User post: Lover Behind Bars--How do you deal?

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  Posted by Visha Thu May 21, 2009 8:04am PDT

  Well to me it depends what the the person done what type of crim did he r she do . Then after how did the person treat u . It's up to u and the way u fill about your mate. Put your trust in gods hands and ask him to guide u in the direction he fill is best for u . When u love make shore u the person for who they are. Never play with anyone feeling cause in the long run it willl cum back to hunt u.

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  Posted by None Thu May 21, 2009 8:51am PDT

  What a stupid blog, find a REAL man who is not a thug and you won't have to worry about someone being carted off. He deserves much worse, for animal abuse. If he can play with the lives of innocent creatures, what makes you think he won't try a human next.

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  Posted by alyse Thu May 21, 2009 8:55am PDT

  My son has been in and out of prison for about 7 years. He can't seem to break away from the bad influences, he can't seem to stay away from drugs and bad decisions. His sentence is usually 15 months in jail and 3 months out.

  I feel sorry for him, but now that he's 24 there isn't much I can do. I used to blame myself and get down on myself as a bad parent. But I know that is incorrect, we all do the best we can do with what is given to us. As an adult he will make bad decisions, he just doesn't seem to learn from them.

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  Posted by Anna Marie Thu May 21, 2009 9:04am PDT

  Depends on how much you love him/her or how far the feelings run.. I would if I really loved them because like they say True love comes to those who Wait....!!!

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  Posted by BIGDADDY'S GIRL Thu May 21, 2009 9:09am PDT

  i was engaged to a man that i was with for 4 years he went to prison, i stuck by him everyday. we wrote during the week and i saw him every single Saturday and Sunday and on the holidays i was there at the prison for the full 6 hours of the visitation i never missed a day no matter what else was goin on or how sick i was. if you truly love someone you wouldnt up and leave because they made a mistake

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  Posted by Aj Thu May 21, 2009 9:18am PDT

  I am sorry to hear about your story Alyse you will be in my prayers. Yeah I agree its not your fault lady cause you did all you could do, some children just like the bad side of life. I got people like that and no matter how many times they bump their heads in jail they doing wrong things...

  Anywho back to the post.. Uh I dont like criminals/thugs/pimps or whoever seems like they are going to jail cause I have a fear that will they will get a disease and become gay in jail.... But if my dude was innocently charged with a crime he def did not do then I will stick by my man. I would try to get him all the help he needs to get out of jail... But if my guy was caught in the wrong.. well adios to the relationship! lol

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  Posted by Mysterious Gryphon Thu May 21, 2009 9:34am PDT

  Michael Vick is an inhuman monster. Why in the world would a woman want to stand by a man who murders animals and hangs them in trees? What does she think he'll do to her when he no longer needs her, or he think it would be fun to hang her by her neck?

  Women who stay by men convicted of violent crimes are sick, self-loathing, and masochistic.

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  Posted by Lin Thu May 21, 2009 9:34am PDT

  well i had a love that was lockedup and the love was fine well after she came home however i no-longier wonted this relationship with this wonderful women.the love was good the life was good my spirit

  was uneasy so after (4) years yes four years after she came home we parted,but we remain friends we talked about once month. so its truly up to the couple. i told this and hopes that in jail or locked up in your own mind someone can be free TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  Posted by Trona W Thu May 21, 2009 9:34am PDT

  to kaylamichelle, honey you need to get a life. "if you love someone you wouldnt up and leave" but isnt that what they did to you? making a mistake is something we all do but to commit a crime without caring about the people you leave and hurt is another matter. trust me when i say that the whole "thug", "inmate" lifestyle is exactly that. while you are being faithful and sitting in a prison visiting room(hopefully without the kids), he didnt give you the same commitment, in or out of prison. your probably not the only one that is writing/visiting him. they even have people running ads for them on the internet in order to obtain "prospects" to recieve mail and put money on thier books. its all about what they can recieve without giving. what can a man in prison give you that a free man cant??? live your life outside the walls.

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  Posted by jessica Thu May 21, 2009 9:39am PDT

  oh the story of my life!! haha i had an ex-boyfriend that went to prison for about 9 months and it was the hardest thing that i went through. The relationship was not working so I broke things off. Most of the time thar we were together he would either be in juvi or would be in county. I got tired of it but i was still there for him. Once he got out he was on parole and once again he got locked up again. I was in love i guess so i stuck around for about a year. but then i found out he cheated on me while he was out here. So after that i broke things off and haven talked to him since. What happens is that time in there for them stops they have nothing to do but think about the outside. but out here things dont stop and you have to make choice to either stop time and be down for you man or do the best for you and move on and leave stuff in the past.

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