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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

User post: Reconsider Yourself! According to Guys, You're a Lot Hotter Than You Think

I had a very interesting conversation with my guy last night... at least, more interesting than usual. That's because usually I help him to dive into the minds of girls. The classic questions like, "Why do you need so many shoes?" and "What are girls thinking when they look at me?" I'm only too happy to oblige because, let's face it, the fairer sex is still a mystery to them... which reminds me: check out this Cosmo post on just that :What He Thinks When He Walks Through Your Door
 
But, moving on, I decided to return the (ahem) favor and ask him a few questions about guys. There are always some things that I want to know, and some very interesting, and yet totally obvious things came up in the conversation. Like some of the things that we take for granted, but never pay attention to, or we totally disregard them. For instance:

The Legs. The question is: Where have I been?! Legs are still a huge thing for guys. Show 'em off a little (or a lot), rub 'em against his or just let him have a little feel of them.
I knew that guys liked legs that are attached to those girls... you know the ones I mean. The ones with cellulite-free, scar-free, evenly-tanned, mile-long legs. Yeah. Those girls.

So imagine my shock when he told me that he liked mine. Mine? Really? Was he serious? My cellulite-speckled, scar-dotted, jiggly, five-different-shades-of-brown, totally average legs? He was.

Is it all psychological? I mean, would other guys like them too? Or is it just because he's my guy? Its an interesting thought. Because they're his, he loves them. So break out the minis girls... apparently, we can look pretty good in them...

The Way to a Guy's Heart Is Through His Stomach. I had never thought about this one either. Well, I had, but I also thought 'What possible guy would fall for me just because I bake him some cookies?' Well, one did fall for me, but I'll tell you a different story.

My sister's boyfriend's mother (I know, try keeping up with that connection) never paid much attention to my sister... that is, until she sent her boyfriend home with an apple pie. Now she's very interested in my sister and what she's doing and how she's doing and so on. What's also interesting to note is that the mother also started to pay attention to me after I also sent my sister's guy home with something. If I was a mean person, I'd tell my sister to watch out...and she'd probably need to.

Doesn't this story prove just how much power you hold in your hands if you can bake, or cook? If you can't, don't worry....that's what storebought cookie dough is for! Buy some and pop 'em in the oven just in time for your guy to arrive...or the guy that you're trying to lure in...

The Eyes. Never underestimate the power of the eyes. Guys will always love your eyes. I know that I don't need to post a lot on this one, just a few things. Spice it up a bit occasionally. Throw on a new shade of eyeshadow. Go dramatic at night. If you can rock the Indian princess look, go for it! The same goes for the smoky eyes. And if you usually just go natural, just smooth a little bit of sparkling eyeshadow on your lid in a shade that's not far from your skin tone. Trust me... he'll notice, and love it even more.



The Lips. Of course he loves them! Do you know how many uses for lips a guys can think of in a second in his mind? Plenty. And in a more innocent way, lips can say a lot about a person. Do you smile a lot? Bite your lip? Guys notice these things, even if its subconsciously. Sometimes they look for specifics. Guys do like it when you smile. In fact, they love it. Do it more often. Flash your teeth at him every once in a while. Somehow it works. He loves it and you'll even start to feel like smiling may be your thing. It turns on the charm. Just remember: smile. Don't grimace.


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  • Teena's Avatar
    Posted by Teena Mon May 11, 2009 3:29am PDT

    It's so likely that he's either buttering up, giving you a boost of confidence that you need (just by asking those questions) or really telling the truth. Bottomline is whatever you think you are most comfortable with or feel more attractive in, that should be the one that counts first. One must like (or love) themselves first before anybody else. Unless we're talking about charity, then that's a different situation.

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  • wendy's Avatar
    Posted by wendy Mon May 11, 2009 4:33am PDT

    shes right.Im pale,thick,have a little cellulite on the back of my legs, and my man of 6 yrs acts like a teen boy around me.a real man doesnt care about stuff like cellulite,pubic hair, or little imperfections.The guys that do make a deal about how tan you are and other stuff-well their a**h*les.no one is perfect.

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  • February's Avatar
    Posted by February Mon May 11, 2009 4:53am PDT

    My best feature according to my man will always be my butt

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  • roni's Avatar
    Posted by roni Mon May 11, 2009 6:18am PDT

    why do guys date, when they hate? what's with these guys trying to have a relationship with females they don't care nothing about?

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  • ginas's Avatar
    Posted by ginas Mon May 11, 2009 7:02am PDT

    This article is so true. Women are so much harder judging other women then men are. So many times I hear guys saying girls are hot and I think the girl is just plain or not that attractive. Guys are not usually so picky that they mind a few extra pounds or flaws in a woman. All guys are drawn to confident women so we need to start really appreciating what we have!

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  • J.J.M.'s Avatar
    Posted by J.J.M. Mon May 11, 2009 7:18am PDT

    Hey there, hey there. I think braces are cute. It requires certain personality traits to pull off, though.

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  • SK's Avatar
    Posted by SK Mon May 11, 2009 9:26am PDT

    with me, and some guys...the feet!

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  • 08HD-RKse's Avatar
    Posted by 08HD-RKse Mon May 11, 2009 9:52am PDT

    A couple of weeks ago, there was a post about a woman that got noticed more when she was out running errands without being all "Pretty Dolled UP". It seemed to make her more approachable and real. I agree. I think for a lot of women, less is more as far as make up. A designer dress may make you look fabulous, but nice reguliar clothes make you more aproachable...Swim suit models are great to look out, but I see myself with more of the down to earth girl next door type.

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  • DixieDarlin's Avatar
    Posted by DixieDarlin Mon May 11, 2009 10:11am PDT

    I dont get out much with four kids and all but every now and again I try to particpate in 'girls night' and i have noticed that if i get all "cutesy" looking I am pretty much left alone but every single time I opt for jeans and a tshirt with flip flops I get more than one drink bought for me. it never ceases to amaze me! When I feel like I look the worst is when guys seem to be more attracted to me!!! My hubby says it is the way I feel out my jeans but then he loves me :) heheehe

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  • Rich's Avatar
    Posted by Rich Mon May 11, 2009 11:22am PDT

    Dear Listers: If a guy spots you at an establishment, whether it's at a diner or a bar or a restaurant, and you have on mucho makeup, he may figure you to be high-maintenance/gold digger and therefore out of his league. So why even bother. A little makeup, lipstick, and a nice smile will do wonders. Eye contact if you like what you see, will go a long way for perhaps a free drink and perhaps some further conversation. Most guys like to know something about you before they jump into the pool-could be sharks in there-i.e. jealous ex-boyfriends or ex husbands that don't yet understand what the word"ex" is all about. Thanks.

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