User post: Should a guy ever ask you if you have the money to go on a date?!

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  Posted by MrsKlingonPasadena Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:21pm PDT

  Well, that was pretty tacky!!! I am a traditionalist. I do think that a man should pay for the date, but I don't think it hurts for the woman to pay every now and then. The way he asked was wrong and like I said TACKY!

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  Posted by J.J.M. Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:23pm PDT

  You'd think the movements for equal rights and equal treatment of women would extend to covering your part of the check.

  I've actually been out with gals who were insulted that I wanted to cover everything on the date. I've also been out with gals who insist on paying for everything themselves(I never let them, I'm the type of person who always pays my own way no matter what)

  I suppose if someone is "Taking" you on a date, they should pay. But if you both plan it, "Going Dutch" is quickly becoming the standard(Going Dutch: Both parties pay for themselves) In this day, it's becoming odd to expect that you'll be paid for on all dates.

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  Posted by POETRY Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:23pm PDT

  NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  Posted by casy Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:24pm PDT

  IF HE HAS YOU OUT ON THE DATE, THEN YES HE SHOULD PAY....THAT WAS WRONG TO ASK YOU TO PAY YOUR OWN WAY. THAT WAS NO WAY TO TREAT A GIRL FRIEND AND HIS DATE.......HE SHOULD TREAT YOU LIKE HIS LOVE , HIS GIRL FRIEND NOT AS A GUY BUDDY OF HIS. THAT WAS DISRESPECTFUL. ITS JUST WRONG.........GOOD LUCK......LOL.....CASY

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  Posted by GRANADA Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:26pm PDT

  I agree. If it feels wrong, follow your instinct. This guy is rude and tacky. You can do better.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:28pm PDT

  If he asked you on the date he is to pay, whoever invites pays, sometimes it is nice to help out and offer to pitch in or take him out and treat himto a nice date, but for him to just ask and so rudely that is crazy. So you did the right thing by saying no.

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  Posted by Amanda Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:29pm PDT

  ok, a relationship that has lasted longer than 3 months is equal. you should both pay. not nessacarly split it in half, but you guys can share money and work together on who pays for what. granite him asking for you to bring money was a little much. maybe you guys should try to work together to decide on who is going to pay next time.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Apr 30, 2009 12:35pm PDT

  granite? lol..I think that person above means granted...

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  Posted by 29_and holding Thu Apr 30, 2009 2:27pm PDT

  If this was a 1st date and he asked you to pay then RUN AWAY!!!

  This is a date after 5 months of being together why should you be offended? Once you have become an established couple you should have no problem paying for both of you.

  H ell, I would even offer on a 1st date to pay for the movies if he paid for dinner. That way he did not feel like he was owed something at the end of the night.

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  Posted by Jami Thu Apr 30, 2009 2:29pm PDT

  the way he asked was rather rude but in my opinion if you want the girl to pay her part of the check then talk about that type of stuff before you start dating (or even planing the date)going duch is in syle now but come on the guy was probably just trying to be rude. anyways best of luck finding a new bf

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