I have been told before that I am far too
smart for my own good--which I always assumed meant that I think I know
everything when really I totally don't and someday that's going to bite
me in the ass. It has also meant that I analyze things to death, that I
insist I am correct and cling to my rightness righteously to the point
of giant blow-outs, and that I have a sassy mouth for which I was about
to be grounded. It has never before meant, and never before did I think
it would mean, that I am just way too intelligent and educated to have
good sex. That's what a German survey suggests, anyway--that 62 percent of educated women had difficulty having orgasms.
Of
course, I'm skeptical about this survey--a small sample; it's just a
questionnaire given by a lifestyle magazine; it's hardly scientific or
conclusive and is filled with hastily drawn and probably extremely
shaky correlations that have nothing to do with causation; and I am
taking this very personally, I suppose, because I've got a graduate
degree and I don't have any difficulties with orgasms. Though maybe
it's because I screw my brains out. Ha!
But mostly, this survey
worries me a lot, because it makes for the kind of story that's ripe
for spinning into the quick and easy sexist stereotypes that make you
angry (or should)--the uptight brain versus the dumbass blonde with her
knees behind her ears, the frigid smarty pants versus the ditzy
good-time girl, the pervasive idea that a smart, educated woman can't
really enjoy sex, or talking about it or thinking about it, which was
pretty prevalent, as our smart commenters point out, not all that long ago--and still too frequently crops up.
And then we have that old-as-the-hills pissant idea that a woman
shouldn't ever show up a man, on the tennis court or in conversation or
in the office, and now, in bed? It's your fault he didn't make you
come, because you're just too brainy.
That survey is a tissue of
lies. Smart women are better in bed, because they're smart enough to
know that sex is awesome (high five!) and orgasms are as good as a
divine right. Smart women are strong, and quick and tough, and they
know what they want, they know how to articulate it, and they know how
to get it. And if they don't--they know how to figure it out. They're
good at pleasing themselves and their partners, in the process. And
they know there's no such thing as being too smart for their own
good--they're just good and smart. In bed and out.
SEE ALSO: "SEX BOMB: Smart women have worse sex"
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Comments 1-6 of 6
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Posted by Fri May 2, 2008 6:08pm PDT
Report AbusePossibly another attempt by a bunch of old b@stards to relay the message to women that it's just better if they don't do all that "thinking"; it wears them out...their poor little brains just aren't equipped for education. Look, the survey says educated women can't even enjoy sex anymore! Don't listen ladies, it's total BULL.
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Posted by Mon May 5, 2008 7:03am PDT
Report AbuseI do alot of kagal exersizes but still tend to queeve often. What do I do?
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Posted by Mon May 5, 2008 8:53pm PDT
Report Abuse....hmmm...what will the kinky "rock your world" Librarian types like me do know that everyone doesn't think we are good at sex anymore....
Guess all that AMAZING SEX that they could have will just have to go to waste!
LMAO!
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