User post: Why do girls say they want love and then never look deeper into someone?

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  Posted by Kaley Sun Aug 9, 2009 6:02am PDT

  i think that it is really cool that you still believe in chivalry. Thats really sweet. You just havent found the right person yet. Keep looking she's out there some where

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  Posted by Kaley Sun Aug 9, 2009 6:02am PDT

  i think that it is really cool that you still believe in chivalry. Thats really sweet. You just havent found the right person yet. Keep looking she's out there some where

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  Posted by another hockey fan Sun Aug 9, 2009 8:08am PDT

  First off, any woman who is in a bad relationship is not the woman you want. She's got issues she needs to work out and even if she ended up with you, she will eventually dump you for yet another jerk. You need to find a woman (and they are out there) who is emotionally happy with herself, her life and her goals. Assuming you are the same stage in your life, you will find each other and have that happiness and love you desire. In the interim, don't ever stop doing all the chivalrous and romantic things you do.

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  Posted by 88Gypsy Sun Aug 9, 2009 11:14am PDT

  The reason the alpha-male jerks get the girls is they exude confidence. Confidence (not arrogance) is always sexy.

  That said:

  There are NICE confident guys out there too and you could very well be one of those! Just know that you are a high quality man who knows how to treat a woman and that most women would flip for a nice guy who is also confident. Your confidence will shine through and you will see a difference in the way women perceive you!

  Good luck!

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  Posted by Christine Sun Aug 9, 2009 1:04pm PDT

  The reason why girls find "bad boys" attractive is because of the novelty appeal. The bad boys treat them nicely at first, and the girls are convinced that they'll be able to change the "bad boy" into a "good boy". However, as time goes on, the bad boy starts treating the girl like he treats everyone else, and then they get stuck with it... or sometimes choose to be stuck with it.

  Either way, like Another Hockey Fan said, don't bother with girls in bad relationships. They have their own issues. I've seen it happen to a couple of family members one time too many.

  Chin up, Kev. Not all of us chicks go for bad boys. You'll find the right one for you, I'm sure of it!

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  Posted by InLove Mon Aug 10, 2009 9:29am PDT

  In my experience, the nice guys are usually too quiet and meek. This is just my opinion based on my experience, but the jerks seem like more fun because they are loud and go all out. My husband is the "bad boy" who has the soft, gooey, sweet side of him. I think the nice guys need to find an exciting, flashy way to get noticed and say "Hey I'm unexpected, not boring, and fun". All my girlfriends want the nice guy too, but he has to have a fun, mysterious side to him to get noticed. There are a lot of guys who will open the door for you, but not all of them have something exciting about them... Like they can beat up someone who messes with you.

  Just my own personal take on the matter.

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  Posted by B. J. Mon Aug 10, 2009 9:30am PDT

  My mother used to say, "It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for!" She usually said it in fun, because I'd crush on a bad boy, but fall in love with the smart; tenderhearted; sensitive guy every time. I think you're the type that most gals really want, but there's always that underlying desire to have a man that can protect you. And, many times - a man that all your girlfriends will swoon over. Men aren't the only ones that want to feel good by knowing friends and strangers envy who's on their arm.

  Don't change and don't give up. You are what a healthy, happy, loving woman really wants. She just may not have realized it yet, or you haven't met yet.

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  Posted by Rese Mon Aug 10, 2009 9:45am PDT

  Well 1st off i'd like 2 say that 1-5 comments hit the nail on the head! Hats off 2 u sir for being such a "good guy". Having female friends gets u close but u want 2 be closer than close......

  So with the comment about them girlz havin' issues, u may have some too u need 2 work on or get thru to get what's there waiting 4 u.

  Seems 2 b a truly fatal attraction. Cause when it hurts soooo bad it feeeeeels sooooooooo good (being stuck like glue & all, ie. emotionally, mentally, physically, or spiritually)to so called bad boy. I speak from experience & thorough self-examination. But enough about me :-)

  You see what's going on, you step up or u lay low on the chill, watching and waiting 4 some chic 2 notice u enough 2 love u 4 all that u are. Keep it up or dig deep within yourself 2 get a new flow! Confidence, courage, chivalry, romanticism, sensitivity, etc. etc. Women want what they think they want cause that's how some are, and what u want or what u need r 2 different things.So what do you want trully Kevin H. ?

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  Posted by CrazyDoug Mon Aug 10, 2009 9:48am PDT

  You're being a wuss. That's why these girls aren't interested. You need to learn to dial back the niceties a little bit to even get a girl interested in you. Don't be afraid to be a person, say no if you don't feel like doing something, relegate your time to yourself and keep it. Remember that you don't always need an excuse to pass up on something, saying you don't feel like it is excuse enough. Be sure to have friends and take time to see them even if you are in a relationship. Don't treat her like a girl, treat her like an equal, and they will flock to you.

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  Posted by golf_pro Mon Aug 10, 2009 9:55am PDT

  I'm sorry to break your bubble here buddy ... but this post is one of the reasons girls are not flocking to you ....

  Like 88gypsy said ... girls like a confident guy and this post exudes no confidence ...

  All i hear is whining ... "Oh, why dont girls like me?", "Cant they see that i like cuddling?", "I have a lot of love to give" ....

  Boo hoo, everybody thinks that about themselves ... you gotta take the initiative ... ask girls out .. and if they dont wanna go out with you .. too bad for them .. their loss ... you gotta really believe that .. but again dont be arrogant becos you really want to love a girl right? and you want her to love you too ...

  Dont worry, you'll be alright .. nice guys really do finish last ... but please .. take the situation into your own hands ... this is your life, LIVE IT .. stop waiting for things to happen to you

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