User post: Should I tell the new guy I'm dating about all my previous sex partners?

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  Posted by Sat Apr 11, 2009 9:10am PDT

  no u dont havta tell him. only tell him if he asks. its not like u r lying or anything. and................. make sure u ask him NOT 2 freak out if he DOES ask!!!!!

  molly aka a person who is going razy while her legs throb! and

  ps check out mois blog!!!!1

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  Posted by Spam I Am Sat Apr 11, 2009 9:11am PDT

  No, the past is the past. Leave it be.

  BTW, not all guys think that women who have multiple partners are

  "sluts". But some guys, sadly, still do. Never understood this.

  And please don't focus on HIS past, either.

  A toast to the future!

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  Posted by springtime Sat Apr 11, 2009 9:22am PDT

  Is there any reason he needs that information?

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  Posted by Doktor Eevol Sat Apr 11, 2009 9:23am PDT

  Do you really need to tell him? Do you know him well enough to deduce that it would actually matter to him? If it does, then tell him. If he judges you then he wasn't worth it in the first place.

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  Posted by urassismine2 Sat Apr 11, 2009 9:31am PDT

  GBLover,..I'm a guy. The fact is that women are "audio", and men are "visual". Women need to hear something said to reieforce her feelings whether it be a positive thing, or a negative thing. It punctuates her emotion constitution that she spends her whole life cultivating as she gain intellect and maturity....A man needs to see for himself, thats why we are sometimes enthused with "porno, the physical sexuality of women, the roar of nascar vehicles going round, an round, an round a circular track. We need to be able to say "Man, did you see that?" We remember what we see, and we definitely can put a heck of a visionary picture of "some other guy trying his best to break your bones in bed". He doesn't want that picture in his head! Every time he will look at you, his imagination will just take off on a tangent of its own. Its not smart, unless you want a bunch of "snide" remarks leaking out when he gets pissed at you in the future. I mean it. This is a real sore spot with men. We just don't want you to scibble, and scramble the good thoughts that we have for you in "our" brain. If you don't want to hurt him, an your blossoming relationship, then keep your mouth shut. If you tell him, you can be sure to imprint him forever, and your happiness with it.

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  Posted by BrokenHeartedGirl.com Sun Apr 12, 2009 6:13pm PDT

  No. You definitely don't have to tell him! And if he asks you, then just say - "It's more than one. Let's leave it at that."

  I haven't told my b/f about my number of sex partners. I really don't plan to either.

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  Posted by Erica Sun Apr 12, 2009 6:26pm PDT

  No do not tell him.

  My bf has slept with a lot of girls, a number I do not know. Curious I was, but no longer am. He won't tell me and I respect that. He knows how many I've had since he's the 2nd one. He was mad at me for telling him (since I told him I was a virgin), but all is forgotten (or at least I hope since we haven't spoken about it and everything is going by as before).

  So don't tell him. It might make things bad. I know that if he told me how many he's slept with, I wouldn't see him the same and that I would feel really, really bad even though I love him I don't want to know.

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  Posted by Lady Sun Apr 12, 2009 6:35pm PDT

  He is not going to like it. The only way to make this worse would be to lie about it. I'm sure you have already, but make sure you go get tested and that way when he asks you can at least say that you were careful and he has nothing to worry about. Let him know how sensitive a topic it is for you and make sure you make it clear that he will be breaking your trust if he freaks out because it took a lot of guts for you to tell him. Good luck and get tested! Let us know how it goes.

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  Posted by C Sun Apr 12, 2009 6:47pm PDT

  i say if it get asked Do tell..... if neither is married and there was no pre arrangement made , then what u don't know can't hurt u or the other... Although i would rather it all be on the table from the start. But u can't very well tell a guy your every partner right away . They make it seem like a turn off to even mention it? WTF ever

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  Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Sun Apr 12, 2009 6:56pm PDT

  You should never tell your lover about your prior relationships.

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