User post: When your fiance phones your family to tell them about your fights...

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  Posted by casy Sat Oct 3, 2009 7:52am PDT

  THAT'S NOT COOL....SHOWS NO RESPECT TO YOU, AND ITS NO ONE ELSE'S BUSINESS WHAT GOES ON WITH YOU AND HIM....NOT COOL...YOU NEED TO TALK TO HIM, ITS DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU......GOOD LUCK

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  Posted by another hockey fan Sat Oct 3, 2009 7:53am PDT

  YES end it now, unless you want to be divorced because that's exactly where you will be headed.

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  Posted by dolphin™ Sat Oct 3, 2009 8:01am PDT

  End It,

  These issues not resolved will not go away.

  Even if you had started plans in wedding Stop, Save yourself ALOT of MONEY. Divorce can be more hurtful and expensive

  Calling any family with issues is wrong.

  First he shoud have respected you to not call,

  Second, Your family should be supportive and telling him to stop disrespecting them.

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  Posted by urassismine2 Sat Oct 3, 2009 10:07am PDT

  The issue seems to be those arguments and your toe hold on the idea of the wedding that is coming up. Bridezilla is a terrible monster to cage because it has the ability to spread its selfishness all over the place, without realizing that she is doing it. In circumstances that usually involve bridezilla, "nobody seems to be able to tell her anything about nothing". She becomes a selfish no it all who refuses to bend or budge over the simplest issue. A whole lot of guys have backed the heck up an steepped right away from the potential of marriage. The relationship is a forgone conclusion, and thats what she "decides" to take for granted. She figures that she's got him now, therefore, she can take that fake mask off that she's been using to catch him, an show up all of a sudden with her real selfish face. This is probably why "his" new behavior of calling your folks is happening. Everybody can't manage the pressure of an up coming wedding. You may really need to speak with someone professional and find out what the heck is going on with you, him, and those arguments. The arguments that cause him to seek help in dealing with a possible,..bridezilla...Just a thought..

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  Posted by ElizX Sat Oct 3, 2009 7:20pm PDT

  I realize the arguements are an issue, unfortunately his phone calls to my family have been made after multiple requests for him not to call my family - if he needs to talk about us (and our issues) but he SHOULD call his family, not mine. He's basically tattle-taling and making me look like a terrible person to my family, and not telling them the truth (this is the other terrible thing). Outside of being a tatttle-tale my mom is having a heart-attack wondering if he's telling the truth and moreso the right person for me (and me for him). Unfortunately everyone in my family is now caught in the middle of things, and my family has requested for him not to ever call them again until things are resolved b/w him and I. My family are all hundreds of miles away - worried because of his lies and phone calls. Unfortunately, he's burned his own bridge for some psyco'ness he's shown all of us.

  I recently moved across the country for him, and gave up my life in Arizona, to move to DC; this should be a large indication to him I have dedicated my life to him. I think he's gone off the deep end, and I unfortunately have to call it all off.

  I know I am not a bridezilla because we haven't done one thing in regard to planning our wedding...it's all been arguing...

  Thanks for all your feedback...and support..!

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  Posted by urassismine2 Sun Oct 4, 2009 8:20am PDT

  If he can't cope with the pressure of his decision of having your presence surround his life, then he needs to seek his own soul and intelligent acclaimation of your relationship. Staying in a bad situation is not healthy under any means, however treating you as if you don't exist is a real no-no. Sounds like his emotional growth hasn't caught up with the realization that he's dealing with a real woman who knows how to manage her own stuff.

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  Posted by CALIFORNIA Sun Oct 4, 2009 4:34pm PDT

  END IT NOW. HE HASN'T GROWN UP YET, YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY INTO A VERY UNHAPPY LIFE THAT IS GOING TO BE FULL OF PROBLEMS.YOU NEED A MAN NOT A MOUSE.

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  Posted by Super Abuelita Sun Oct 4, 2009 4:41pm PDT

  Geesh, why doesn't he call HIS family. Your mom is YOUR momm and so is YOUR family.

  Kind of immature on his part!

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  Posted by Deanne Sun Oct 4, 2009 4:55pm PDT

  Dumb the loser and grow a backbone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  Posted by Deanne Sun Oct 4, 2009 4:55pm PDT

  oops DUMP!!!!!!!

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