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Tuesday, December 15, 2009

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While conducting a little informal relationships research over a couple of beers, I asked a few friends what things they were curious about in their relationships, but might never ask. Answers ranged from "I was actually wondering..." to "I know everything that I need to know." But it's funny how relaxed guys become when someone else is buying the pitchers of brew.

Anyway, here are a few of the questions that popped up, and I thought that I'd ask them of the no-holds-barred women of Shine.

1. Have you ever thought (or do you currently think) of another guy while making love to your man?
2. Have you flirted with another guy while out with your friends?
3. How far have you allowed flirting to go (without engaging in sex) while in a relationship?
4. Have you ever suspected your man of cheating, but didn't know for sure?
5. Have you ever cheated in a relationship, but your man never found out?
 
And just in case you're wondering. I posed the same questions to the six guys (including myself) that I was with. Here are the results.

1. Four of the six have thought of other women during sex.
2. Five of the six have flirted (or attempted to flirt) with other women.
3. One of them just made eye contact and smiled, another tried with no success, three got phone            numbers (but only one actually called).
4. Two of them have suspected their women of cheating, but only one confronted her about it.
5. Two of them cheated, but only one of them got caught.

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  • speshal's Avatar
    Posted by speshal Mon Apr 6, 2009 8:36am PDT

    1.Yes i have thought of another man while having sex with my boyfriend.

    2.No my boyfriend thinks i do but i really don't.

    3.I don't flirt i just smile and move along.

    4.No I know my boyfriend would never cheat on me but i always tease him about it.

    5. Yes once and i told him right after

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  • Cherish's Avatar
    Posted by Cherish Wed Apr 8, 2009 6:04am PDT

    1. No

    2. No

    3. Hasn't happened

    4. yes, I do right now and will confront

    5. no

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  • Jennifer's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer Tue Apr 14, 2009 3:27am PDT

    I think if it had been a bunch of girls wanting questions answered by male readers, the questions would have been much different. Maybe not though. Those five questions do seem a little self centered. I was expecting a question about a woman's ultimate sexual fantasy or maybe whats the one thing that her man does to turn her on the most. Its a sad sad world with all these cheaters. I guess thats tied in with the increasing self centeredness of our society. We just go around doing things without thinking every once in a while about the impact it will have on others.

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  • Mandi's Avatar
    Posted by Mandi Thu Apr 16, 2009 6:53pm PDT

    WOW...I guess I have old school values and morals!!

    Nope, not once have I fantasized about another man while having sex with one.

    Nope, don't flirt with any man other than my husband...I'm just bit*chy that way.

    See answer two.

    Yup...and was right every single time...women's intution...guys it will catch you up every single time.

    And heII no!! Never have, and never will. People need to understand that the grass is not greener on the other side. If your having problems, cheating is not going to solve them!!!!!

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