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Sunday, November 29, 2009

What's Your Couple M.O.?

I have found that couples are happiest when they have a common M.O.  Unfortunately, some people choose to date or even marry someone with a different M.O.

My husband and I love to talk about and analyze relationships.  Here are some common M.O.s that we have discovered.

The Homebodies: These are people who like to stay home and read, watch TV, watch movies, or play computer games.  They are happiest ordering in and basically, not leaving the house.

The Night Owls:  These people want to go out and stay up late.  They are happiest at clubs, bars, or anyplace that is open until the wee-hours.

The Vactioners: People who are happiest when they are out of town.  They like to go on trips, travel to new places, and have new experiences.

The Party People: These types like to always have the party at their place.  They enjoy having people over and will use any excuse (birthday, job promotion, season, "hey it's Friday") to throw a party.

The Fitness Junkies: This is a group of people who always want to be involved in some sort of activity.  They are known for walking, jogging, biking, hiking, etc.  Just don't ask them to sit still.

The Artsy Folks: People who are at home in art galleries, museums, or in a theater.  They are most content when they are enjoying a cultural experience.

Obviously, some of us may fall into various categories.  Also, these aren't the only categories, but I think they are the most common.  So, where-in lies the problem?

The problem comes when you pair two people with different M.O.s and one or the other tries to change their partner.  For example, I know a couple where the husband is a Homebody and the wife is a Night Owl.  She wants to be out drinking and he wants to stay home and play computer games.  They fight a lot, because they both want the other person to change.

Can relationships be successful with different M.O.s?  Yes, but I think it makes things harder.  Basically, you aren't going to be doing a lot together and there will be friciton caused by your differing philosophies.  My advice, pick someone who shares your philosophy and don't try to change someone who doesn't.


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  • J Montana™'s Avatar
    Posted by J Montana™ Sun Oct 11, 2009 5:32pm PDT

    Great post!

    I really can't comment on the MO part..(dont know).

    This is great advice!!

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  • Emma Mae's Avatar
    Posted by Emma Mae Mon Oct 12, 2009 6:50am PDT

    Sarah, both Sweetums and I are home-party people, but seem to be happiest partying with just the two of us. Oh, others are invited but we tend to make a soical loop and then meet back up together, compare notes, then off on the loop again.

    We have had two conversations about our relationship in 5 and half years. I never question his motives or wonder if there are any underlying issues because I figure if he aint happy, he can go, and if I aint, I can go too..........lol Can you tell that I am not big into drama? I think I am more like that song, "Let it rip, let it fly, if you cant get over it, goodbye......." Maybe that isnt how the song goes but that is how I sing it.

    PLUS, He is too CUTE. So as long as he is happy to see me, I am happy to be with him. Besides kooky, can you tell me what my MO actually is???

    Hugs to you and yours

    Emma Mae

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  • Ginger's Avatar
    Posted by Ginger Mon Oct 12, 2009 9:07am PDT

    Great advice Sarah :) im finally back and have a new post up so check it out when you can :)

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  • Sarah Y's Avatar
    Posted by Sarah Y Mon Oct 12, 2009 3:49pm PDT

    Hey Emma Mae,

    Your Couple MO sounds like ours. We like to be home and together, but we like to have people over, too. I agree with you on the drama-free relationship. I don't like to argue over things and we are both very laid back (thank goodness). When we have the occasional spat, we resolve it quickly. For the most part, we just enjoy being together and I think that's what makes a relationship work: finding your best friend.

    Good to hear from you! I always like hearing your perspective :)

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  • Straightfoward(lovely lady)'s Avatar
    Posted by Straightfoward(lovely lady) Mon Oct 12, 2009 8:43pm PDT

    Thank you Sarah. Yes my daughter for sure has the swine flu and my son is showing signs tonight, so i will get him tested tomorrow. It's hit the school here and alot of kids have it!

    I hope you are doing really well! I will try and be on when i can this week and i will keep everyone posted!

    SF

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  • Allswell~DM~'s Avatar
    Posted by Allswell~DM~ Tue Oct 13, 2009 4:46am PDT

    Good Morning and Thank You for stopping!....lol...Don't worry about my bad side...it only comes out when I am provoked beyond reason! ;)....Have a great day sweetie!....Much Love Always...xoxo♥

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  • M.J - Fierce Beauty and Fashion's Avatar
    Posted by M.J - Fierce Beauty and Fashion Tue Oct 13, 2009 5:56am PDT

    My fiance and I's MO are homebodies now. When we first started dating we loved to stay out all night (and before I met him, I was a night owl to the fullest!). I think when you have different interests, (and we do!) you just have to compromise and so some things you may not do just because it makes a partner happy. And who knows? You may find something you like that you never thought of trying! (My fiance has me hooked on cooking shows and he's hooked on my reality shows!)

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  • J Montana™'s Avatar
    Posted by J Montana™ Tue Oct 13, 2009 6:26am PDT

    Miss Mary had a Steamboat

    The Steamboat had a bell

    miss Mary went to Heaven

    The Steamboat went to

    Hello operator

    Connect me 409

    And if you don't connect me,

    I'll kick you right

    behind the refrigerator

    there was a piece if glass

    Miss Mary sat right on it

    and cut her little

    ask me no more questions,

    tell me no more lies

    miss Mary told me a lie

    the day before she died died died

    Bo-bo ski watten totten,

    Ah-ah-ah, boom boom boom

    Itty bitty wotten totten

    Bo bo ski watten tatten

    Bo bo ski wotten tatten-BOOM.

    Grand Tuesday to you!

    Much Love and have a great day!

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  • Peapod's Avatar
    Posted by Peapod Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:57am PDT

    HelloOoOo Sarah. Great topic. Hmmm....common M.O.....Well, for us, it's our love of animals, music, and political beliefs. But unfortunately, we don't see eye to eye things that really matters like religion and raising children. So it's been a struggle. Some days I don't know if we are coming or going. We have been together 22 years.

    My brother came and went and it was a great visit!! I was glad he came on his own because it gave us all a chance to really chat with each other. Hopefully, we won't let so much time go by to visit one another. Thanks for asking : )

    Hope you also had a nice weekend.

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  • Emma Mae's Avatar
    Posted by Emma Mae Tue Oct 13, 2009 12:09pm PDT

    Sarah, the show is on Thursday night but it moved to Lifetime. It used to be on Bravo.

    AND you can catch up on all the past episode by watching them on

    http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/shows/project-runway/video

    also they are running a contest called Make it work. You get to MEET TIM and go shopping. It is located under sweepstakes,

    http://projectrunwaysweeps.com/landing.asp

    Have fun playing and if you win, I want a pic of you and Tim!!!!!!!!!!

    Emma Mae

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