There's this guy that I guess, I'm "in like
with". I don't love him, I'm not that far in... The
two of us are just friends and we got really close really fast.
I'm not even sure if we have mutual feelings for each other.
He's told me that he doesn't want a relationship because
he's afraid of getting hurt. I've never asked him out or
told him I like him, and I never really planned to but I'm
curious if I should just move on, or wait to see if he ever feels
sure enough with himself to start dating again.
The subject came up because he was telling me about another best
friend of his, who he had admitting to liking, and she had admitted
to liking him, but he didn't want to date her because he
wasn't ready to commit to her. So over a couple months time,
she started treating him like they really were dating, she started
getting jealous, making him feel bad, and trying to make him stop
hanging out with his other friends that are girls. He doesn't
get along with many guys, so all his friends are basically
girls.
All this fighting they were doing was tearing him apart so he
finally told her he couldn't do this and that he wanted
it to stop because it was hurting him, hurting her, and he was
losing her as a friend.
He sometimes shows signs of liking me the way I like him, such as
we can hold each others gaze for a good 5 seconds with out either
of us looking away, his skin is always touching mine in some subtle
way, and if we're in a group of people and I move away from the
group, he usually follows me and ends up by my side.I'm worried
that I'm going to be in too far deep to go back with out it
hurting, so I'd like some opinions, should I just wait or
should I move on?
User post: Should I just let him go, or wait?
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:45pm PST
Report AbuseTalk to him. Sounds like he is into you, but maybe has some reservations - maybe he was hurt in the past. If you really like him, give it a chance. If you don't want a relationship, just stay friends. Sounds like he is a pretty good friend.
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:46pm PST
Report AbuseStay at a friendship level. You talk as if you will develope a relationship and marry within the next year and that seldom happens, and stays for real forever. Even if you are seeing someone else and he becomes interested, he'll let you know. And that my friend is call options, choices, always have choices. Please, don't be so quick to get your heart wrapped up-relax, enjoy life, have fun.
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:52pm PST
Report AbuseWhat kan i say im with somebody we've been together since December 14,2008 but we were also friends way before we got together and i love his company. Everytime i think about happiness im constantly reminded of him.When we 1st got together i was scared because i was scared of what people might say . But then i got use to the idea of being with somebody and being happy and i love every bit of our relationship.I've never met someone who understands me so much so now that i know how he feels about me and i know how i feel about hime im so happy. We've had sex before and i also luve the idea of that to we've made love and i feel really hot&steamy about Him i love him so much and one day i want him to be my husband and i want to have 3 beatiful children bye him i love him so much. if your reading this Harold Mitchell i want you to know i love you and your a veryimportant person in my life
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:52pm PST
Report AbuseWhat kan i say im with somebody we've been together since December 14,2008 but we were also friends way before we got together and i love his company. Everytime i think about happiness im constantly reminded of him.When we 1st got together i was scared because i was scared of what people might say . But then i got use to the idea of being with somebody and being happy and i love every bit of our relationship.I've never met someone who understands me so much so now that i know how he feels about me and i know how i feel about hime im so happy. We've had sex before and i also luve the idea of that to we've made love and i feel really hot&steamy about Him i love him so much and one day i want him to be my husband and i want to have 3 beatiful children bye him i love him so much. if your reading this Harold Mitchell i want you to know i love you and your a very important person in my life
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:54pm PST
Report AbuseDon't move on, but keep your options open. Every man knows if he doesn't jump soon enough, someone else will take his place. He sounds like a possibility - just don't allow yourself in a situation that you are hanging on to what may or may not happen. Continue to live your life, even go on a date...
If he's not ready, that's a chance he's taking, and just may end up being his loss!
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:59pm PST
Report AbuseRun Ashly T Run!!! This guy is giving you the oldest lines in the player hand book! Guy's always say what they mean, for some reason we women just hear what we want to! Listen, this guy is telling you (before you even brought it up by the way) that he doesnt want a relationship, that what he said and trust that what he means! If you like him and just wanna have fun, have fun but DONT get serious. If you looking for a relationship then move on quickly cuz your not going to get it from him. I cant believe this guy... "He doesnt get along with other men well and only really has female friends" LMAO!!
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 1:00pm PST
Report AbuseI'm confused. You're not dating, you're not talking about dating (since he "afraid to get hurt") there's no relationship here, exactly. What are you moving on from? Maybe you're 16 and this seems like a relationship to you at this point. If you haven't even had a discussion of how you feel about each other (you're just guessing he might like you) I don't see anything to move on from.
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 1:00pm PST
Report AbuseI'm confused. You're not dating, you're not talking about dating (since he "afraid to get hurt") there's no relationship here, exactly. What are you moving on from? Maybe you're 16 and this seems like a relationship to you at this point. If you haven't even had a discussion of how you feel about each other (you're just guessing he might like you) I don't see anything to move on from.
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 1:07pm PST
Report AbuseMove on. He's basically said he doesn't want a relationship right now. Or, you could kiss him during those held gazes and see what happens. Either way, make sure he knows it's not exclusive and you intend to date other people. Then do it. It might be more comfortable for him, and also make him decide how he feels and whether it's worth risking getting hurt to fall in love.
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Posted by Fri Jan 23, 2009 1:07pm PST
Report Abuseno dont tell him how u feel about him . i mean am sure he knows u got feeling for him,, let him tell u if he wants to move on or not .. but girl move on date other guys theres planty of guys out there trust me
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