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Saturday, November 7, 2009

User post: How to Date a Rich Man

Do you repeatedly pick romantic partners who are total losers?  Maybe you're sick of boyfriends who live off of you without so much as a thank-you.  Perhaps you wonder why you can’t find a man who will pay his share – let alone pay your way.

If you're ready for a whole new dating experience (aka dating a rich guy!), check out this advice from  modern day courtesan – and published author – Veronica Monet.

Think of dating as a good sales technique. "We don’t like to think something as crass as “sales” has anything to do with love, dating or marriage; but it does," says Monet, author of Sex Secrets of Escorts – Tips from a Pro. "We all use sales techniques while we are dating. We just don’t talk about it in those terms. But let’s be honest: you don’t show up for a first date smelling of body odor and looking like you haven’t engaged in any personal grooming for a few months."

Don’t take advantage of him. "Although some men have inherited their wealth, the vast majority of them worked very hard for what they have and (except in some rare instances) they didn’t get rich by being stupid," she says. "If you under-estimate your wealthy man and try to take advantage of him, you will wind up being the sucker – NOT him."

Let your “dating personality” shine!  “Rather than think of it as a fake version of yourself or some sort of acting job, envision your dating personality as the best you,” says Monet. “It’s who you really are when you aren’t angry, tired, lonely, sad or bored – a more playful and flirtatious you!”

So, here’s the million (er . . . let’s make that a billion) dollar question: why on earth would a wealthy man want to date you?  If you haven’t thought about that question, then you're not ready for the big time.

Monet gives three specific reasons a rich guy would want to date you in 3 Tips for Dating a Wealthy Man. Her tips aren't about beauty, style, or shape -- they're about who you are as a woman. I love her tips because they can help you achieve all types of life goals!

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen is a full-time writer and blogger who created and maintains a series of Quips and Tips blogs: Quips and Tips for Successful Writers, Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals, and Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility. She's also the Feature Writer for Psychology Suite101.

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  • Aj's Avatar
    Posted by Aj Fri Jun 12, 2009 7:58am PDT

    Who wants money? is what this article should say!

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  • Jen's Avatar
    Posted by Jen Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:13am PDT

    Umm, I'm wondering why should we take advice from and Escort? They use em and lose em, I want a keeper.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:14am PDT

    Um where are the tips?

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  • Elm's Avatar
    Posted by Elm Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:25am PDT

    Yea this article is pointless if it doesnt have the tips!

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  • another hockey fan's Avatar
    Posted by another hockey fan Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:28am PDT

    Who's chasing after a rich man and unless you are 29 and under and a Playboy bunny type there's not much chance he'll be interested in you either...

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  • Dubs's Avatar
    Posted by Dubs Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:28am PDT

    Should there a be a corresponding article for .."How to be PC about objectifying women", written by Sleazy McDouchemeister aka Laura PK?

    I could go on and on about how sexist this is, totalizing a man for his wealth and not for who he is, however, it goes both ways, men still get trapped in the vice of totalizing a woman for the beauty alone. The dichotomy of this argument could go on forever, I just don't really have the energy to care about Laura PK's tips on how to be a better golddigger. Its not the 1950's anymore lady, Mr. Sandman is not bringing you any treats.

    There are a lot of sensible women here on Shine that will agree, if they don't and identify with this trash..then well, I will just have to make fun of them. :P

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  • ashley's Avatar
    Posted by ashley Fri Jun 12, 2009 9:29am PDT

    Dubs is right, and I really wonder why in the world Shine would have an article like this. Please take it off, it's demeaning towards women; we are fully capable of making our own money! This is madness, I'm very disgusted.

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  • Laurie PK, Quips & Tips for Achieving Goals's Avatar
    Posted by Laurie PK, Quips & Tips for Achieving Goals Fri Jun 12, 2009 11:28am PDT

    What's wrong with wanting to date a wealthy man? It doesn't mean you can't make your own money or pay your own bills -- it's just a different perspective on dating.

    And, Dubs, why can't you disagree with a perspective without attacking the person? There's nothing wrong with Veronica Monet's views on dating (which by the way aren't mine, so you're calling the wrong person "sleazy").

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  • Dubs's Avatar
    Posted by Dubs Fri Jun 12, 2009 12:22pm PDT

    "And, Dubs, why can't you disagree with a perspective without attacking the person? There's nothing wrong with Veronica Monet's views on dating (which by the way aren't mine, so you're calling the wrong person "sleazy").

    Posting the garbage is just as offensive as writing the garbage. Spreading around and perpetrating the goldigging stereotype in the guise of financial independence is like me posting an article here on Shine about being a Player and classifying women into attractive body types and when and how to veil my sincerity ignoring her other important qualities.

    Nobody wins with sexist material, is it that hard to understand? I'm glad I hit a nerve because it is one that is in definite need of being struck.

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  • Dubs's Avatar
    Posted by Dubs Fri Jun 12, 2009 12:28pm PDT

    The real irony is the advertisement spam posted beneath my original post in correlation to this topic.....

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    " Is it wrong for a man to have a sugar baby or a woman to have sugar daddy??

    It is an absolutely extramarital relationship, but more and more services came out on Internet focusing on this kind of relationship.

    such as --- http://www.SugarDaddyChat.com/---

    it's the biggest sugar dating site for beautiful woman and rich man!"

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    Otherwise known as either an escort service or prostitution. Which is bluntly all this topic attempts to offer via double speak and tangential advice on how to be civil about it. HAH! *golfclap*

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