I’m normally the type of girl that sticks by the rules and always tries to be the good girl, but there are some rules that I personally do not agree with depending on the situation and my mother agrees with it as well.
So here is Situation A:
Summarized background
My ex-boyfriend and I broke up not to long ago, when we were together I got along with the friends he introduce me to which so happened to be 2 couples. After he and I broke up I told them that if they did not want to be friends or socialize with me any further I would understand because they were friends with my ex a lot longer then they were with me (I also said the same thing to his mother as well because we got along well). They all replied stating that they still want to be friends and keep in touch because they see me as a good person and they care for me, etc. With all my other ex boyfriends I never did this because they were jerks and we just kept to ourselves, but with my last relationship it was/is different. It was a mutual break up and my ex and I get along just fine (odd to say, because now I really understand the song Cool by Gwen Stefani).
The “Issue”:
One of my relatives thinks it is wrong for me to be friends with all of them. Which I don’t understand why? I really don’t think I’m doing anything wrong. Friends are friends I told from the beginning their options so I don’t see a problem. As for what some of my relatives think, they believe I should stick by the rules and not speak to them unless I so happen to see them, etc. I personally disagree and see it as BS because if you get along and they still want be friends and you want to as well then the “rule” should be out the window.
Now here is Situation B:
Summarized background
Another relative of mine broke up with her boyfriend without telling him they were broken up. She just pulled him along for the ride. (This relative is no longer living in the same state as I do.) Her boyfriend and I have been friends for as long as I have been single, and before she left she told him not to talk to me. He messaged me anyways just to say that she told him that he was told never to speak to me. But I told him that if he still wants to talk to me I don’t have a problem still being friends with him because I already know that kind of person he is. So we stayed friends.
The “Issue”:
The same relatives that have the issue with me being friends with my ex and his/ our friends have an issue with me being friends with the other guy.
My mother agrees with me and finds nothing wrong with me just
being friends with them; I don’t see a problem with just being
friends either. As for my disagreeing relatives
they just say I should stop talking to them and make my own
friends. I do have still socialize with my friends from junior high
school, high school and my last job, but I don’t see the problem.
They say my problem is that I’m too nice, but I don’t see a problem
with being friends with people that have been nothing but kind and
respectful individuals. It’s not like I’m doing anything
inappropriate with any of them.
(All in all I just ignore negative things that my disagreeing
relatives tell me.)
{Thanks you for the comments so far. I seriously appreciate them :)
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