To Kiss Or Not To Kiss On The First Date?

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  Posted by Kitten Tue Sep 22, 2009 5:07pm PDT

  I think kissing on the first date is fine.. However, fooling around is a definite first date no for me..

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  Posted by Carrie Tue Sep 22, 2009 5:23pm PDT

  Kissing is fine. The real definiotion of kissing not the one that my roomate and college folllowed. Kissing strak naked in bed while he was naked too.

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  Posted by sauce Tue Sep 22, 2009 6:07pm PDT

  i feel like reguardless if you kiss or not, hook-up or not, a guy is gonna decide right then and there whether they want a relationship or not. nothing says that if you wait 6 months or 10 years to have sex with them, that they cant be done with you the next day, lol. i mean, if you have sex the first time, i do think it will hinder the other aspects of developing a relationship, and might just turn into sex; it will take away of some of the mystery too, but i feel like at the end of the date, he's gonna decide whether he never wants to see you again, whether he wants to hook up, or whether you're something special. a kiss on the first date to me shows that everything went well, that he's definately attracted, and that (if he stops there) he cares enough to not jeprodize by trying anything more

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  Posted by Baly Tue Sep 22, 2009 7:06pm PDT

  I am from China ,as you know our cultrul is quiet triditional ,although it has a huge change now .And I do agree with Kermer, if you really take someone serious , waiting is not a big case . We'd better have a long time to know and understand each other .Kissing express loveing , I just want to give it to my lover~

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  Posted by February Tue Sep 22, 2009 8:16pm PDT

  Kissing is def fine on the first date. But sex on the first date is def out. The kiss can go all the way up to french kissing on the first date.

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  Posted by Captain Pathetic Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:04pm PDT

  I've had experiences with not kissing, kissing, and having sex on the first date. having run through all three of those options, I can't really say if any of them really determine the long term outcome of a new relationship. kissing on the first date is just fine... but as long as it is kissing, not like serious making out type of thing. just a simple goodnight kiss at the end of the date, sort of like a parting gift. a nice "thanks for taking me out and showing me a good time, I like spending time with you and we should do this again soon" kinda thing, a quick (or lengthy) kiss on the lips in a nice embrace at the end of a date keeps a guy's hopes up without it immediately going to sex, unless he has been thinking about trying to hook up with his date the whole time. but I straddle that odd line between "gentleman" and "realistic".

  realistically, I prefer a girl at least give me a hug if not a kiss at the end of a date, provided things went well. now if it was a crappy date, she only talked about herself and had to text and answer her phone several times throughout the date, I wouldn't even expect to be driving her home at the end. but if things went well, had a good time and a good back and forth conversation, a kiss in the end isn't out of the question or unwanted. kissing doesn't always cause me to automatically think that sex is next on the menu. on the occasions where that has happened on a first date, it hasn't meant that it was the only date we had... and not always was it about sex. sex obviously was a big part of the relationship (hard to avoid it when that's what you lead in with), but there was some romance involved after that situation.

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  Posted by Christina Tue Sep 22, 2009 11:02pm PDT

  I THINK KISSING ON THE FIRST DATE IS A NO NO. ONLY BECAUSE SOME MEN MIGHT FIND YOU TOO EASY. BUT THE ONLY WAY AROUND THAT IS IF YOU HAVE KNOWN THE GUY FOR A WHILE BEFORE YOU WENT OUT ON YOUR FIRST DATE THEN I THINK IT COULD BE APPROPRIATE FOR THE FIRST DATE, BUT STILL NOT TOO MUCH.

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  Posted by kwamboka Wed Sep 23, 2009 1:21am PDT

  kissing on first date is (meia) meaning it's fine.Coz this proves you Gent.knowing one for it does not matter at -all.soo go no and enjoy.

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  Posted by pwsgirl Wed Sep 23, 2009 4:10am PDT

  I'm from the old school--I think you should wait to kiss and not do it on the first date, at least not a liplock, anyway. If the guy wants to give the lady a little peck on the cheek, that can be fine as it doesn't indicate anything more to me than, "I like you and want to get to know you better," or "I consider you a friend." After all, you have to be friends before you can be lovers, right? (or at least I think you should be!) My now-husband and I went on about 3-4 dates before he ever kissed me--it was spontaneous and sweet and definitely worth waiting for. I would say ultimately, it's up to the individuals involved, but this is my opinion.

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  Posted by None Wed Sep 23, 2009 5:21am PDT

  Kissing, Hugging, a little touching, flirting, I don't care about and I don't value as a big deal, it's sex that you will have to wait for!

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