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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Trips to Help Heal a Broken Heart

If you’ve ever been dumped before, then no doubt someone has advised you that “it takes time to mend a broken heart.” You probably think that’s trite, but it’s actually true. It takes time to repair a broken heart and it’s what you do in that time that will cause you to come out of this ordeal a bitter person or a better person. So you can spend all your time lying in bed, whining about your ex, or you can spend your time doing something constructive – like traveling! Hey, the term “travel therapy,” didn’t just fall out of the sky. It was coined for good reason:

Travel and change of place impart new vigor to the mind. ~Seneca

Whether it’s a road trip or a Spring Break Trip with StudentCity.com, travel will take you out of your current environment and help you “get your mind right.” When you make the choice to get away from it all, you will be too busy to:

  • Spend your time waiting for the phone to ring 
  • Constantly check your cell phone for text messages
  • Obsessively check your IM, Email, or Facebook page for messages from your ex
  • Make a fool out of yourself by calling, IM-ing, texting, or showing up at his house

In short, a quick vacation with your friends will help you jumpstart your healing process because, for a short time at least, you will cut all contact with your ex. Additional benefits:

  • You will reduce your anxiety level because you won’t have to worry about running into your ex
  • You will nurture those friendships that you may have neglected when you were part of a couple
  • You will meet new and interesting people
  • You will create new memories that have nothing to do with your ex

So if you (or a friend) have been dumped, go on a quick vacation to get away from it all. A new environment will help you clear your mind and will kick start your healing process. Then, when you return from vacation, write in a diary, or get a guided journal like The Breakup Workbook and join an online support group (like the one at BrokenHeartedGirl.com) to help you continue to get over your ex in a healthy manner.



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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Thu Oct 29, 2009 7:04am PDT

    "Make a fool out of yourself by calling, IM-ing, texting, or showing up at his house" Not necessarily, sometimes you need closure, and once you get it then its time to stay away from them and remove all items that reminded you of them.

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  • EW's Avatar
    Posted by EW Thu Oct 29, 2009 8:43am PDT

    burn everything! change or throw away your phone number, change your email. Matter of fact just leave the country. Thats What I did. I joined the Army, became a badass and never felt a better sense of self and freedom! It was magic!

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  • Deepak Shah's Avatar
    Posted by Deepak Shah Thu Oct 29, 2009 8:50am PDT

    Stop positng such blogs - every situation is unique -

    e.g. If you really really love someone, you might have to go to great lengths...it all depends on an individual...

    Such generic statements are crap -

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  • SILENT KNIGHT's Avatar
    Posted by SILENT KNIGHT Thu Oct 29, 2009 9:15am PDT

    Just let it burn and it'll go numb afterwhile, but inbetween time go find something more positively productive to do...Besides running yourself in circles is not forward motion. Sometimes you have to vent and just let it flow, til you find the peace of mind and calmness of spirit to better deal with what happened so you can make all the proper adjustments.

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  • Diamonds R 4ever E's Avatar
    Posted by Diamonds R 4ever E Thu Oct 29, 2009 9:42am PDT

    sometime u do need closure. once u get it and u know he's not interested in u anymore,,,burn everything he gave u or that reminds u of him, pamper urself, go out with friends,and remember u deserve something better than a selfcentered arrogant cold hearted fool of a man. Ur better than that. Repsect urself.

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  • tim's Avatar
    Posted by tim Thu Oct 29, 2009 9:46am PDT

    u no i can tell u i really love this girl and i have a broken heart bc all i want is her. u have no idea how i feel about this girl. all i can do is stay away and make myself better then anyone i mean make myself perfect. i want to be perfect for her. i love her so much. i am planning on winning her back. in a way that is never heard of. i love her more then anything. and i will fight for her my entire life

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  • Anthony's Avatar
    Posted by Anthony Thu Oct 29, 2009 10:14am PDT

    I agree with Tim on this one i have an ex i really miss and want back more than anything. I will do anything to win her back no matter what it takes. She is my life and my first true love nothing in this world has made me feel as she has.

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  • Lightnin''s Avatar
    Posted by Lightnin' Thu Oct 29, 2009 11:07am PDT

    Sounds like a couple of stalkers on here!

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  • prisbrou's Avatar
    Posted by prisbrou Thu Oct 29, 2009 11:19am PDT

    Awww Tim and Anthony, that is so sweet. Just to dont take it to the scary place

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  • BrokenHeartedGirl.com's Avatar
    Posted by BrokenHeartedGirl.com Thu Oct 29, 2009 12:45pm PDT

    I didn't say don't get closure. I think if you need to talk, then you need to talk. But a good vacation AFTER it's over can be amazing.

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