User post: Why has my husband lost interest in me? : (

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  Posted by Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping Sun Sep 20, 2009 5:42pm PDT

  I wish I could say I am dealing with this, but instead I feel like I'm letting my husband down. He'd do it every night if he could.

  My only suggestion is to really stand back and look at the situation. What else is going on in his life? And what sort of expecations do you have that are valid, as well as those that are pretty unrealistic. When I did that with my issues with my husband, I was able to see a clearer picture and just stopped worrying so much about the stuff I can't change.

  Hope things improve for you!

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  Posted by Monica Sun Sep 20, 2009 9:41pm PDT

  You deserve all the happiness in the world. Let him know clearly and vocally that this is a serious issue and you will no longer stand for it. Yes school is stressful but it can't be at the cost of your marriage and you don't have to live like this. Give him a few opportunities to make changes. If he doesn't comply, you know what to do.

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  Posted by april Sun Sep 20, 2009 10:06pm PDT

  I think theres more to this, than your speaking on, could there be someone eles 'maybe in class", could he be bi-sexual, have you changed physically gained weight, not to sound offensive, but some men tend to loss sexual desires when woman bodies change, or he may have just lost enterest in you all together. I think you should show another side sexually to your husband, do something different in the bed, maybe start off with some oral, if he turns you down, theres something definitely wrong and your guys need to really sit down and have a serious talk, you should not have to be deprived by your HUSBAND sexually, if it was the other way around some men would go after other women for what ever their not getting at home, Im not sujesting you do that at all. But try to spice the bedroom up more and see what comes out of it.

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  Posted by Audrey Sun Sep 20, 2009 10:15pm PDT

  I would guess it is someone else. I found out that my guy was back with his ex. I actually got in better shape and she is fat.

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  Posted by Liz Sun Sep 20, 2009 10:26pm PDT

  Did he just start law school this year? Speaking from my own experience, the first year of law school can be extremely stressful and tiring, which can lead to a lower sex drive. It can also feel sort of isolating, especially if those closest to him have not had the same experience. Be supportive of him and try to have an open conversation about how he is feeling. Good luck!

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  Posted by marie Sun Sep 20, 2009 10:48pm PDT

  I believe that there may be several reasons and unfortunately most men will never admit if there really is a problem...Here are the possibilities - it may be because of too much stress (from whatever he's doing) or chronic depression, health or physical problems, anxiety, fear of having an unplanned pregnancy or fear of more responsibilities and not being financially ready or stable. Then of course the worst possibility is that there may be a third party. I guess there is no better solution than to have a open conversation...it may be difficult, but it is necessary...before it's too late.

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  Posted by lc Sun Sep 20, 2009 11:36pm PDT

  andrea frazer's advice sounds the best.. if you don't read her blog, you should!

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  Posted by Gao Mon Sep 21, 2009 1:57am PDT

  There are a lot of couple are all so this.

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  Posted by Gao Mon Sep 21, 2009 1:59am PDT

  i can not see what i write.why?

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  Posted by miriam Mon Sep 21, 2009 3:41am PDT

  Well i have been wanting to find someone but have been unsucessfull with a soul mate

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