My close friend whom i met through my boy friend hangs out with him
a lot. She goes to my bf's shop to help him out with his
work and to hang out. She is a very attractive almost
flawless girl who is really close with my bf. She met him
this summer while clubbing and claims my bf is "the brother
she never had". My bf hangs out with her quite a lot and
sometimes i feel that he's "checking her out".
I feel they have a better connection than i have with my bf.
I know that they're just good friends but sometimes i
have this gut feeling that maybe my bf has deep feelings for her.
I'm afraid that my bf will fall for her because they hang out
all the time. Me and my bf haven't even hung out for a
week and she's already seen my bf almost everyday. My
friend and my bf never try to hide whenever they hang out so i feel
i shouldn't worry but lately, she doesn't tell me if she
went to my bf's shop or not. Maybe because she does feel
sorry that my bf sees her more than i do?
I can see them flirting back and forth since my friend is single
and hot. One night when i was working and my bf's friends
and she went out, i heard my bf was carrying her bc her feet were
sore from wearing boots. Their actions make me so frustrated
and i don't know what to do. I tried to confront my bf
about it because i couldn't take it anymore and all he said was
"I can see where you're coming from". That just
tells me he knows what he's doing wrong. I never tried to
confront my friend because i'm afraid it'll ruin our
friendship i have and i consider her one of my best friends now.
I wish she could understand my feelings and stop hanging out
with my bf so much. I have to have my guards up because she
is very attractive and is also smart. She needs to learn to
give him space so i can hang out with him.
I also feel that he would fall for her because i'm always
studying and don't spend too much quality time with him.
She is always available to hang out and is a very spontaneous
girl, which my bf likes. They seem to get along better than
me getting along with my bf. I wouldn't be surprised if
people thought her and my bf are in a relationship together since
they are always together. My friend is also close with my
bf's kids and the kids love her. She is just perfect for
him. She helps him whenever he's in need of help and is
an affectionate friend.
Should i talk to her about this problem or should i disregard it
and think it's silly since they're only good friends?
Is there a possible chance my bf is falling for her because
she has everything he needs and are best friends?
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 7:13am PST
Report AbuseOuch! That's a tough one hun. I would never be able to be second best to anyone when it comes to a relationship, all I gotta say is hang in there! Time will tell..
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 8:33am PST
Report AbuseThe emotional relationship that she is developing with your so-called boyfriend is happening as we speak. She knows what she is doing, an she's doing it because you Bf isn't respecting you enough to tell you that he's making sure that he has her, before he dunks you. Think: If you walked away, who would be in his bed the next minute? Elementary watson! This is about your boyfriends respect level for you. She is just competing for what she wants,...you know!
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 8:57am PST
Report Abuseyou both are right, but she also has eyes on my bf's friend... she tells him about her guy problems to my bf all the time. I don't know if he would be attracted to her if she clearly isn't interested in him but friendship... however, i could see her developing emotional relationship and soon be in the same page together
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 9:38am PST
Report AbuseYou need to confront your friend. She needs to know that this bothers you. You also need to find ways to spend more time with your boyfriend. He's dating you not your friend so you know that he cares about you but it sounds like you are giving up. Relationships take work. IF you truly care about him then you need to make more effort instead of whining. :) Good luck!
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:05am PST
Report AbuseDitch the guy. If he were a decent guy, he would avoid your friend.
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:10am PST
Report AbuseIf he falls then don't hold on...just drop him. The only weight to this matter that makes it so heavy is you are more worried about them than you are for yourself. Boyfriend is not a husband so technicly he still has the right to choose and so do you. Some decisions you have to let people make for themselves regardless of how strongly you feel about them. If you truly care about him you would alow him to be happy however he chooses, if he does and that would say alot more about you than appearing to have control over other peoples feelings. The truth about being held sometimes is learning how to let go, until the moment is right to hold on or just be held. You sound like you already know what to do...so just let it play out and go from there.
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:11am PST
Report Abusewell you need to talk to them bouth dont you coumactions is key and make yourself clear hey do you think he and her are already crossing the line ... hard to say but not belive... good luck one qouestion how old are you ... You sound young
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:25am PST
Report AbuseFirst of all, if she's seeing him everyday and you haven't seen him in a week ... Is he really your boyfriend or are you maybe making this relationship out to be more than it really is? I'm not trying to be mean, but it seems your reality may be a little skewed here. Perhaps, you should back off a little and if he comes to you then you know that's he's really interested. If a week goes by and he doesn't call or make an attempt to see you, it's time to move on sweety. Be sure you aren't just a convenience for him because you're the one giving it up. If he's putting another woman in front of you, you should just move on. I'm sure there's a better man out there that will want to spend his time with you.
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:29am PST
Report AbuseI think you should have a talk with her. Tell her how it makes you feel and if she is a true friend then it wont be a big deal. Guys sometimes think girls over react about situations like this. But as a girl, your friend should undersatnd how you are feeling. In the end if it is meant to be...then it will. Good luck!
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:32am PST
Report AbuseWell sweetie, I have to agree with Urassismine....ummm, the emotional relationship is already developing. She may like his friend but I think she has already developed deep feelings for your bf and the feeling might be mutual. But sit them down and tell them how you feel. Don't accuse them..just say how you feel. And remember actions do speak louder than words.
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