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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

User post: Shakira thinks women want men to "rescue" them. For real?

In her interview with the Associated Press, Colombian-born singer Shakira says the songs on her new album, She Wolf out this week are a reflection of a woman who is looking for her prince charming.  Shakira says, "It's very much a common thing for women my age, at least my friends, to be in search for the right man and to be somehow dreaming of the prince who's going to come in and rescue them.”


As someone who cries on a dime and who is an utter and complete romantic, even I spit my green tea across the room reading that one.  Granted the singer has been in a relationship with Antonio de La Rua, the son of former Argentine President Fernando de la

Rua, for almost a decade.  But still, how can you get to be 32-years-old and think that another person is going to rescue you?  For real?!  From fire, yes!  And is there really just one, as in “the one”?


According to 2008 U.S. Census Bureau information, 92 million Americans are unmarried. 54% or approximately 50 million of these are women.  Are 50 million American women truly living such horrible lives that all they can hope for is some prince charming to swoop in save them?  Does this mysterious prince bring health care?


In fact between 1970 and 2001, the overall marriage rate in the United States declined by 17 percent and of those who did get married, the average marriage lasted only 8 eight years.  So after that 8 years of salvation - what are you supposed to do with the rest of your life? 


I can’t say I’m huge fan of Shakira but I always appreciated the lyric from her song Whenever, Wherever, “lucky that my breasts are small and humble so you don’t confuse them with mountains.”  I thought here is a woman who has a sense of humor about herself and the image she’s flogging to the public.  Today I looked at the liner notes and realized Gloria Estefan co-wrote the song.  Good work Gloria.


So for those of you looking for love, do you believe in the “one”?  And if you find him or her, do you think he can “rescue” you?

 

 

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  • Barbie's Avatar
    Posted by Barbie Wed Nov 25, 2009 1:28pm PST

    I do believe there is that "one" BUT rescue! NOOOO!

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  • Appletini's Avatar
    Posted by Appletini Wed Nov 25, 2009 1:47pm PST

    I did believe in "The One".

    I did things that I never thought I could... flying across the ocean, attending a prestigious university, getting a diploma in a subject that I couldn't give a sht about, trying to become something I was not, and all the while fearing that "The One" wasn't really all he was cracked up to be.

    So I totally avoided getting mixed up with him except for breif flirtations and missed opportunities. I couldn't commit, because I felt that somehow it wouldn't really work out. He was far from perfect and had a terrible reputation. So I convinced myself that he was The One from afar. That Someday I would return but I just couldn't really. He ended up with a shrew. And I am right back to Square One, trying to make up for 10 years of angst and worry, expenses, and heartache.

    I would say this... don't try to change yourself for a guy, and don't ever put him on a "Perfect Pedestal" because I would rather have someone who compliments me instead of someone who was so high up I couldn't reach him. No.. he couldn't "rescue" me and I couldn't "rescue" him.

    Rescue yourself and live your life, and don't ever let anyone stand in the way of your dreams.

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  • Climbing's Avatar
    Posted by Climbing Wed Nov 25, 2009 2:35pm PST

    The last sentence of Appletini sais it all. Can't add any thing else.

    I like the author's 'From fire, Yes!'

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  • mel's Avatar
    Posted by mel Thu Nov 26, 2009 12:42am PST

    wow. she really is as dumb as her music. and yet even dumber people buy her crap and worship her like she does something amazing!

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  • Robert's Avatar
    Posted by Robert Fri Nov 27, 2009 1:48am PST

    You and only you can complete yourself. Don't look for a partner to rescue you, and I don't think there is a one . I think there are many and why are some many people codependent, be independent.

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  • Mauna's Avatar
    Posted by Mauna Fri Nov 27, 2009 7:44am PST

    I disagree, sometimes their rescuing can lead a woman to teach her not to be able to rely on herself increasing the already ingrained perspective that women are suppose to be the weaker of the two creatures. BOOOOO!!!!! I say, I hope I will find more women becoming self reliant because males, IMO know how to ruin a Good woman in many ways.

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  • Highly favored!'s Avatar
    Posted by Highly favored! Fri Nov 27, 2009 10:05am PST

    If you can not be happy being with yourself there is no way your happy with someone else. Maybe content but not happy!

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  • Txiki's Avatar
    Posted by Txiki Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:23pm PST

    well you just have to depend on yourself and not on any other person but where we have love their will certainly be peace so i believe in the one and sometimes if he his not there for you just be strong and face the challenges all a alone. but both male and female are meant to live happily together they are not all bad

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  • GabrielleG's Avatar
    Posted by GabrielleG Sat Nov 28, 2009 10:24pm PST

    I think she is saying that she is speaking against women who want men to rescue them. She's not Taylor Swift.

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Sun Nov 29, 2009 7:35am PST

    DON'T LOOK ANY FURTHER PEOPLE.....! WE GOT RESCUE PLAN ALREADY WORKING FOR US. CALL THE " RESCUE CZAR "!!!! YOU NAME IT, THEY'VE GOT IT!

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