Love + Sex
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Want Someone to Like You? Subtly Imitate Them
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- by Tres, on Wed Aug 19, 2009 11:30am PDT
OK, that sounds a little
creepy, but it has been verified in research that
people like others more when they mirror their mannerisms or
actions. In other words, imitation is the sincerest form of
flattery, and we like to be flattered. Research has shown that
waiters get bigger tips if they repeat the exact words back to
customers who are ordering food, and participants in one study were
even more altruistic after they were mimicked. (They were more
likely to pick up pens for the researcher who dropped them if
they’d been imitated earlier.) Scientists theorize that, from an
evolution perspective, mimicry promotes safety in groups by being a
sort of “social glue.” What this study doesn't mention is the
pure narcissistic pleasure of being imitated. So if you want to wow
an interviewer, for example, subtly adopt the body posture she has
— leaning forward when she does, nodding when she does. Just
don't go Marcel Marceau on her! Because then it would be
weird.
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