What Do You Really Want In A Man?

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  Posted by Luvleigh~ Mon Aug 4, 2008 8:50am PDT

  Communication, if a male partner can communicate, all else falls into place in all aspects of the relationship...

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  Posted by dami Mon Aug 4, 2008 9:28am PDT

  i want a man who accepts me who i am, who truly cares about me and an absolute romantic. good kisser too

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  Posted by DAVID G Mon Aug 4, 2008 9:42am PDT

  to grumpybear: Why does he have to lead the conversations, he has to lead conversations and make decisions on a daily basis just like you do. Its called being an adult. I can understand him taking the lead sometimes just to give you a break from everyday life but he may need that same break.

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  Posted by keisa Mon Aug 4, 2008 11:46am PDT

  i want a man that can make me laugh, when i dont feel like laughing.

  i want a man that's understanding, and caring. Not one thats ruff and verbally abusive. i want a man that knows what he's doing in bed, that knows how to go downtown and around... And guess what ladies, i got that kind of man, right at home, waiting for me to come home...

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  Posted by SchoolChick49 Mon Aug 4, 2008 5:40pm PDT

  Someone with character and shared values, chemistry wouldn't hurt either

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  Posted by DimSum Tue Aug 5, 2008 2:15am PDT

  LOL this is exactly what ive been thinking about lately as ive had a few men in life and have been trying to figure out what exactly is it that i want.

  - someone that can make me laugh and has good sense of humor about himself as well, can joke around not take things too seriously, can cheer me up if ive had a bad day or something (vice versa too tho!) and just a fun guy in general, someone who can be silly, a guy who just makes me feel good, who i look forward to seeing every day and have a great time being with

  -- has many of the same interests as i do and things in common

  -- chemistry, if its not there but everything else i want is, it just ends in friendship =/ ive tried it before and without chemistry its nothing.

  - open minded!!! not stuck in a rut or a time warp or set in his ways. open to trying many new things - travel, music, books, movies, food whatever. i dont like guys stuck int heir own little world who refuse to try anything new or different and obviously end up forcing me to do the same

  - intelligent. i love smart men. i dont mean street smart. i mean he has a high iq lol can discuss anything from cartoons to nuclear physics if need be. I dont want some dumb guy who can't talk much beyond football and beer or his own little world. and of course this tends to weed out most of the assholes anyway.

  -- good communicator, doesnt hold things in. can talk to me about anything, isnt afraid to share things (i dont need for him to bare his soul lol but if something is bother u,tell me instead of sulking and being in a mad mood) and can be there to listen to me as well. if a guy isnt very good at this, its hard to have a lasting relationship. its essential. knows how to fight - as in he can discuss with goal in mind to solve, not to yell and throw insults and to see who can come out right or as the winner.

  -- not an angry man, no one with a short temper or really much of a temper at all. and in general a good person and treats others well.

  -- loving and caring, i dont want a man's man, i want a man that can be sweet and loving with me and every once in a while can do somethign romantic for me

  -- strong man, not physically but i dont like the super nice wishy washy men. =/ just turns me off, i cant help it. i dont need him to be a neanderthal but not so metro that i cant tell which one of us is the woman. as in dont give in to everything u think i want even if its an inconvenience to you, dont let me walk all over you, dont make me decide every last thing about everything, take charge sometimes etc.

  -- trust and honesty of course

  -- loves me completely and unconditionally (they way i do him) and puts me as #1, not his friends, not his work, not his hobbies. Its how i am so i expect the same. and i expect to see it by actions not words. i dont trust words, i believe what a man does far more.

  -- compatible sexually cus well im pretty sexual and i know what i like.

  LOL i think thats it =P i have nothing for looks cus if i find men that fit the bill, ill think theyre attractive anyway - the old love is blind seems to work well on me... although i do tend to like leaner skinnier men with interesting faces, never had a any interest in muscular or classically handsome men. i guess i like unique and quirky lol.

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  Posted by california blue Tue Aug 5, 2008 9:27am PDT

  The very first thing is good looks.

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  Posted by CAT Tue Aug 5, 2008 10:54am PDT

  i think most women want a man that will be responsible and there to be their help mate in any given circumstance whether to satisfy their emotoional ,financial or family needs...One that will honor them and speak well of them in public and private. One that is lost without them and doesn't feel complete without their mate. That's all. Their True Mate

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  Posted by Ripped Off! Tue Aug 5, 2008 12:14pm PDT

  to David G: I apologize for the confusion. I meant exactly as you stated. Believe me, I'm not one to let a man, woman, or child lead the conversation all the time. I just want someone who is willing to lead sometimes. I hate feeling like I'm talking to myself.

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  Posted by Raven Tue Aug 5, 2008 1:37pm PDT

  Just like men, all women are different but I think all women like a confident man who is independant. A man who is available emotionally but can stay cool under pressure. A man who cleans up after himself and takes pride in his appearance. Women want a man who is a man, not a boy trapped in a man's body.

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