If you're only going to reuse it on yourself, fine: go nuts. But if you're thinking of reusing it with a new partner? Our answer is always no, especially if it's a toy that can't be fully sterilized. But we still don't care how “hygienic” 100% silicone is or how it’s “totally safe if you boil it for a few minutes on the stove top” or how you can slap a condom on a non-porous toy: that's just plain disrespectful (and kinda gross) in our book. It’s kind of like recycling the sex-mix tape that your first true love made for you (please don’t tell us you’ve ever done that). We know sex toys are expensive—but, hey, hearts are precious, too, and we break those all the time.
If you ask us, regifting is only cool if the toy has never been used—and we’re talking not even out of its packaging. Who wants a toy that’s been manhandled, possibly dropped on the floor, or even licked by your dog?
The only exception to this etiquette guideline is this: you have a toy you've only ever used on yourself before that you'd like to introduce to your partner. Hey, some people need a helping hand to get off, even if they've got a partner with two willing, working hands. And your toy might very well be one of those high-end sex toys that’s worth at least half a pair of Manolos. You might be quite nervous about admitting your electronic needs to your partner, since doing so can feel like the equivalent of sharing a family secret or confessing to a love of reality TV. If this is the case, only a jerk would demand that you throw the toy out the window. But if the partner in question would simply prefer you not use your old-standby in their presence and then offers to replace your toy with a brand-new equivalent model -- at least for couple-time -- well, that’s just dandy.
But remember: any shared toys can spread STDs like gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis B, and trichomoniasis, especially in the moment. There are no definitive studies on the rates of infection via toys, but we would hope that the mere possibility is enough for you: so don't be passing that prop back and forth between naughty bits, without sterilizing it first or putting a fresh condom on it.
Oh, and if the toy in question is not specifically made for naughty bits, like say restraints or other kinky accoutrements, then as long as it is not coming into contact with bodily fluids or mucus membranes, it’s probably alright (i.e not poor form). For example, no need to get new fuzzy velcro cuffs for every partner so long as nobody got overly excited with their money shot the last time, if you you know what we mean. But when you start getting into paddle territory on bare bottoms, then it becomes a little iffy. We’d say err on the side of caution and get a new one — or just use your hand.
