What really goes on at a bachelor party

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  Posted by Rae Sat Oct 18, 2008 5:15pm PDT

  Rich,

  I like your bringing up something that really does mystify women, except for the ones who may have "stripped" at one for a group of guys.

  You breaking it down is much better than hearing stories from your hubbies closest buddies, that makes it a different tale with knowing the individuals involved in the flirting/partying.

  I had the fateful experience of having the ex-hubby confess to getting "head" in a limo the night before we were married. I am grateful he waited 2 years to confess but believe me guys, the confessions of adultery whether or not it was while drunk or a one time thing is never a good idea. This can color all future "guys nights out" and every moment from confession onward your wife will wonder what kinds of trouble you are getting into. Trust is out the window.

  I am not saying that it is not a good idea to try to get it out of your system before you commit to marriage, but just remember that you might have your S.O. find out and try to remember that your having a bachelor party BECAUSE you are in love with someone and are about to marry them. I sometimes wonder if the bachelor party is nothing but a test of a guys resolve to actually get married. That could be a whole other topic.

  I hope a large number of people respond to this question because I am curious now to see what other women think and feel about the Bachelor Party or Bachelorette Party.

  Take Care-Rachel

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  Posted by Becca Wed Oct 22, 2008 2:26pm PDT

  I agree with you Rich. I think a small group of friends is the best thing to do, but then again I'm not a very wild, party type kind of girl. I love how you broke down the party, but I agree with B E L L O V E D about doing another post whether or not the bachelor/bachelorette parties are tests of faithfulness and love, or if it's a last chance to get wild and crazy with your buddies. Keep up the entertaining writing :)

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  Posted by Erika Wed Oct 22, 2008 2:38pm PDT

  I really enjoyed this article. I am currently engaged to my wonderful fiance of 2 years, and we are planning our wedding right now. Luckily, he respects me enough to not do anything such as: have strippers at his bachelor party. I never understood the stripper thing...Why would you want to get married to the woman you love the next day, but be cheating on her the night before with strippers. Whether you are doing something with them or not, it is the act of cheating, and I would never marry someone who would do that to me. Thank God he is enough respect for me to know that. And he chose to just have a bachelor party, where he goes up into the mountains with some of his work friends and his boss and go clay pigeon shooting. Fine by me. up in the mountains far away from strippers is where I would like him to be. Strippers are such an infidelity to relationships, and doing that at a bachelor party? It just would show me that the guy doesn't really want to get married to me, if he can't respect me enough to not have strippers naked and grinding on him at his bachelor party. Thank you, once again for this enlightening article.

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  Posted by elaine w Wed Oct 22, 2008 3:37pm PDT

  Interesting, but generally speaking....unless your guy frequents strip clubs, I wouldn't worry too much about infedelity to you....most of the time, strippers are hired to dance, get tips and leave. There's alot of big talk, but generally the groom to be just sits and laughs cuz all his friends are watching and he doesn't know what else to do! If a professional dancer is hired....they don't do the nasty stuff people think they do...it's more a laugh than anything else.....and if you wouldn't trust your man around one or twenty naked women...maybe you should think that your trust level should be discussed prior to tying the knot! Actually women tend to be more crazy with male strippers than men are with the female strippers! It just supposed to be a representation of leaving the wild life behind and starting his new life of no more wild women! Most men have never seen a stripper before their bachelor party!!And have you seen any of the shows on tv where the girls are not wearing a whole lot either! Nudism is not a big deal anymore!!Welcome to earth....2008

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  Posted by Steve Wed Oct 22, 2008 5:17pm PDT

  My take on this contraversial event is that it is only a party before one of the biggest decisions of your life, so be somewhat promiscious but not to the point where it could be construed as "cheatng". Get drunk with your friends, talk some s---, slap some stripperz ass and then wake up and keep accelerating forward.

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  Posted by Clint Wed Oct 22, 2008 6:25pm PDT

  right on elaine w! What you don't realize is how nasty strippers are until they dance in front of you. I gagged at least once at every bachelor party I've been to. It was mostly for a laugh and if anything completely degrading for women, which is really wrong. You girls should be more upset about being degraded than your guys being unfaithful.

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  Posted by marina Wed Oct 22, 2008 6:36pm PDT

  Wow, I gotta say it. I really respecty you. Personally, I don't like the idea of a bachelor party, and I worry about the day when my boyfriend actually will have one(sure, that'll probably be years from now.) I would panic or at least not be able to enjoy myself that night. I don't even have to question the fact that he's going to a strip club. His friends have been trying to get him to go to one, but he won't because of me. I hate them! I just...I don't know how to explain it. It just doesn't apeal to me... What do strippers mean to a guy who's getting married or has a girlfriend? My boyfriend says nothing, but then why would they pay money to see them strip for them when they could get a free show from someone they really care about with so much more meaning? For those of us who care about this, it makes us feel like we're not important to them. Sorry...I'm going on and on. I just don't want the other readers wondering why I'm making such a big deal out of this. The strip club thing for a bachelor party is more of a "last night of freedome" thing. I personaly think that that's pointless since before that they were most likely in a commited steady relationship. If you want to concider something like that a bachelor party then have it when you start getting serious. I agree with you; guys should sit and watch tv just hangin out with the guys.

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  Posted by marina Wed Oct 22, 2008 6:44pm PDT

  I don't even know if I'll have my own bachelorette party, and if I do, there certainly won't be male strippers. Unless my friends decide to suprize me. I hope not... Male strippers are not attractive to me because they can't really turn me on at all. I think the one that I actually care for would turn me on more because they mean so much to me. A male stripper would just have me wanting the one that I do care for wishing he was there and then get me dissapointed cuz I would know that he was drooling over some stripper girl when I'm bored.

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  Posted by JD Wed Oct 22, 2008 7:02pm PDT

  Give me a break...!!!! Why is it alway's "Tha Guy" thing...???? Ever heard of "Girls gone wild".....Please!!!!!!!!! Drunk...naked and more than likely getting it on with strangers....That very nite...Heard many stories of bachlorlette parties....that make us guys look like cub scouts.

  A guys "B" Party...is nothing to those "Look ma'...No top..."..!!!

  Glad and love to be single.... Have a good one ....Don't forget to "Tip"

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  Posted by joshua Wed Oct 22, 2008 7:42pm PDT

  I am sorry to say the main article reads like a self righteous 'look at what a nice guy i am' blog. It is my point of view that bachelor parties can be anything from gambling trips, strippers, or even camping. The general public assumes way too many things about bachelor parties from bad movies and cheesy sitcoms. I have been to a few bachelor parties and only one out of the ten i went actually had strippers, some were paint ball trips, back packing and sailing.

  FACT #1

  Any Hotel outside of Las Vegas and Reno will have no problem tossing a group of rowdy guys out for being loud and having strippers. Even flea bag motels will call the cops.

  FACT #2

  Strip Clubs hate hosting Bachelor Parties, too many drunk guys run out of money and turn into booze filled Apes and the clubs also have no problem tossing guys out on the side walk than calling the cops

  FACT #3

  Hotel Rooms, Bars, Strippers,Hookers, and Booze cost money, depending on your friends and how much they make it is cheaper to go camping.

  My advice is this and god forbid it make's sense, if you think your man or woman is gonna do something stupid. THAN I GUESS YOU REALLY DONT TRUST THEM DO YOU! It is so easy too assume a bachelor party is gonna be some drug, booze fueled orgy of mindless male bounding or your woman is gonna get a happy ending from a Chip N Dales hard hat. But it also might be a time that friends wish your lucky person a world of happiness and joy, stop renting movies and getting 'inside info' from people. just ask them, 'so what did yall do last night', keep in mind, your better half's mom will rat them out the first chance she gets.

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