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  Posted by Heather -HH- Sun Apr 12, 2009 5:52pm PDT

  Im not a guy, but maybe I can help you out.

  Try and spice up your routine....maybe go to a sex store...buy somethings for the both of you.....if your not into that, maybe try longer foreplay. Stress is known to play huge acts in your sex drive, try and relax before doing the deed. Or you could wait a few days, build yourself up, then go for it.

  I doubt that helped you out lol.

  Have a good night and good luck !! :)

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  Posted by LoverLumps Mon Apr 13, 2009 4:08am PDT

  You know if your both insecure with yourselves then yall should talk about it. Then you both can work on what needs to be done to meet each others needs. There is no need to be sensitive about his subject with your girlfriend of 5 years... yall should be able to handle without any hesitation.

  Make sure to tell her she is beautiful and always complement her and that should help her feel more confident. Also with sex ask her is she has any fantasies that she would like to try!! Have a safe word for when it becomes to much for each other. Also tell her your fantasies and see what yall can do with that. Role playing can be fun too and yall can buy some lingerie and rent a hotel ad that should help her boost her confidence. Since yall have been together for a while ... I am betting yall both want each other to be happy and being able to please each other through sex or other things so go for it!! No need to be ashamed just tell her how much you love her and her body and always be positive... that also helps the mind. Massages are a great way to start.. my hubby knows when ya ask for massages it can turn into anything!! ALSO ORAL IS GREAT TOO DURING SEX!!! Change up the positions during sex the floor living room, kitchen bathroom, shower... anywhere you want against the wall since your fit!!! Good Luck!!

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  Posted by another hockey fan Mon Apr 13, 2009 12:52pm PDT

  Maybe try to add some variety as an earlier user posted. Porn, sex outside of the bedroom, dirty talk or going for a romantic interlude and trying to start from a place other than sexual and work your way up to it. Perhaps for you the sessions are so predictable and routine, it's why you lose interest. You want more foreplay. If this still doesn't work, you might want to see a doctor. Maybe you are really stressed about something (work?) and it's interfering with your intimacy.

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  Posted by Anthony Wed Apr 15, 2009 11:17am PDT

  I'm a 44 year old male and me and my fiance' have been together over 3 years. We went through a ruff patch for a while and now our sex life is better then ever. I would say that you should try and do something special for her. Give her a massage or do something that she likes to do. If you two are in love everything comes back 10 fold!! I feel great when my girl feels special. Hope this helps

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