pickle and my customers love it, too. It's a fun book that real couples can actually use and it's not filled with lots of ridiculous positions or anal sex techniques. Just real things real couples will do. Some of our customers have told us that they keep it next to the bed, open it up and then find something new they have never done and then give that new technique a try. FUN stuff!
