User post: Should Women Propose to Men?

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  Posted by J.J.M. Tue Jun 23, 2009 9:15am PDT

  Women ask men out, why not propose? A woman I know proposed to her guy, and he declined. He just wasn't wanting to get married.

  Tradition is always so boring anyway.

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  Posted by Brianna Tue Jun 23, 2009 9:22am PDT

  I think women should do it. We're already doing everything else, what's 1 more thing lol? And if the groom-to-be truly loves her and is truly secure in his masculinity then everything will work out no matter who proposes

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  Posted by ash Tue Jun 23, 2009 9:23am PDT

  Rules and traditions are made to be broken; however, some traditions should remain the same. So yes, men should still do the asking.

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  Posted by Ahleah G Tue Jun 23, 2009 9:51am PDT

  I don't see anything wrong with women asking, although I can understand why they wouldn't. Weddings are considered a girl thing, the bride is the focus, and she often does the majority of the planning. A lot of women have childhood fantasies about their wedding and this includes the proposal. Plus, stereotypes can affect reality. Women want to get married, and men are somehow losing their freedom or being tied down. I think that with all of these stereotypes having the man ask shows that he WANTS to get married.

  For me, my SO and I have talked about getting married. He asked me why I didn't just ask him. It boils down to I want to be asked. He knows that I want to marry him, so I am waiting for him to decide that he is ready. He was kind of anti-marriage before we got together and didn't really see the reasons for it. So him considering it is a big deal, and I am trying to not put too much pressure on him.

  It's not about the ring. While he knows I would like a ring eventually, I have also told him that I don't need one in order for him to propose. I actually like the idea of us picking it out together after the fact.

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  Posted by Kirby Tue Jun 23, 2009 9:54am PDT

  why not if women are asking men out on dates why not propose to them

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  Posted by Regina Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:03am PDT

  If a man doesn't propose it means he doesn't want to marry you, not at that particular point in time anyway. That's why it doesn't make sense for the woman to propose.

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  Posted by Ashley Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:16am PDT

  I have asked my boyfriend to marry me (as a joke, but I do want to get married) and he claims "I have to be the one proposing to you, I'm the guy." And I agree, I am old-fashioned and even want my Dad's permission/approval before we get hitched!

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  Posted by curiously Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:18am PDT

  I don't know exactly what you are talking about but, yes, she should... :-)

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  Posted by None Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:51am PDT

  One word: D*E*S*P*E*R*A*T*E; if the man doesn't even have the decency to ask you that means he's just not that into you. I think its pathetic. Old fashioned, I would never ask a man to marry me. You should be special enough otherwise move on.

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  Posted by curiously Tue Jun 23, 2009 11:18am PDT

  "how special we should be?"

  Thanks for the tip but I think we should try to be normal.

  lol

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