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Friday, December 4, 2009

Tips to Find Your Soul Mate

1.  Stop Looking.  Have you ever spent hours looking for something you've lost only to find it once you stopped looking?  It's the same with soulmates.  Once you stop trying so hard to find "the one" you're far more likely to find him or her.

2.  Stop Trying to Please People. This is especially true for many women, who often try so hard to make someone else happy that they lose themselves in the process. You want someone to love you for who YOU are, don't you? Not for becoming someone else.

3.  Lose the Sleaze Factor. I've seen so many women shorten their hemlines, wear push-up bras, and sport low-cut tops, who then wonder why they attract the wrong men. I think a lot of women do these things out of fear that no one will find them attractive. Sure, you'll attract people this way, but rarely ever the right type of person.
4.  Improve Yourself. I met my husband when I "gave up" on men. I had decided to simply focus on "better-ing" myself. Et voila! He showed up when I least expected it…but was at my best.
5.  Stop Creating Grocery Lists of What You Want in Another Person. That might work fine for groceries, but the love of your life should be so much more than a list of characteristics and attributes. Not to mention that so many people put ridiculous things like wealth, height, and other fairly shallow requirements on their list of expectations for their future mate. You wouldn't want to miss the love of your life because he or she is a few inches shorter than you wanted, now would you?

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By Michelle Schoffro Cook on Intent.com
Michelle Schoffro Cook, DNM, DAc, ROHP, RNCP is a best-selling and six-time book author and doctor of natural medicine, whose works include: The Life Force Diet, The Ultimate pH Solution, and The 4-Week Ultimate Body Detox Plan.  Learn more at: www.TheLifeForceDiet.com.

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  • TJ S's Avatar
    Posted by TJ S Thu Sep 24, 2009 5:04pm PDT

    WOW! Someone else gets it. AMEN!!!

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  • Bsj's Avatar
    Posted by Bsj Thu Sep 24, 2009 5:31pm PDT

    Bravo, a grown up woman who understands and values a true and honorable man and understands that he might not be necessarily be 6'2" with blue or green eyes. You don't have to throw out the whole grocery list, just make sure that honesty, loyalty, and a true emotional connection are at the top of that list above washboard abs and a grossly out of proportion man-hammer. I have had some exceptionally beautiful women in my life that couldn't think their way out of a Mcdonald's bag and I've had a few plain Janes that truly have a beautiful soul. In a nutshell, what is the use of a sports car with a fantastic paint job if the wiring is bad and the engine smokes? Have fun standing by the side of the road waiting for a cab. Look for a partner with more dependability.

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    Posted by Alexus Thu Sep 24, 2009 6:27pm PDT

    Yes there is such a thing as soulmates. I have had 1. You are right when peole stop looking it smacks you outta nowhere. It always does. But as far as Andrews post...THERE has to be some kind of attraction and chemistry!!

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    Posted by Bsj Thu Sep 24, 2009 7:31pm PDT

    Absolutely, point well taken. As a mature, straight, male I agree with Alexus, we don't approach people that we are not attracted to. As a man I will pursue a woman initially, because of how she looks. I will stick around and get to know more about her because I have social or sexual chemistry. But these positive characteristics don't guarantee that the person that you choose is going to be good for you or will enhance your life in the long run. There still has to be passion or else what is the point. Just remember there are women who have chemistry and passion with dysfunctional men that are doing life in prison. I bet that wasn't on the grocery list.

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  • Rae's Avatar
    Posted by Rae Thu Sep 24, 2009 9:18pm PDT

    That first one is so true. I was tired of being mistreated and walked on and decided that I was done. About a month later I started talking with my now boyfriend. We'll be together 2 years in December.

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  • *devotion72's Avatar
    Posted by *devotion72 Fri Sep 25, 2009 8:06am PDT

    WOW! Someone finally noticed! ABOUT TIME TOO!

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Fri Sep 25, 2009 8:27am PDT

    I am sorry but if you wear sexy" clothes on a daily basis having nothing to do with men, it is not sleazy! Your soul mate is a true love who will love you just the way you are, ugly, sleazy, and all.

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    Posted by None Fri Sep 25, 2009 8:28am PDT

    But of course some men think in the way I don't want a hot g/f cuz I don't want all the guys looking at her? Just hypocritical.

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  • Mali Malz's Avatar
    Posted by Mali Malz Fri Sep 25, 2009 8:59am PDT

    very good post... im definetly taking notes... maybe i haven't found my soul mate, although i was convinced i did....

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  • LIZ's Avatar
    Posted by LIZ Fri Sep 25, 2009 9:11am PDT

    I'm 20 years old... At this point in my life I dont believe in marriage and i gave up on finding "the one" ... The person who i thought was the love of my lifes just hurts me all the time..... my mom tells me the exact same thing! Stop looking...love will find you... i so hope this is true.... i hope it finds when by the age of 25 =) once im done with my degree....

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